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The text exchange would make me skeptical.

There used to be some forums dedicated to this type of dating and what happened once they moved these girls to the USA. I would join those. Sorry, can't remember the names of them.

I remember the general consensus for success in these situations was:
-When you go overseas, have multiple women lined up to visit because some will flake.
-Expect to make a few trips.
-Most will want to get a green card and get married.
-Most will want to visit their family in their home land once a year.
-The language/culture barriers makes it even harder.

With today's immigration climate, I would be concerned she couldn't visit the USA or it would be difficult.
Also would expect these women to use OP for what they need then expose the lack of game/frame and divorce to get with someone that makes their vaj-jay-jay tingle.

Hiding from becoming a better man can only delay the inevitable, it will never change the outcome.
 

Just because a woman listens to you and acts interested in what you say doesn't mean she really is. She might just be acting polite, while silently wishing that the date would hurry up and end, or that you would go away... and never come back.

Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.

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Also would expect these women to use OP for what they need then expose the lack of game/frame and divorce to get with someone that makes their vaj-jay-jay tingle.

Hiding from becoming a better man can only delay the inevitable, it will never change the outcome.
These are scams. Here's how you tell. You DO NOT pay to play. You do not send any money no matter what. Do not be on a site that charges more than normal monthly OLD fees like Bumble or Plenty of Fish.

My husband was on a Ukranian site a number of years ago and started getting the poor me sob stories. He is a very attractive man and simply refused to send any money (he liked EE women but has never had a pvssy shortage in his life....) so he thought he'd save on going out by doing the online thing. It was always the same song & dance. They all tried SO hard to get him invested in time, and effort and money. He refused on the money thing & kept banging girls locally so he was never desperate.

On some other international dating site he met a Canadian. She came to the states to see him (he wasn't going to spend the money to go to her.)....he's happy he didn't. Turns out she wasn't as pretty in person, and she too started in on the whole needing money thing. He sent her home & broke it off.

We watch the "Before the 90 Days" show (its cheaper than alot of other entertainment and a good way for him to see that even good relationships struggle...he actually likes & is fascinated by the show....) but he's always like, Oh yeah, that girl is working him...if she's even real. She's way too young & way too hot for him....she is going to take his money and never meet up. Its sad watching that play out, but these people are hooked usually on looks (by someone they could never obtain IRL.)

You see these scams know something. Basic human psychology is that we come to love what we invest in. Doesn't matter if it is real. When a person invests in a fantasy they fall in love with a fantasy. As they invest more and more they become totally ensnared and willing to be strung along for years giving money to the fantasy thinking they are in a relationship.

Types of investment:
1. Money
2. Time
3. Effort
4. Emotional energy
5. Travel to some remote locale and all the investment that entails.

These scams are PROs at getting people hooked.

If you are in small town AZ, move to a bigger metro and increase your social circles. You have to leave your house & off the couch. You need to have a social life.

There are plenty of attractive women in AZ. The online thing seems to good to be true because it mostly is.

Sadly we are watching my father in law get scammed by a girl half his age here in the US. Same excuses not to meet up (phone issues, sick, car accident/health BS)....but he is lonely and alone & at nearly 80 is giving this scammer girl so much money that he's already been evicted once, almost twice.....but there is nothing we can do. He is willingly giving her most of his fixed income....we do not live near him and its just a mess, he hangs up if we try to talk sense into him.

Its evil the way these women prey on lonely men.

Don't be one!!!!
 
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My husband was on a Ukranian site a number of years ago and started getting the poor me sob stories. He is a very attractive man and simply refused to send any money (he liked EE women but has never had a pvssy shortage in his life....) so he thought he'd save on going out by doing the online thing. It was always the same song & dance. They all tried SO hard to get him invested in time, and effort and money. He refused on the money thing & kept banging girls locally so he was never desperate.
Ukrainians have perfected the art of scamming westerners down to a science. They do it at a high level, having convinced Americans and Europeans to give them hundreds of billions of dollars, most of which have been stolen by corrupt government officials, and they also do on an individual level through dating/marriage scams. The OP is either desperate or extremely naive.
 
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Also would expect these women to use OP for what they need then expose the lack of game/frame and divorce to get with someone that makes their vaj-jay-jay tingle.

Hiding from becoming a better man can only delay the inevitable, it will never change the outcome.
My buddy and I once picked up 2 Russian girls at a bar And took them out on our motorcycles. Both were married to rich older white guys that brought them to the US. He ended up getting laid that nite, I didnt. They were very open with their situation and had little shame. It was disgusting to listen to.

Both sides are desperate/use each other and it rarely ends well.
 

