"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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in the ny area, a reasonable expectation is to spend about 4-5,000 a month for basic standard of living. you are not living in anything but a studio or 1br at that rate on a 2nd rate neighborhood, and you're just getting by.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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It’s an employer’s market. If your employer tells you to come into the office, the incentive to comply is simply to keep your job. And if the company has already proven it can operate without a physical office, it can just as easily look overseas or towns with lower costs for talent.
again, you're talking way out of your element. i get calls constantly, about relocating. and by relocating i mean changing firms and still sitting in the same chair i am now, in my bedroom, unshaven, in mesh shorts. i could get a 1.5 mil + paycheck, today, if i wanted to uproot my business and go. it's not an 'employers market.' there are always pockets that are good, and pockets that are struggling. you really should stop posting.
 

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Why would an employer spend over 50k to relocate someone across the country
In most cases, employers don't need to pay relocation costs in bigger USA cities if they want someone physically present for that line of work. They can find what they need in the local labor market.

An employer in a smaller or mid-sized city might need to pay relocation costs if they want someone physically present.

Remote work has been around long before the pandemic, so it's nothing new.
This is true.

Getting hired as a remote worker in most fields would have been quite difficult circa 2010.
 

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Why would an employer spend over 50k to relocate someone across the country, especially if they already handle work outside their territory or even internationally? Remote work has been around long before the pandemic, so it's nothing new. Given my job description and expertise, it makes no sense for my company to spend over 50k to relocate me to their headquarters or replace me with someone there, as my role is entirely based on the territory around me. The jobs being shifted back to offices were mostly traditional office roles, which were already impacted by outsourcing and AI. Yes, AI and computer automation existed well before the pandemic too. Many of these jobs returning to offices seemed like an effort to cut headcount before layoffs. As a result, if you were called back to the office then you are actually more replaceable than someone that remained remote.
Wait, in your original post you said you and your SO, so is the 50K coming from you, or the employer?

That’s why I said the main incentive to go into the office is simply to keep your job. It’s about compliance with what the employer wants.
 

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Wait, in your original post you said you and your SO, so is the 50K coming from you, or the employer?

That’s why I said the main incentive to go into the office is simply to keep your job. It’s about compliance with what the employer wants.
Not every job is a basic desk job that just needs someone to fill a seat, and RTO isn't practical for every employee. Maybe the employer is actually not insane and recognizes the value of a cost-benefit analysis, balancing remote roles with those in the office.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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In most cases, employers don't need to pay relocation costs in bigger USA cities if they want someone physically present for that line of work. They can find what they need in the local labor market.

An employer in a smaller or mid-sized city might need to pay relocation costs if they want someone physically present.
Some roles involve travel, working in territories beyond HQ, or requiring specialized experience that necessitates hiring from outside the local talent pool, often leading to high relocation costs for new hires.
 

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again, you're talking way out of your element. i get calls constantly, about relocating. and by relocating i mean changing firms and still sitting in the same chair i am now, in my bedroom, unshaven, in mesh shorts. i could get a 1.5 mil + paycheck, today, if i wanted to uproot my business and go. it's not an 'employers market.' there are always pockets that are good, and pockets that are struggling. you really should stop posting.
My first-hand experience is different. At my company, accounts payable and SAP data master tasks are handled in India, and our IT service desk is outsourced to the Philippines.

You’re in sales, so being poached by the competition is common. In my case, I’ve personally seen around six colleagues leave in the 2 years to competitions because the company is being cheap with commissions and unwilling to adjust pricing, which makes the job harder overall.

It’s an employer’s market right now due to inflation, an unstable economy, and an increase in available candidates.
 

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My first-hand experience is different. At my company, accounts payable and SAP data master tasks are handled in India, and our IT service desk is outsourced to the Philippines.

You’re in sales, so being poached by the competition is common. In my case, I’ve personally seen around six colleagues leave in the 2 years to competitions because the company is being cheap with commissions and unwilling to adjust pricing, which makes the job harder overall.
You’re first hand experience =/= the entirety of the United States or world economy
 

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I haven’t checked in decades but what I would suggest if still possible …Go to the bureau of labor statistics. They used to offer a projective list of what the best jobs were going to be and median expected pay for the future. Look at it and realize what you’re capable of doing and then adjust accordingly. Best thing I ever did for myself.
 

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My first-hand experience is different. At my company, accounts payable and SAP data master tasks are handled in India, and our IT service desk is outsourced to the Philippines.
If your job can easily replaced by an Indian or AI then you are going to be replaced whether you are remote or in an office.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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You’re first hand experience =/= the entirety of the United States or world economy
Your whole original post was about your first-hand experience, and I quote: “I get calls constantly, about relocating… I could get a 1.5 mil + paycheck, today, if I wanted to uproot my business and go.”

By your logic, your first-hand experience doesn’t represent the entirety of the U.S. or global economy either. I’m just sharing my own experience in a different context.
 

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Your whole original post was about your first-hand experience, and I quote: “I get calls constantly, about relocating… I could get a 1.5 mil + paycheck, today, if I wanted to uproot my business and go.”

By your logic, your first-hand experience doesn’t represent the entirety of the U.S. or global economy either. I’m just sharing my own experience in a different context.
Because you made the conclusive statement to someone looking for advice, that its an employer’s market, because you work in a shyt industry, and you contextualized your garbage career where you make peanuts into the entirety of knowledge, as usual

You may want to change your handle to Gaslight50
 

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Because you made the conclusive statement to someone looking for advice, that its an employer’s market, because you work in a shyt industry, and you contextualized your garbage career where you make peanuts into the entirety of knowledge, as usual

You may want to change your handle to Gaslight50
I gave my advice based on what the OP should do, and I was participating in a conversation about working in the office and the incentive for an employee to comply with what the employer wants. I also explained why compliance makes sense in a loose employer’s market.

You jumped into the conversation with your anecdotes, and I simply shared mine. You cannot call me out for using personal experience when you did the same in your original post.

Let me ask you: why the temper tantrums? Why the assumptions about my personal life and the personal attacks? You can’t even debate the argument itself. If you have a problem with me, that’s fine, but I suggest taking it to the mods, or better yet, you’re welcome to leave the site.
 

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If your job can easily replaced by an Indian or AI then you are going to be replaced whether you are remote or in an office.
In my opinion, this applies to almost every white-collar job. If employees don’t need to be on-site or visiting customer locations, the work can be done from anywhere in the world.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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I gave my advice based on what the OP should do, and I was participating in a conversation about working in the office and the incentive for an employee to comply with what the employer wants. I also explained why compliance makes sense in a loose employer’s market.

You jumped into the conversation with your anecdotes, and I simply shared mine. You cannot call me out for using personal experience when you did the same in your original post.

Let me ask you: why the temper tantrums? Why the assumptions about my personal life and the personal attacks? You can’t even debate the argument itself. If you have a problem with me, that’s fine, but I suggest taking it to the mods, or better yet, you’re welcome to leave the site.
You said it’s an employers market. You got proven wrong. You cannot gaslight a long winded answer out of it.
 

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You said it’s an employers market. You got proven wrong. You cannot gaslight a long winded answer out of it.
No, I didn’t, and I didn’t gaslight anyone. Sounds like a bit of projection on your part.
 

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It’s an employer’s market. If your employer tells you to come into the office, the incentive to comply is simply to keep your job. And if the company has already proven it can operate without a physical office, it can just as easily look overseas or towns with lower costs for talent.
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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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