“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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I think there is an appreciable portion of mid-tier (i.e., sub-Becky) women that think they are Sugar-Baby-tier

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“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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Because hot guys on a random dry spell will pump and dump them and offer them no relationship but that's what they think is their baseline guy that they are "deserving of" for a relationship so they hold out for that and keep getting pumped and dumped instead.
 
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(I had posted in a different sub here about me encountering a Sugar couple, motivating me to dig deeper.)

Here are a bunch of profiles of chicks that think they are Sugar-tier, but I have yet to see one that is even Becky-tier (which I would say should be the absolute bare minimum):

All, yes, all, of those women pictured can have an assortment of men, including sugar daddies. Their ordinary looks are no hindrance.
 

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They as a gender fail to realize that when a guy grant sex to a woman is not the same badge of honor/value existing when one of them grant non committed sex to a man.

They fail to realize that having sex with a girl for us only demands the same low standard that they demand from a beta guy who wants to buy them dinner...we just get the free offer than leave without reciprocating.

Have a plain jane being banged from a high value tipsy guy during a drunk one night stand and she will be forever convinced that they are in the same league even if he disappears right after dumping his load on her.

She will reframe it as him being "emotionally unavaiable" rather than punching above her weightclass.
 

What happens, IN HER MIND, is that she comes to see you as WORTHLESS simply because she hasn't had to INVEST anything in you in order to get you or to keep you.

You were an interesting diversion while she had nothing else to do. But now that someone a little more valuable has come along, someone who expects her to treat him very well, she'll have no problem at all dropping you or demoting you to lowly "friendship" status.

Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.

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Instagram, Facebook and tinder allowed almost 2 generations of women acess to a pool of digital global male attention

Men on the whole always have and always will lean on the side of being desperate for sex when you amplify this on such a scale as social media did whilst simultaneously letting normal women stoke the fires by posting highly provocative images 24 hours a day its easy to see where things have gone wrong

I would argue though that women have created a rod for their own backs

The competition for female beauty / attractiveness / male simp orbiters has now gone to ridiculous levels and you can see even the average 6's and 7's are desperately trying to push themselves up to an 8

I think back to when I was a teen in the late 2000's , there would always be a chubby female or maybe a taller one in a group of girls that knew they were a bit different and often these would be low hanging fruit

Then you would have a ton of "plain janes" and inevitably one or two hot ones

I see groups of teen girls these days and they all look almost identical , all of them are dressed for the male gaze all of them almost equal in terms of attractiveness

I see this playing out again in the gym .... so many of these young women look almost identical.

I'm not sure where exactly all of this is heading because its clear men have not really followed suit in this race for the top
 

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Instagram, Facebook and tinder allowed almost 2 generations of women acess to a pool of digital global male attention

Men on the whole always have and always will lean on the side of being desperate for sex when you amplify this on such a scale as social media did whilst simultaneously letting normal women stoke the fires by posting highly provocative images 24 hours a day its easy to see where things have gone wrong

I would argue though that women have created a rod for their own backs

The competition for female beauty / attractiveness / male simp orbiters has now gone to ridiculous levels and you can see even the average 6's and 7's are desperately trying to push themselves up to an 8

I think back to when I was a teen in the late 2000's , there would always be a chubby female or maybe a taller one in a group of girls that knew they were a bit different and often these would be low hanging fruit

Then you would have a ton of "plain janes" and inevitably one or two hot ones

I see groups of teen girls these days and they all look almost identical , all of them are dressed for the male gaze all of them almost equal in terms of attractiveness

I see this playing out again in the gym .... so many of these young women look almost identical.

I'm not sure where exactly all of this is heading because its clear men have not really followed suit in this race for the top
It's heading towards a smaller and smaller subset of men who are successfully able to access them.
 

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I'm not sure where exactly all of this is heading because its clear men have not really followed suit in this race for the top
A lot of women these days are basically asexual. I would guess it's around 50% for young women. Many men are following suit (mostly out of necessity). Where is this heading? Look at South Korea and Japan.
 

