How to act around women?

[JuanSama]

I've been attending various events lately, but one thing I can't figure out is how to act around women because my default mode is to not display any sexual attraction, and I tend to take their word seriously, as well as use a lot of logic in my conversations.

In his Mode One book, Alan Roger Currie suggested some X-Rated movies where the start will tease and grope women a lot. He claimed that this is how men should be acting. But in today, where sexual harassment charges can be fatal, I'm not sure if this is valid advice or not.

My social circle consists of incels and married blue pilled guys, so I don't have anyone to mimic either. Are there any movies or other resources I could use to learn how to actually act around women?

 

[Prepostereax]

default mode is to not display any sexual attraction

That's fine, this is your comfort zone.
Just go for the fun of it, without expecting any action.
You aren't going to be sweeping anyone off their feet..

Which is to say, you're not at the stage where you can create opportunities,
But you should be prepared to take advantage of opportunities as they arise.

It's important to be able to escalate when/if a woman shows signs of potential interest.
So be well rested when you attend these events.

Don't go straight after a hard day at work, do something that's fun or chill for you before you go, to get you in a positive mood
(Eg listening to whatever tracks get you hyped.. but probably not playing video games, if that's what you're into, as that can get frustrating..)

Women are more attracted by your overall vibe, energy level, than what you say or do.

 

[JuanSama]

It's important to be able to escalate when/if a woman shows signs of potential interest.

That's my problem. I almost never escalate. For example, there was one woman who would constantly touch me while speaking, and she would cut in my conversation with other people. I thought she might be interested but I didn't do anything. We even exchanged numbers but I think she might have thought that I was too much of a pvssy, so I didn't bother texting her.

Another example was when I was chatting with this women for 45 minutes. We vibed quite a bit and I seriously wanted to fvck her right there. But I didn't do anything. When it was time to leave, I said goodbye, but I had to pee so I went to the restroom. When I got out, she was waiting smiling. She might have wanted to hang out some more. But I wasn't sure, so I just said goodbye and told her we should keep in touch. She looked disappointed and when I texted her the next day, she didn't reply, of course.

Dunno if I'm overthinking this, but I think I'm missing out on some opportunities there.

 

[Hamurabimbi]

'My social circle consists of incels and married blue pilled guys,'


LOL. That's pretty much my social circle as well.

 

[Plinco]

I would also suggest paying attention to your thought process and see if you feel any guilt or shame associated with your sexuality. Usually when men fail to escalate, it's because they feel some degree of shame with sex. Usually the shame comes from religion, popular culture, or from women in their attempt to emasculate you.

 

[Scaramouche]

Hi Juan,
You don't need Plinco or anyone here,to sort out your problems,you have worked it all out yourself...You overthink!.... Her anticipated reactions are all worked out from a Male perspective,but they think differently!...You have her number,give her a ring today,She will be alone and probably lonely as Hell...How was Christmas?She will respond you just have to let it flow.

 

[zekko]

I'd say show playful interest but without getting overeager, serious, desperate, or needy.

 

[JuanSama]

I would also suggest paying attention to your thought process and see if you feel any guilt or shame associated with your sexuality. Usually when men fail to escalate, it's because they feel some degree of shame with sex. Usually the shame comes from religion, popular culture, or from women in their attempt to emasculate you.

I actually feel like that. Basically, I feel like it's wrong to want sex and I don't want the women to have a bad image of me. I noticed that I tend to avoid eye contact with women in public for that same reason. I don't want them to think that I'm checking them out, even though that's exactly what I'd like to do. That's my thought process. I know is BS but it's something I gotta work on. Any tips or resources I could use to explore this issue further?

 

[HaleyBaron]

You can't fake it. You need a lot of practice being comfortable around women. You have to stop fearing them, too or the consequences. Women will complain but unless you do something actually criminal, nothing can actually happen to you. I have been through my share of social circle gossiping and rumor mill that decrease people inviting me to stuff, but the women like me more than ever. They effectively made me into the bad boy without me trying so it can only help you. However if you are around married types, I'd find that miserable. Too much potential for drama and flirting can destroy someone due to jealously.

 

[Hal9000]

Personality wise you'd ideally like to land somewhere between Christian Grey and Han Solo. However if that isnt you at all you should just focus on being yourself and not overthink every interaction. Women want to enjoy speaking with you so if everything you say sounds mechanical or calculated you won't be doing yourself any favors. Id focus on bringing the most fun and positive energy you can authentically muster to any female interaction more than anything else.

 

[Plinco]

I actually feel like that. Basically, I feel like it's wrong to want sex and I don't want the women to have a bad image of me. I noticed that I tend to avoid eye contact with women in public for that same reason. I don't want them to think that I'm checking them out, even though that's exactly what I'd like to do. That's my thought process. I know is BS but it's something I gotta work on. Any tips or resources I could use to explore this issue further?

Think of it this way, when you're having sex with her, she's going to enjoy it too. Your giving her pleasure.

 

[Gamisch]

You can't fake it. You need a lot of practice being comfortable around women. You have to stop fearing them, too or the consequences. Women will complain but unless you do something actually criminal, nothing can actually happen to you. I have been through my share of social circle gossiping and rumor mill that decrease people inviting me to stuff, but the women like me more than ever. They effectively made me into the bad boy without me trying so it can only help you. However if you are around married types, I'd find that miserable. Too much potential for drama and flirting can destroy someone due to jealously.

I always say a man gotta understand that most women ain't shyte.

Looks are literally something they can manufacture at will. So how she looks is just a very small portion of who she really is.

But again: a man must go through all phases before he reaches a point where he can see through women. Falling in love believing she is the One, Cohabitation, , getting played , then come back being a player, break some hearts, ect.

I'd also advise to get a goal that soooo much bigger than getting women. Something that's so huge that you can't bother if "she" wil stay or not.

Finally I'd say have abundance. Have a woman you cab feck at will so you are less thirsty. Yes this might even be a " woman with lesser HB power" sometimes..

 

[sevbucmash]

Picture you have a big dong hanging out of your pants suspended by some rope on a stick, right in front of you, 14 inches not less. Walk like you have a big ****!

 

[BackInTheGame78]

Care less than they do. That's the one thing most guys starting out struggle with mightily and is the cause of many potential relationships not working out quickly.

Tooany men show way too much interests too early and it signals they are desperate with no options.

 

[Clockwerk50]

Being polite, relaxed, and confident matters a lot in attraction. How you feel about yourself shows through in small, unconscious ways. Low self-esteem pushes people away, while confidence and self-sufficiency draw them in. When you don’t seem to need approval, others feel more comfortable around you. Just don’t confuse confidence with narcissism: talking too much about yourself usually signals insecurity.

When it comes to escalation, timing is everything. Being bold works only when there’s already some connection and you’re paying attention to the moment. Many people struggle because they overthink, rely too much on logic, or miss subtle signals. This doesn’t always cause rejection, but it often creates awkwardness. Hesitation usually comes from being stuck in your own head, worrying about how you look, rather than staying present and responding to the other person.

 

[ManlyMan]

There are two things. Momentum and Escalation Anxiety. If you don't regularly escalate with women you will get rusty and get lots of anxiety. So you need to build momentum to get rid of your anxiety. Even seasoned men who can approach any women they want whenever they want get anxiety if they have done done it in quite a while.