If you are attractive, women will do anything to get your attention

[jhonny9546]

The attractive men here have noticed this.
A classic: whether it's a comment on the shoes you're wearing, a simple approach to ask the time, or much more... In short, openness and so much more after that. She want your attention, but... I'm curious how you learned to distinguish between simply "catching your attention" and a woman's "genuine interest" in you.

 

[BillyPilgrim]

I'm curious how you learned to distinguish between simply "catching your attention" and a woman's "genuine interest" in you.

She holds eye contact and responds warmly to touching, allowing it to linger.

 

[BaronOfHair]

The attractive men here have noticed this.
A classic: whether it's a comment on the shoes you're wearing, a simple approach to ask the time, or much more... In short, openness and so much more after that. She want your attention, but... I'm curious how you learned to distinguish between simply "catching your attention" and a woman's "genuine interest" in you.

3/4ths true. If

-You're maintaining yourself physically/emotionally/intellectually

-Throwing on fresh clothes + deodorant before you go out on the town

-Being well-groomed, etc etc

Women and everyone else will warm up to you more readily. That said, if you're not a celebrity, be prepared to put in the proverbial effort. Looks are but one weapon in your arsenal

 

[BillyPilgrim]

3/4ths true. If

-You're maintaining yourself physically/emotionally/intellectually

-Throwing on fresh clothes + deodorant before you go out on the town

-Being well-groomed, etc etc

I've heard a Hannibal Lecter grin can help along with the above. Has it worked for you?

 

[MatureDJ]

She holds eye contact and responds warmly to touching, allowing it to linger.

I agree; a woman that accidentally brushes her breasts up against you is not doing it accidentally. I've had gals that were stacked like cabbages and others that were in the itty-bitty-t!tty committee do it.

 

[Mike32ct]

If she’s attracted to the guy:

1. Laughs a lot, even when he isn’t trying to be funny.

2. Touches his arm (usually bicep), shoulder, back. Holds still and doesn’t move away when he touches her or responds positively and moves in closer.

3. Hugs him tightly with her body fully lined up with his. Doesn't mind or even deliberately pushes her boobs into him. The hug is prolonged.

4. Asks about his relationship status or suggests he already has a girlfriend or wife in the conversation.

If she’s not attracted to the guy:

1. The conversation will generally have a more serious tone. At most, she might occasionally laugh at her own joke but not his.

2. She won’t touch him at all generally. Will move away if he tries to touch her.

3. Friendzone bro hug with a pat on the back. Her body is not lined up with his. It’s at an angle to result in little to no boob contact. The hug is very quick.

4. Mentions she has a boyfriend or talks about her boyfriend. She never asks about his relationship status.

 

[inquisitor]

She holds eye contact and responds warmly to touching, allowing it to linger.

Touch is one of the primary signs for average men, and more so in the modern era because if you have done your homework and got your sh!t right, there is 100% certainty that if she likes you, she initiates touch. A man initiating touch is a game only played by the professionals, as in the very experienced DJs in here.

 

[Divorced w 3]

Inaccurate

 

[Mike32ct]

There is something like social touch and romantic touch. Beta males always, fall for this and wonder why they are in the friendzone

Social touch is real but my understanding is it’s minimal. Like touching your forearm briefly while making a point. If there is more to it that I’m missing, free free to elaborate.

 

[BaronOfHair]

I've heard a Hannibal Lecter grin can help along with the above. Has it worked for you?

That's not enough to warm up a(highly overrated https://www.reddit.com/r/thefighterandthekid/comments/jeo86t 2:06-2:32 )gal who went all the way into her f-cking 50s, before coming out of the closet

This being RL the Ted Bundy smirk is, I've found, much more effective

 

[inquisitor]

Wrong touching doesnt mean anything, but the overall body language.

Touch is one of the most intimate forms of body language.