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Plenty of dudes with money have massive social anxiety and zero game.

So a fugly that pretends to be your affectionate girlfriend for a few grand a month is better than nothing.
 

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Instagram, Facebook and tinder allowed almost 2 generations of women acess to a pool of digital global male attention

Men on the whole always have and always will lean on the side of being desperate for sex when you amplify this on such a scale as social media did whilst simultaneously letting normal women stoke the fires by posting highly provocative images 24 hours a day its easy to see where things have gone wrong

I would argue though that women have created a rod for their own backs

The competition for female beauty / attractiveness / male simp orbiters has now gone to ridiculous levels and you can see even the average 6's and 7's are desperately trying to push themselves up to an 8

I think back to when I was a teen in the late 2000's , there would always be a chubby female or maybe a taller one in a group of girls that knew they were a bit different and often these would be low hanging fruit

Then you would have a ton of "plain janes" and inevitably one or two hot ones

I see groups of teen girls these days and they all look almost identical , all of them are dressed for the male gaze all of them almost equal in terms of attractiveness

I see this playing out again in the gym .... so many of these young women look almost identical.

I'm not sure where exactly all of this is heading because its clear men have not really followed suit in this race for the top
One thing I’d add is that women, in response to this environment, tend to invest heavily in increasing their “market value” early on, whether that’s appearance with surgeries, education, social skills, travel, or overall lifestyle, especially in their 20s.

Men, on the other hand, often lag behind in this phase. I think part of that is maturity: women are pushed (socially and biologically) to think ahead earlier, while many men don’t feel the same pressure until later. As a result, instead of adapting alongside these changes, a lot of men lose time and then feel blindsided by how competitive things have become.

Realistically, there’s no reason why men shouldn’t also invest time, effort, and money into themselves, whether that’s the gym, education, grooming, braces, hair transplants, fillers, skincare, a decent car, or financial stability. All of this helps a man break through a woman’s external barrier of makeup and glitter, which many are intimidated by, and reach what actually matters underneath.
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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A lot of women these days are basically asexual. I would guess it's around 50% for young women. Many men are following suit (mostly out of necessity). Where is this heading? Look at South Korea and Japan.
Probably because too many guys these days don't know how to bring that side out in them.
 

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They as a gender fail to realize that when a guy grant sex to a woman is not the same badge of honor/value existing when one of them grant non committed sex to a man.

They fail to realize that having sex with a girl for us only demands the same low standard that they demand from a beta guy who wants to buy them dinner...we just get the free offer than leave without reciprocating.

Have a plain jane being banged from a high value tipsy guy during a drunk one night stand and she will be forever convinced that they are in the same league even if he disappears right after dumping his load on her.

She will reframe it as him being "emotionally unavaiable" rather than punching above her weightclass.
They will also reframe it as him being intimidated by her success, intelligence, independence, or just overall badassness which we as men know isnt a thing at all but women seem to have convinced themselves is causing a societal crisis where men refuse to commit.
 

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Probably because too many guys these days don't know how to bring that side out in them.
I'm sure it's got nothing to do with widespread use of libido-suppressing drugs like birth control pills and SSRIs.
 

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I've used that SA website before (mostly as an experiment, used real pics and stuff, but claimed to be a millionaire) and it's full of ugly and fat women that think they have a chance above 0%. They don't seem to grasp the the simple concept of supply and demand: high value men (single, fit, good looking, and rich) are in extremely low supply, while women like them they are in infinite supply and have zero value to these men. This is particularly problematic in America. When I changed my search to other countries, (eg south america, eastern Europe) the calibre of women was totally different; they were are all thin and hot. American women are the most delusional and entitled on the planet.

Most high tier dudes wouldn't even fvck them let alone date them or be their sugar daddy. Women's egos have been inflated so much it's hard to overstate.

It doesn't help that most men are total simps who are so desperate that they'll happily fvck 3s and 4s and pedastalize mids.
 
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I'm sure it's got nothing to do with widespread use of libido-suppressing drugs like birth control pills and SSRIs.
I'd say it has more to do with the average 22 year old male having Testosterone levels of a 70 year old from the 1960s.

