Does your woman emasculate you?

[Rainman4707]

Still reading Rollo..

He says that ' men like to think sexual intercourse will always be avialable with their partner/long term girlfriend, but the reality is, it is'nt.

Me personally...the woman i've been seeing for the last four years is ALWAYS open to sex with me. She has NEVER turned me down. She may have a lot of negatives, but always gives me what i demand. ANYTHING.

How about the rest of guys on here??

 

[RoadKing_Rabbit]

I'm actually curious about that too. Because even a plate that has been told we're not exclusive and they have a high interest level has for the most part been good, game, willing.

It'd be interesting to hear Rollo's take on it. Maybe we should ask? From what I gather, he doesn't report having that issue either. He might for all we know, but I wouldn't blame him in the least for not disclosing it even if it is the case. I've got my own peaked curiosity about some stuff he'll occasionally say about certain named women. Heh. I digress.

TLDR, I don't have that issue. I've had that issue with a few LTRs and one ex wife, but I broke up with them over it. The ex wife made it easy and ran off to another state.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

Still reading Rollo..

He says that ' men like to think sexual intercourse will always be avialable with their partner/long term girlfriend, but the reality is, it is'nt.

Me personally...the woman i've been seeing for the last four years is ALWAYS open to sex with me. She has NEVER turned me down. She may have a lot of negatives, but always gives me what i demand. ANYTHING.

How about the rest of guys on here??

If she has a lot of negatives then you are simply putting up with red flags for sex which almost never is a smart decision in the end.

 

[Rainman4707]

If she has a lot of negatives then you are simply putting up with red flags for sex which almost never is a smart decision in the end.

That is off topic and i don't want to derail the thread. However, you're right; My family and friends have warned me for years to stop seeing her. Just need to find the strength to do it.

 

[RoadKing_Rabbit]

That is off topic and i don't want to derail the thread. However, you're right; My family and friends have warned me for years to stop seeing her. Just need to find the strength to do it.

Oh, so this is ongoing? Yikes! I thought negatives meant personality traits or undesirable quirks. If we're talking serious negatives, I would agree to that point.

On topic though, there have been plenty of women who were walking red flags that could never get enough of me. Not that I ever tried, but I imagine if I had told each one to wear a pink fluffy suit and put an apple in their mouth, they would have. lol Before I knew anything about anything that walked on two legs that didn't have a swinging appendage between them and was hopelessly shy and introverted, it was tough.

Once after I had enough confidence to be physical though, it was really weird. Women would want it. Not that I didn't want to have sex, quite the opposite. But I never had to actually ask for it or verbalize that I wanted it. Now to GET to that point, oh man. Didn't crack the scarcity mindset or oneitis until well after 30.

If I initiated while in an LTR/Marriage (aka mirage) and she acted disgusted or would sigh heavily or throw out some sort of silly excuse. Usually lead to an argument and ultimatum. Then a break up.

I think some guys are naturals where others aren't when it comes to certain pillars of seduction?

 

[Rainman4707]

I'm actually curious about that too. Because even a plate that has been told we're not exclusive and they have a high interest level has for the most part been good, game, willing.

It'd be interesting to hear Rollo's take on it. Maybe we should ask? From what I gather, he doesn't report having that issue either. He might for all we know, but I wouldn't blame him in the least for not disclosing it even if it is the case. I've got my own peaked curiosity about some stuff he'll occasionally say about certain named women.

Yeah, thats why i posted the thread. My previous woman of four years twisted sometimes about sex, but the woman i see now will do anything for me and never refuses.

 

[The Duke]

I've had multiple long term girlfriends and never had a woman emasulate me sexually or mentally. Women only do those sorts of things when they aren't attracted to you anymore.

 

[RoadKing_Rabbit]

I've had multiple long term girlfriends and never had a woman emasulate me sexually or mentally. Women only do those sorts of things when they aren't attracted to you anymore.

Took me ENTIRELY too long to figure that out. I felt better when I found out most don't.

 

[The Duke]

Took me ENTIRELY too long to figure that out. I felt better when I found out most don't.

I've had two short term girls stop during the middle of sex and act weird. When I asked what was wrong both got mad then told me I was doing it wrong. I almost laughed. In actuality, it had nothing to do with me and everything to do with the crazy in their heads. Both had showed their crazy a few times by then. It really boiled down to their interest level wasn't where it needed to be, but neither was strong enough to convey that.

 

[BaronOfHair]

How about the rest of guys on here??

Rollo's point, if I recall correctly, pretty much boils down to:

"Life is constantly in flux, INCLUDING your woman's ardor... She won't always be exactly as she is now, just as you won't be the man you currently are, 5 minutes into the future. And she's going to either move on to another dude, decide she's been gay the entire time/run off to San Francisco, or be one of the thousands incinerated alive while visiting The Empire State building. On the day the terrorists finally blow that damned thing up

So don't get too attached"

 

[The Duke]

Rollo's point, if I recall correctly, pretty much boils down to:

And she's going to either move on to another dude, decide she's been gay the entire time/run off to San Francisco, or be one of the thousands incinerated alive while visiting The Empire State building. On the day the terrorists finally blow that damned thing up

So don't get too attached"

lol reminds me of my exwife. One night she wanted to have sex with me so she could determine if she still had feelings for me. Mind you this is months after she had been ****ing some coworker and still at it although I didn't know at the time.