Also, when I said...

if you have done your homework and got your sh!t right

...what you said is part of what I meant, among many other things.

is she touching you but her body shows away from you then no or touches you because she needs your attention to ask you for direction also no. If she touches you and smiles and holds deep eye contact yes, if she is warm and responsive to your touch and even lets you touch for a longer time, yes.

I agree.

There is something like social touch and romantic touch.

So what is touch when dating a woman? At the onset, you have little idea whether she's interested or not. Rhetorical question: at what point during the friendship/dating/married phase does social become romantic, or romantic becomes social?

You can label touch as social or romantic, but in the end, everything about touch happens in the moment, and there's no easy way of determining which touch occurs, unless you choose to be assertive and decide which touch it should be (after all, your frame governs) while still considering her needs and wants, and escalating/withdrawing accordingly.

Beta males always, fall for this and wonder why they are in the friendzone

A few paragraphs ago, you said touch doesn't mean anything. Now, you say these guys always fall for failing to understand touch... so now, touch is always important. You're contradicting yourself.

 

[Hamurabimbi]

Free stuff. Last night I was at a hotel bar. Was chatting up one of the bartenders. She came by and gave me another drink. Winked and said ‘It’s on me’.

 

[coldapproach]

Trvke

 

[Travel memoir21]

Lol a woman’s attention shouldn’t bother you at all, if you’ve got a lot of things happening in your life. The key is to simply be very comfortable in your bachelorhood and solitude so these types of things don’t rattle you at all and that all stems from cultivating spiritual wisdom and having and finding a higher emotional outlet than women. You want to appear aloof and subtly confident to the point that women can detect it in your behavior and actions.

 

[coldapproach]

My one itis is just a mid slout

 

[Gamisch]

Women will also avoid you if you are attractive.

Some women will spot you from a mile away and by the time you actually pass her by she'll ignore you. Mind you, in a morning traffic rush alone she will see tons and tons of " attractive " men . She can't play ball with ALL of them...amd sometimes there's simply no space to play games. The gym, work, social circles ect are places where it might be beneficial for her to play stoic.

My philosophy is to believe you ARE attractive, thus literally every woman can be a prospect at any given moment...

 

[MatureDJ]

If she’s not attracted to the guy:

1. The conversation will generally have a more serious tone. At most, she might occasionally laugh at her own joke but not his.

2. She won’t touch him at all generally. Will move away if he tries to touch her.

3. Friendzone bro hug with a pat on the back. Her body is not lined up with his. It’s at an angle to result in little to no boob contact. The hug is very quick.

4. Mentions she has a boyfriend or talks about her boyfriend. She never asks about his relationship status.

I've had so many women do this with me.

 

[Mike32ct]

I've had so many women do this with me.

Yeah I picked up these along the way too.

 

[jhonny9546]

Still on the topic of the post, several couples I know (10 or more years together), who are married and have at least 2 or 3 children, are with a practically nymphomaniac woman who has oneitis for her boyfriend, but who behaves really excessively. High drama = High sex and desire. They are very powerful and passionate relationships, and at the same time full of ups and downs.

But you never would have guessed. It's always been said that women have so many options, yet they would always choose to be ****ed by this guy they have oneitis for.

YMMV

 

[tksniper]

It’s all energy. You know when a woman only wants your attention and validation when the interaction seems hollow. It lacks emotional connection and sexual tension. There’s no romantic spark.

You guys are thinking too logically about this in your head, but attraction happens at the gut level. As men, our egos tend to make us believe women like us more than they do.

Attractive women have an ego validation ecosystem. You’ll know that you are part of her validation ecosystem when you don’t sense any sexual tension or a yearning for connection coming from her, but she wants your attention anyway.

Some women have no qualms about trading in their femininity for validation. You get to soak in her feminine essence and she gets to soak in your validation.

Sex = synergistic energy exchange

Trading each other for validation is incoherent energy exchange. There is nothing synergistic about it. Not only is it unhealthy but it can also mess with your energy. Stay way from attention wh0res.