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Ukrainians have perfected the art of scamming westerners down to a science. They do it at a high level, having convinced Americans and Europeans to give them hundreds of billions of dollars, most of which have been stolen by corrupt government officials, and they also do on an individual level through dating/marriage scams. The OP is either desperate or extremely naive.
This post reminds me of the one from last November, where a guy wanted to bring a girl from Costa Rica, pay for everything—including the hotel, round-trip airfare, and all their activities over the weekend in New York—just for some sex.

I think some people just have that “F U” money they don't mind if they are taken advantage of.

Girl flying into town - pay for hotel? | SoSuave Discussion Forum
 

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This post reminds me of the one from last November, where a guy wanted to bring a girl from Costa Rica, pay for everything—including the hotel, round-trip airfare, and all their activities over the weekend in New York—just for some sex.

I think some people just have that “F U” money they don't mind if they are taken advantage of.

Girl flying into town - pay for hotel? | SoSuave Discussion Forum
No matter how much money you have, being taken advantage of can't feel particularly good.
 

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These are scams. Here's how you tell. You DO NOT pay to play. You do not send any money no matter what. Do not be on a site that charges more than normal monthly OLD fees like Bumble or Plenty of Fish.

My husband was on a Ukranian site a number of years ago and started getting the poor me sob stories. He is a very attractive man and simply refused to send any money (he liked EE women but has never had a pvssy shortage in his life....) so he thought he'd save on going out by doing the online thing. It was always the same song & dance. They all tried SO hard to get him invested in time, and effort and money. He refused on the money thing & kept banging girls locally so he was never desperate.

On some other international dating site he met a Canadian. She came to the states to see him (he wasn't going to spend the money to go to her.)....he's happy he didn't. Turns out she wasn't as pretty in person, and she too started in on the whole needing money thing. He sent her home & broke it off.

We watch the "Before the 90 Days" show (its cheaper than alot of other entertainment and a good way for him to see that even good relationships struggle...he actually likes & is fascinated by the show....) but he's always like, Oh yeah, that girl is working him...if she's even real. She's way too young & way too hot for him....she is going to take his money and never meet up. Its sad watching that play out, but these people are hooked usually on looks (by someone they could never obtain IRL.)

You see these scams know something. Basic human psychology is that we come to love what we invest in. Doesn't matter if it is real. When a person invests in a fantasy they fall in love with a fantasy. As they invest more and more they become totally ensnared and willing to be strung along for years giving money to the fantasy thinking they are in a relationship.

Types of investment:
1. Money
2. Time
3. Effort
4. Emotional energy
5. Travel to some remote locale and all the investment that entails.

These scams are PROs at getting people hooked.

If you are in small town AZ, move to a bigger metro and increase your social circles. You have to leave your house & off the couch. You need to have a social life.

There are plenty of attractive women in AZ. The online thing seems to good to be true because it mostly is.

Sadly we are watching my father in law get scammed by a girl half his age here in the US. Same excuses not to meet up (phone issues, sick, car accident/health BS)....but he is lonely and alone & at nearly 80 is giving this scammer girl so much money that he's already been evicted once, almost twice.....but there is nothing we can do. He is willingly giving her most of his fixed income....we do not live near him and its just a mess, he hangs up if we try to talk sense into him.

Its evil the way these women prey on lonely men.

Don't be one!!!!
nice post
 

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Why she’s said let’s meet in Warsaw. Are they really as crazy about scams as I’ve seen? She has sent pictures of her learning how to do hair extensions the last week or two. Wants to move, her best friend just moved away to Belarus. We talk quite a bit. One sketchy thing is we have only video called once. I’ve read all the posts/seen the videos talking about how it could be a guy that’s using a girls pictures but I know it’s not that. She’s sent plenty of pictures in real time during the convo. The video call was set up real quick because she was proving she is real not a scammer since I called her out on something suspicious. Says her dad is supposed to get a new phone for her, but the phone she has now has an issue with the speaker. Sketchy but she does seem shy so maybe just not her thing. My Latvian friend said how she watches 90 day fiancé and the broken phone excuse is very common so this is one thing I’m going to bring up to the experts
Poland seems to allow any Belarussian to move there and become a resident (I guess the idea is that a big chunk of Belarus was part of Poland in the interwar period), but they have to find a job to stay.
 

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O Lordy, seen this play out multiple times.

A buddy got kinda desperate after his marriage fizzled, wouldn't listen to us and we knew how it would end.
"She" got him all excited enough to pay for her plane ticket, and of course he never got to meet her in person.
What sucks most is that the outcome was plain as day, but the guy was too sold on the fantasy and just wanted to believe.

