Going out gaming again no wings doing it alone

[Thebestthereeveris]

I am comfortable being alone and doing things on my own but it seems kind of weird gaming alone in night clubs Anyone else done it with good results?

 

[Solomon]

I used to do it all the time, it really test your resolve, wingmen can sometimes get in the way due to them wanting to do their own thing, or what have you

Depending on the venue
I would go early
Grab a great spot (seat/area etc)
With a drink
Then wait for the clappaz to come through
Then approach like a mad man

 

[Thebestthereeveris]

I used to do it all the time, it really test your resolve, wingmen can sometimes get in the way due to them wanting to do their own thing, or what have you

Depending on the venue
I would go early
Grab a great spot (seat/area etc)
With a drink
Then wait for the clappaz to come through
Then approach like a mad man

did you actually get laid with hot girls?

 

[Plinco]

I used to do it all the time, it really test your resolve, wingmen can sometimes get in the way due to them wanting to do their own thing, or what have you

Depending on the venue
I would go early

I came to the same conclusion tonight, that I should get there earlier.

 

[Solomon]

did you actually get laid with hot girls?

Heck ya I did bro read my old field reports they are still here, I pulled ONS, 3somes etc

 

[Mike32ct]

I came to the same conclusion tonight, that I should get there earlier.

Back in the day, I would get to the club right when they opened.* No pressure. Could chat with the bartenders to warm up. And the women that arrived early were bored because the place was empty. Music was still low so it was easy to talk. Win-win.

I know some guys can walk into a jam packed deafening venue at midnight and “get to work,” but that never worked for me.

*Arriving early definitely means going alone because it requires patience. If you go with a wing, 90% he’ll ruin it by saying “This place sucks. This place is dead tonight. Let’s go somewhere else.”

 

[tksniper]

I am comfortable being alone and doing things on my own but it seems kind of weird gaming alone in night clubs Anyone else done it with good results?

Going out alone was how I cut my teeth back in the 2000's. All my friends would rather hang out in social circles and most of the females in my social circles at the time were taken or I already hooked up with so I had no choice but to branch out.

The result was thousands upon thousands upon thousands of rejection. But after 4 years of torture, I was able to develop 100% calibration. I was able to seduce women anywhere, anytime, any place, through any obstacles. My resolve became impenetrable.

I was the annoying bad boy/douche bag looking guy you see get rejected by that hot chick you wanted. At first you're happy to see me get rejected. You're thinking to yourself "That guy looks like a douche bag. He has no chance." But then instead of leaving, I stay (Because I've been in this situation a million times and know she's just giving me token resistance). And after 5 minutes she seems strangely into it. And by the end of the night she's leaving the club with me. And you're thinking to yourself "Wtf, why do women always go home with guys like that?"

That's the guy you want to be. The unstoppable guy who pisses everyone off. But there is a price to pay to be that guy. You need to go through a rights of passage of relentless rejection so you can learn calibration.

If it were easy, everybody would do it. Think of it as a four year university. After you get your degree, you'll never have to go back.

Calibration is not something anyone on this forum can teach you. It's something only the field can teach you.

 

[The Duke]

I bet I've hooked up with more girls going out by myself than I did going out with a friend.

I was always honest when they asked if I was by myself and they would compliment me for having courage/confidence.

 

[Clockwerk50]

I always preferred going solo since I wasn’t committed to anyone, no one was holding me back, and there were no ****blockers.

I remember once going out with friends and we just posted up near the dance floor. I approached a girl close by, and she straight up told me she wasn’t interested in me but was into one of my friends instead. I passed the info along, and he ended up having a short situationship with her.

Another time, I went alone and was just talking to everyone. I ran into a guy I used to see around, and later that night he asked me for a ride since he, his girlfriend, and her friend didn’t have one. I ended up seeing the girlfriend’s friend for a short while after that.

In conclusion, going solo worked better for me since you’re freer, more approachable, and you control your own momentum.

 

[Barrister]

I always preferred going solo since I wasn’t committed to anyone, no one was holding me back, and there were no ****blockers.

I remember once going out with friends and we just posted up near the dance floor. I approached a girl close by, and she straight up told me she wasn’t interested in me but was into one of my friends instead. I passed the info along, and he ended up having a short situationship with her.

Another time, I went alone and was just talking to everyone. I ran into a guy I used to see around, and later that night he asked me for a ride since he, his girlfriend, and her friend didn’t have one. I ended up seeing the girlfriend’s friend for a short while after that.

In conclusion, going solo worked better for me since you’re freer, more approachable, and you control your own momentum.

I actually have a buddy who functions well as a wing in the early moments as he opens chicks up very well. However, he quickly becomes a liability as he will begin divulging way too much information about me in a short time-span to these women (sometimes intentionally trying to embarrass me, probably due to some type of jealousy). So wings are always a mixed bag of pros and cons.

Going alone can make opening tougher. But honestly, you are completely unencumbered to approach who you want and have a natural conversation. Women also have less of a guard up to a single man as opposed to a group who clearly are on the prowl.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

I was a DJ in clubs by myself and had no wings...but the women came to me, so I didn't have to do much work haha

 

[BPH]

I bet I've hooked up with more girls going out by myself than I did going out with a friend.

I was always honest when they asked if I was by myself and they would compliment me for having courage/confidence.

This.

Lately, I've been wondering if I should go back to doing it like this, because my friends aren't very self-sufficient, and when I go and talk to girls, they just kinda hover until I'm done, and that makes me a little more self-conscious than I'd be otherwise.

 

[Thebestthereeveris]

Going out alone was how I cut my teeth back in the 2000's. All my friends would rather hang out in social circles and most of the females in my social circles at the time were taken or I already hooked up with so I had no choice but to branch out.

