"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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The price of a roof

jhonny9546

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What would you do to have a place to live:

a) Spend 50% of your salary on rent
b) Spend 80% of your capital, less than $50,000, to buy a tiny 1 room studio apartment or office and live there? (I say 50k because a house cost 500k where i live. So it depends on your living place)

For option a, you take on the stress, but you'll live better than option b.
But option B allows you to save 50% of your salary and have more leverage to take on other types of jobs, and just be free.

People, expecially women, will judge your situation. Would you care more about that, or about your freedom?
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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What would you do to have a place to live:

a) Spend 50% of your salary on rent
b) Spend 80% of your capital, less than $50,000, to buy a tiny 1 room studio apartment or office and live there? (I say 50k because a house cost 500k where i live. So it depends on your living place)

For option a, you take on the stress, but you'll live better than option b.
But option B allows you to save 50% of your salary and have more leverage to take on other types of jobs, and just be free.

People, expecially women, will judge your situation. Would you care more about that, or about your freedom?
Just wait untill you meet enough women that will embarrass you and your living situation..I don't care what dudes say here and how they spin the narrative. I don't care how many women you slept with I'm your bust down Toyota..theres more to life.

You know I always opt for being as independent as possible. Level the F up. It's a years long battle to go from nothing to fully equipped and 100% women proof..start your adventure TODAY.
 

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What would you do to have a place to live:

a) Spend 50% of your salary on rent
b) Spend 80% of your capital, less than $50,000, to buy a tiny 1 room studio apartment or office and live there? (I say 50k because a house cost 500k where i live. So it depends on your living place)

For option a, you take on the stress, but you'll live better than option b.
But option B allows you to save 50% of your salary and have more leverage to take on other types of jobs, and just be free.

People, expecially women, will judge your situation. Would you care more about that, or about your freedom?
1. look for other options....
2. B is better than A, but ONLY if it is liquid (Can you sell it again and get your money back later.)

Option B is living better than some others. Play in that crowd for women. Don't go to the rich side of town to look for women if your using your home as image and it doesn't match up to that side of town. Or just skip the money talk with the women and talk about other stuff.

You already know... cause you ask the question.
 

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Hi Jhonny,
Unless you live in a Mining Town or a Town whose employment generator could collapse or decline...Buy! what you are really buying is land,they aren't making any more,but the population keeps expanding,a good investment!...People use Real Estate like stepping stones,you buy a run down place,improve it save more money move to a bigger place do it up...However I think you are moving too early,wait and buy a bigger place with potential to share,generate more income,In most Countries interest on personal housing investment is a Tax deduction...
 

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Spend 80% of your capital, less than $50,000, to buy a tiny 1 room studio apartment or office and live there?
Having your office double as your abode? THAT went out of fashion when Ray Chandler kicked the bucket and his predecessors gradually lost all desire to continue Philip Marlowe's adventures
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Who in their right mind is spending 50% of their salary on rent?

Only someone who is financially illiterate would do that unless they had a plan within a very short time to lower that burden.

You don't have a right to live somewhere you can't afford. Move somewhere cheaper or level up your finances.
 

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Yup. Cost of roof is 20K give or take. Gotta do 2 of 'em sooner rather than later, lol.
 

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Roof is 20k
OP was using "roof" metaphorically, to describe the price of a dwelling.

I'd choose freedom over all else.

I lived in a tiny flat in Japan for about 15 years and you get used to that.

I'd rather save on housing (so long as you're not next to loud neighbors, in a bad neighborhood) to build financial freedom any time.

People, expecially women, will judge your situation.
They can keep their judgments to themselves.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Thanks to anyone who comes and shares their experience.

I feel freer to choose option B.
Simply knowing I'm debt-free and have a secure place to live allows me to take on my first debt, but as an investment: I'll buy another house or office, and someone will pay the rent for me through my rent.
And I'll earn a little extra.
 
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