Just turned 28 and holy **** how did I get here? Time flies and it’s going by faster. I’ve decided on a career path and have my body in check along with knowing which girls are good and bad (I have a gf now). What are some things you wished you knew in your 20s or 30s that I’d you did your life would be significantly better? Please no bitter outlooks unless it’s to marriage which I’m NOT doing.
The older you get the happier or bitter you become. How did you live your life and what regrets did you have?
Friends are just colleagues, "friendships" are in fact situansionships with people with similar interests and in situansions that help to stay connected - once your interest will collide with interest of your "friend", you will watch your friendship gradually dissolve into nothingness. Family is much more important - still, be prepared for ppl in your family that will not understand it.
Helping others can get you into troubles and person you are helping will often show no gratitude.
Negative emotions are stronger than positive emotions. Do not harm people that are your close ones.
People that envy you will not like you and may despise you even more if you will act positively towards them.
If you will have a lot of things in your life already in check, some ppl will start to dislike you therefore it is better to keep your private life private and stay away from social media.
Great looking women are almost never worth your effort as development of personality and character requires struggle and negative experiences, while they are constantly offered with positive experience and confirmation of their current state of being and opportunities for free. Eventually, it leads to erosion of character unless they had strong parental figure which is unlikely these days. It is better to date just a good looking woman but fully developed in terms of personality or education than egocentric 10/10 looks woman with personality of 15y old self-entitled princess as relationship is much more about living life together, than just having sex.
Wrong choice of persons around you will cost you this way or the other.
Be responsible and "do not **** where you eat".
Do not take credit/loans for things other than your own house/apartment.
Lead in relationship with woman.
Stay away from women with emotional baggage. Women are permanently imprinted by it and are poor in using their negative or mixed experience in positive way (that's why they prefer or require counselling more often than men do). Women after long bad relationship or series of negative value relationshis will often go into "damaged goods" mode and will seek for help but still relive (miss) the waves of strong emotions connected with their experience, which will act as destructive force for them and people around them. Due to the above-mentioned, younger women are much easier to deal with, more positive about you or life and simply more attractive.
Women that had more responsible parents these days may stay virgins until past college years, but usually every attractive woman will have at least one sexual partner before she will reach 28.
Its generally better to be with a younger woman - it will also decrease your own less attractive emotions such as envy about guys with younger attractive women or your own interest in cheating.
Depending on your choices, abilities, intelligence or social starting position, you will reach your top SMV around 35 which is the optimal age of forming succesful LTR. Unless you will become wealthy, it will start falling down by few percents around your 38 year of life or so. It will fall down gradually (significantly) after 45, no matter what amount of money you will have.
You may never reach your throretical peak SMV if you will not keep your health in check.
Evade women with BPD, love-bombers, attention seekers, women that will want to keep you as their "friend" (in fact, a social tool). Only woman friend you should treat as true friend is a woman that is sleeping with you in agreed LTR.
Marriage is a transaction that may be worth to consider at some point, as its not only about love but also about raising children in stable environment (im several years, if you will meet the right woman, you may consider having children).
You are still in period in which you can easily study and remember new things as well as you have time for personal development - use this time to obtain more hard skills.
Pay to gain hard skills if you can afford it. Learn soft skills for free, but commit your time to develop them (think about results of your and others behaviour, what were the results or mistakes, how you coud act differently) and build up this experience.
Do not be afraid of making mistakes, but do not stay in mistake/stay mistaken.
Do not play around with other people. Even if you can get away with it, it will affect you as a person in negative way - its not about others opinion but about you - you need to like yourself to stay efficient in life.
Keep working out at least twice a week. You will thank yourself later.
Do not live above your means. Do not be cheapskate either.
When you spend money and decide about quality of item you buy vs price, the best result vs money spent is going for above-average quality item (6+ to 7/10). If quality is irrelevant, go for the cheapest option.
Pay USD 2000 for dentist now to evade paying 10000 few years later.