After our divorce she did a stint in Lesbianville before her second marriage to a bipolar drug addict who refused to work and was going to burn her house down.

After all that she concluded I was the best, she made a mistake, and wanted to know if I was still interested. LMFAO. State of flux was right.

 

[TheGambino]

Gtfo. If she does that shes out idc if shes a 10. The **** out of here

 

[BaronOfHair]

State of flux was right.

Yeah... Each time I'm surprised by the sight of a fella being horrified over his woman changing drastically, in comparison to the gal he initially fell for, I have to remind myself:

"Put most men into an actual gunfight... They'll give wielding two 9mms at once a whirl, all because they've seen it done successfully a few million times on film or in a video game. If they DO manage to clip one of their opponents in the chest during this melee, they'll then be baffled by said opponent continuing to fight on, rather than falling to the ground dead or flying a thousand feet backwards, after taking a SINGLE round from a HANDGUN

Despite the fact that one hardly needs to be a decorated combat veteran to recognize that ballistics, in practice, bear about as much resemblance to their fictional depictions as downtown Baghdad does to South Beach during Spring Break... A very basic Google search (

For starters) dispells all these myths, in less than half an hour

It's actually then quite FOOLISH to expect these same fellas to be any less dim-witted, in regards to the way the birds and the bees operate out in the wild, as opposed to in Rom Coms and flicks from The So-Called Disney Renaissance. The later of which was really an egregious artistic and intellectual regression, the likes of which our civilization is still reeling from, this many decades on"

 

[BackInTheGame78]

While withholding sex is one of the ways this happens, it's not the only way...and withholding sex mainly depends on their intent...if there is something physically bothering them or they aren't in the mood one day, etc, it's different than intentionally doing it to withhold intimacy from the man.

Essentially any behavior that is meant to belittle, disrespect or make a man feel powerless is considered emasculating.

 

[Barrister]

OP,

You seem to be talking about two different things. A woman losing interest in sex and outright “emasculating” her man are not the same thing. The first is part of a slow fade in most LTRs and generally will happen even in the best of relationships. The second is an outright form of disrespect. Now, a woman can certainly use sex or lack thereof to emasculate the man, but the two are not one in the same per se.

Most women will keep their sex drives in high gear with the man the less hooks they have in him. Let her move in? Notice less sex. Get married? Notice less sex. Have kids? Less sex. Notice the pattern that the more you have committed the less you get. Now have these elements present over the course of years and you can wind up in a dead bedroom.

 

[RoadKing_Rabbit]

OP,

You seem to be talking about two different things. A woman losing interest in sex and outright “emasculating” her man are not the same thing. The first is part of a slow fade in most LTRs and generally will happen even in the best of relationships. The second is an outright form of disrespect. Now, a woman can certainly use sex or lack thereof to emasculate the man, but the two are not one in the same per se.

Definitely a good point. I agree wholeheartedly that the second is mostly inexcusable and shouldn't be tolerated, lest it lead to her losing interest in sex. In either case, I'd say even if she's doing it and trying to hide it, the relationship is on borrowed time.

 

[Dash Riprock]

her second marriage to a bipolar drug addict who refused to work and was going to burn her house down.

This guy was probably 6'2, skinny, lots of tattoos, long unkempt hair, no money, no job, no car, police record, 4 roommates -----> CHICK MAGNET.

I wish I was kidding.

 

[Bokanovsky]

Still reading Rollo..

He says that ' men like to think sexual intercourse will always be avialable with their partner/long term girlfriend, but the reality is, it is'nt.

Me personally...the woman i've been seeing for the last four years is ALWAYS open to sex with me. She has NEVER turned me down. She may have a lot of negatives, but always gives me what i demand. ANYTHING.

How about the rest of guys on here??

I don't know why people still listen to Rollo. He is nothing more than a mental masturbator. Here's a married guy who advocated against the concept of marriage. That's like a pedophile advocating against child abuse.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

OP,

You seem to be talking about two different things. A woman losing interest in sex and outright “emasculating” her man are not the same thing. The first is part of a slow fade in most LTRs and generally will happen even in the best of relationships. The second is an outright form of disrespect. Now, a woman can certainly use sex or lack thereof to emasculate the man, but the two are not one in the same per se.

Most women will keep their sex drives in high gear with the man the less hooks they have in him. Let her move in? Notice less sex. Get married? Notice less sex. Have kids? Less sex. Notice the pattern that the more you have committed the less you get. Now have these elements present over the course of years and you can wind up in a dead bedroom.

They can be but they don't have to be. A woman who continuously denies the man WITH THE INTENTION of denying him for no reason other than because she has no interest anymore and it's a constant thing IS emasculating.

But if it's just a random thing where she isn't in the mood that day or isn't feeling good or whatever then that's different. The intent is key.

 

[Travel memoir21]

Women are natural demasculizers man….I deal with it with my mother daily, you can just imagine what it would be like if I were to partake in the wrong type of relationship.