Worse could happen though.. you might get as far as Warsaw and come back minus a kidney..
 

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O Lordy, seen this play out multiple times.

A buddy got kinda desperate after his marriage fizzled, wouldn't listen to us and we knew how it would end.
"She" got him all excited enough to pay for her plane ticket, and of course he never got to meet her in person.
What sucks most is that the outcome was plain as day, but the guy was too sold on the fantasy and just wanted to believe.

Worse could happen though.. you might get as far as Warsaw and come back minus a kidney..
I’ve been thinking the kidney thing is a possibility

As far as plane tickets, she’s taking the bus from Ukraine to Warsaw and showed me already it’s like $40. If she wants me to pay $40 to get her there that’s normal for their culture from all I’ve read
 

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Live in a smallish town in AZ now. Mostly retirees, younger women here either have kids or lots of tattoos/piercings or both. The good quality ones are taken or have a huge ego
Find a señorita. I'm sure there are other towns or metro areas nearby.
 

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I’ve been thinking the kidney thing is a possibility

As far as plane tickets, she’s taking the bus from Ukraine to Warsaw and showed me already it’s like $40. If she wants me to pay $40 to get her there that’s normal for their culture from all I’ve read
The point is you want her to invest. If she is paying $40 to catch the train & you are paying 3K to fly to Poland, who is investing? She needs to pay the $40.

This is not a good idea. I mean FFS there are Ukrainian women in Phoenix metro.
 

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The point is you want her to invest. If she is paying $40 to catch the train & you are paying 3K to fly to Poland, who is investing? She needs to pay the $40.

This is not a good idea. I mean FFS there are Ukrainian women in Phoenix metro.
Totally get that point. I just spent an hour with a couple that run a membership service for Ukrainian dating. Set it up because obviously they will know more about all this than me. And they could have just told me she’s a scammer and I should just sign up for their site. Showed them all the things I saw as suspicious and they didn’t think I should be too worried about any of it. They are having me send her ID, email, phone number and address that I already have so they can look into her.

I also have another call scheduled for Thursday morning with another similar site to see what they think too. In the mean time just started talking to another girl yesterday too lol local, but has a kid. I’m fine with it with the right woman at this point since now I have a daughter my own daughter’s mom has 2 other kids that weren’t mine.
 

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Totally get that point. I just spent an hour with a couple that run a membership service for Ukrainian dating. Set it up because obviously they will know more about all this than me. And they could have just told me she’s a scammer and I should just sign up for their site. Showed them all the things I saw as suspicious and they didn’t think I should be too worried about any of it. They are having me send her ID, email, phone number and address that I already have so they can look into her.

I also have another call scheduled for Thursday morning with another similar site to see what they think too. In the mean time just started talking to another girl yesterday too lol local, but has a kid. I’m fine with it with the right woman at this point since now I have a daughter my own daughter’s mom has 2 other kids that weren’t mine.
So now you are showing you have a habit of making poor dating decisions...

Having a kid with a woman that already has 2 kids that aren't yours? Yikes.

Now trying to get women from a different country as if it's an "easy button" for whatever issues that are causing you problems dating here?

There is no easy button in life that doesn't come with significant consequences.
 
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So now you are showing you have a habit of making poor dating decisions...

Having a kid with a woman that already has 2 kids that aren't yours? Yikes.

Now trying to get women from a different country as if it's an "easy button" for whatever issues that are causing you problems dating here?

There is no easy button in life that doesn't come with significant consequences.
Ya man, if you haven’t dealt with real narcissistic personality disorder/borderline don’t think you’ll understand and I’m not gunna even try to explain. She picked me as her target. After dealing with her it changed a lot for me.

This is kinda the opposite of an easy button. I’m flying across the world to see if she checks out as a real person. After that I’ll fly out there again a couple months later. After that then I can do paperwork for her to come visit here and see if she likes it. Then all the paperwork and interviews to make sure it’s a legit relationship if she were to try to move here. Nothing easy about it. Easy would be settling for the tatted up trashy women that are most common around here, but I’d rather be alone than settle for that because at this point I can be happy with it just being my daughter and I if that’s what life ends up being. Best way I can put it is if I’m standing in front of McDonald’s and I want a steak, do I go into McDonald’s and wait around for a steak that’ll never come? Or drive across town to a steakhouse. Based on personal experience (Latvian raised girl I know and the girl raised in Novosibirsk) it’s worth taking a flight to find out if this chick in Ukraine is legit. If not, I have enough money to not worry about the cost of going. The couple I met with tonight just said make sure not to go anywhere secluded like hiking, and get two hotel rooms. Being plenty cautious about it.
 
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