I've never forgotten what a girlfriend of mine once told me...

"I might not be in the mood at a given time but there is nothing saying that you can't help get me in the mood..."

That all stems from a man being able to lead...it revolves around all areas in life and relationships, not just the ones people fixated on like of the girl meets at his choice and follows him to another place, etc...

But that's another sign of low testosterone...lack of aggression, confidence, etc which ultimately shows up in being unable to properly lead in a way that gets results.
 
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I'd say it has more to do with the average 22 year old male having Testosterone levels of a 70 year old from the 1960s.

I've never forgotten what a girlfriend of mine once told me...

"I might not be in the mood at a given time but there is nothing saying that you can't help get me in the mood..."

That all stems from a man being able to lead...it revolves around all areas in life and relationships, not just the ones people fixated on like of the girl meets at his choice and follows him to another place, etc...

But that's another sign of low testosterone...lack of aggression, confidence, etc which ultimately shows up in being unable to properly lead in a way that gets results.
Blaming men for every relationship issue is an old and tired trope. I’m kind of surprised to hear a man make such a femcentric argument. Then again, maybe I shouldn’t be. As you said, testosterone levels have been declining for a long time.
 

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Blaming men for every relationship issue is an old and tired trope. I’m kind of surprised to hear a man make such a femcentric argument. Then again, maybe I shouldn’t be. As you said, testosterone levels have been declining for a long time.
Not blaming them for every issue...it's accepting your responsibility for your failures and outcomes that you didn't want to happen.

Something far too few people actually do.

Before you point the finger elsewhere you always should point it at the person looking at you in the mirror to see where your personal accountability lies in the situation.

Not saying you have the ability to control every outcome, but most people have the ability to control far more than they accept responsibility for.

And FYI, my T levels are in the mid 900s for reference. Think I'm all good there.
 

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All, yes, all, of those women pictured can have an assortment of men, including sugar daddies. Their ordinary looks are no hindrance.
Many men get extremely frustrated by and envious of women being the more sexually powerful sex.

Eg, “This mid thinks she’s an 8. She’s just gonna get pumped and dumped.” Pretty much the @whatever podcast is a reflection of this and manifestation of this. “All ya’ll OF models is gonna hit da wall and the rest of ya’ll are just mids. Heehee, men are gonna have the last laugh.”

Also, “the average guy can’t match on apps.” (Sniffle, cry, sniffle.)
 

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Not blaming them for every issue...it's accepting your responsibility for your failures and outcomes that you didn't want to happen.

Something far too few people actually do.
Agreed.

Before you point the finger elsewhere you always should point it at the person looking at you in the mirror to see where your personal accountability lies in the situation.
Also agreed.

Not saying you have the ability to control every outcome, but most people have the ability to control far more than they accept responsibility for.
And then there are people who greatly overestimate their ability to control outcomes. The illusion of control is a type of cognitive bias. It is harmful because it makes people waste their mental and physical resources on attempts to control things that are difficult or impossible to control (i.e. the actions of other people) and suffer great disappointment when their efforts inevitably fail.

The PUA philosophy is largely based on the illusion of control and "what could have been". Every failure could have been avoided if only you said the right words in the right way at the right time.
 

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Agreed.


Also agreed.


And then there are people who greatly overestimate their ability to control outcomes. The illusion of control is a type of cognitive bias. It is harmful because it makes people waste their mental and physical resources on attempts to control things that are difficult or impossible to control (i.e. the actions of other people) and suffer great disappointment when their efforts inevitably fail.

The PUA philosophy is largely based on the illusion of control and "what could have been". Every failure could have been avoided if only you said the right words in the right way at the right time.
Not talking about other people, I am talking about controlling what you can control. Namely your physical appearance/fitness, the way you dress, your actions, escalating at the proper time, etc.

Most people are not near their potential in most of the areas of things they have control of for themselves, and if you are under 50% in multiple areas, you are trying to play life and relationships on hard mode.
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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