The result was thousands upon thousands upon thousands of rejection. But after 4 years of torture, I was able to develop 100% calibration. I was able to seduce women anywhere, anytime, any place, through any obstacles. My resolve became impenetrable.

I was the annoying bad boy/douche bag looking guy you see get rejected by that hot chick you wanted. At first you're happy to see me get rejected. You're thinking to yourself "That guy looks like a douche bag. He has no chance." But then instead of leaving, I stay (Because I've been in this situation a million times and know she's just giving me token resistance). And after 5 minutes she seems strangely into it. And by the end of the night she's leaving the club with me. And you're thinking to yourself "Wtf, why do women always go home with guys like that?"

That's the guy you want to be. The unstoppable guy who pisses everyone off. But there is a price to pay to be that guy. You need to go through a rights of passage of relentless rejection so you can learn calibration.

If it were easy, everybody would do it. Think of it as a four year university. After you get your degree, you'll never have to go back.

Calibration is not something anyone on this forum can teach you. It's something only the field can teach you.

so you went out a lone a lot?

 

[Thebestthereeveris]

This.

Lately, I've been wondering if I should go back to doing it like this, because my friends aren't very self-sufficient, and when I go and talk to girls, they just kinda hover until I'm done, and that makes me a little more self-conscious than I'd be otherwise.

so youve gone out alone a bunch of times to pick up girls?

 

[FlexpertHamilton]

I used to go out to bars/clubs alone quite often (both solo and with a wing) and had some real success early on, but that was over 10 years ago. Nowadays it's becoming increasingly rare for me, I think the last time I went out to a bar/club alone was on Halloween last year. I think the nightlife scene has died down considerably over the past 10 years ago and it's nothing like it used to be and I know I'm not the only one who has noticed. Some cities like Nashville may still have a good nightlife scene, but most don't.

That said, it depends if you plan to drink or not. I used to drink when I went out alone, which is the only way it was tolerable for me. You don't want to get drunk, just buzzed. I limited myself to 3 drinks max. Go to the bar, slowly sip on your drink and chat up the bartender and get to know them. If you become a regular they will probably even give you free drinks. Ideally, the bartenders will become your base of operations" in between approaches, which is critical to have when you're alone; otherwise you will wander around and feel unnatural.

Conversely going to bars/clubs alone, at night, while sober, is unusual and a bit autistic, and simply isn't fun imo. Plus you gotta plan around paying parking, cover charges, and not feeling like a weirdo for being alone and not drinking.

Now that I don't drink, I think daygame and other venues are far for solo cold approaches. Go places you already want to go and approach women incidentally. This is especially effective at places where you can be a regular such as a fitness class or trivia group.

 

[tksniper]

so youve gone out alone a bunch of times to pick up girls?

I used to think I needed wingmen. But after a few years I became really good at just being by myself and carrying a positive vibe with me without needing any company. At some point I decided to join the pickup artist community to be around like minded individuals but realized most of them were basement dwelling nerds trying to learn how to be normal. If anything, they prevented me from getting laid by creeping out the females. It’s actually pretty hard to find a good wing.

Right now my only wingman is one of my best friends. He owns an art company and is also an MMA instructor and is always throwing art shows and coaching fitness classes. I don’t go out anymore because by just attending his events, it feels like I have a never ending access to women. He is what you would call a “gatekeeper.” He’s also a natural and women hit on him all the time.

I actually met him when he was working as a part time bouncer at a bar I used to go to and I offered him some of my Macallan scotch.

He’s basically my cash cow and I always make sure to bring a nice bottle of expensive scotch to any of his events.

My advice would be to go out to not just hit on women but also socialize and network with gatekeepers. In the long run, making a friend with someone who has access to women is more advantageous than just randomly hitting on countless women.

When I used to live in San Francisco I used to know a millionaire art gallery owner and My job was literally just to network with hot women and invite them to art shows. I had way more status because I had business cards and was serving as the promoter of an exclusive art building in SF. I wasn’t just a random guy trying to get laid (even though I was).

There are levels to the game. And to me, the highest levels are networking with gatekeepers and inviting women into your exciting world, instead of being a random bar guy who just wants a date.

 

[BaronOfHair]

Anyone else done it with good results?

Nightclubs ain't terrible venues to find ONSs and STRs(though they can also double as hot beds for STDs)... Putting stock in them beyond THAT isn't especially prudent though

 

[In2theGame]

I am comfortable being alone and doing things on my own but it seems kind of weird gaming alone in night clubs Anyone else done it with good results?

It can feel strange if you're used to going out with a wing-man or a few friends but I've done it a few times when my main wing-man (friend) wasn't available and couldn't go out that night...

When I've gone out alone, I actually made some friends and picked up a few girls here and there although I'll admit, it wasn't as fun without my friend. The best I've done is gone out and ended up with a 3-some with some cute girls out of college. This was back in either 2017 or 2018.

When I did go out alone, I liked to pick spots that had a TV where they had a sports game going on. I can get a drink by the bar and scope out the crowed while also checking out a game.

 

[We_ArE_VeNOM]

I am comfortable being alone and doing things on my own but it seems kind of weird gaming alone in night clubs Anyone else done it with good results?

"I need a wingman to help me get women."

Beta shiit.

"I don't need anyone to help me get women. I am my own wingman.

Alpha shiit.

Me <---Alpha shiit.

 

[FlexpertHamilton]

"I need a wingman to help me get women."

Beta shiit.

"I don't need anyone to help me get women. I am my own wingman.

Alpha shiit.

Me <---Alpha shiit.

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