After just one month I had to dump her..

[Gamisch]

Met a nice one. Bubbly personality. Kinda funny...BUT..

I'm building a business. I have almost no time to answer. I'm on this ish 7 days per week ,juggling 2, 3 big jobs at the time

After a few weeks the complaints started pouring in already. "You are too dry, I get no compliments, it's too one sided yadiya. " Women say they want an ambitious man but 99% of them can't handle the combination of liking someone while simultaneously giving him space to "adjust to the temperature ".

I'm like hey miss, I'm not even intentionally doing that I'm sincerely occupied all day long.

Had to release the fish back in to the water and let her roam the oceans freely.

 

[Vanderdonck]

Building a business means you have a mission. This is what a lot of men are missing in life.

If a woman can't respect that, you did well by letting her go. I'm guessing a few will come and go. There are rare ones that give space and support...but anyway your mission takes priority. Too bad she couldn't see that.

 

[jhonny9546]

Hmm okay, I get what you’re saying.
Also, it feels like there’s this constant pressure from her to “lock you down” or make you do things her way.


Another thing I’d add to this: when women complain about their men saying things like “he’s too hyper” or “he never sits still,” but they still stay with them, they’re just complaining.


What does hyperactivity symbolize, or rather, a man like you who’s always on the move, not just in terms of work, but in general behavior, someone who’s full of energy?


From my point of view, women are actually attracted to that. It’s like whatever they complain about in you, deep down they’re drawn to it. But since they don’t want to admit it, they just turn it into a complaint.

So you hear all those women bad talk about their boyfriends/husbands

 

[plumber]

excellent: that's a nice example of how to do it right.

 

[Gamisch]

Building a business means you have a mission. This is what a lot of men are missing in life.

If a woman can't respect that, you did well by letting her go. I'm guessing a few will come and go. There are rare ones that give space and support...but anyway your mission takes priority. Too bad she couldn't see that.

It's amazing how it's just goes over her head entirely. Like, to HER the most important component of a relationship are those "little things"; to ME the most important aspect of life is to have a buffer that's solid. Women come and go. Opportunities to grow financially on the other hand might pass you by .

I've let waaaaay top many Opportunities slip because I fell for this trap: making a ( mentally unstable) woman the center of my life.

 

[Ricky]

Women can drag down a mans ambitions. I have 3 older brothers so saw it on some occasions with their wives long before i started dating seriously

 

[tksniper]

Met a nice one. Bubbly personality. Kinda funny...BUT..

I'm building a business. I have almost no time to answer. I'm on this ish 7 days per week ,juggling 2, 3 big jobs at the time

After a few weeks the complaints started pouring in already. "You are too dry, I get no compliments, it's too one sided yadiya. " Women say they want an ambitious man but 99% of them can't handle the combination of liking someone while simultaneously giving him space to "adjust to the temperature ".

I'm like hey miss, I'm not even intentionally doing that I'm sincerely occupied all day long.

Had to release the fish back in to the water and let her roam the oceans freely.

Let me guess, she was feminine at first to draw you in. But it was just a front. I've been there brother. It sounds to me like she's active in the game. She's comparing you with other dudes but what's worse is she doesn't seem to have anything else going on in her life besides dating.

To me that's a red flag. If her entire conversation is about how you make her feel, then it's not worth it. Only a woman on an upwards spiral in life can relate to a man on an upwards spira in life. Water finds it's own level.

 

[Gamisch]

Let me guess, she was feminine at first to draw you in. But it was just a front. I've been there brother. It sounds to me like she's active in the game. She's comparing you with other dudes but what's worse is she doesn't seem to have anything else going on in her life besides dating.

To me that's a red flag. If her entire conversation is about how you make her feel, then it's not worth it. Only a woman on an upwards spiral in life can relate to a man on an upwards spira in life. Water finds it's own level.

That's unfortunately the truth and simultaneously you hit a nerve with this post.

Most men will say they prefer to carry a woman and to make her a stay at home wife. " as long as she's good in bed and can fry an egg shyte be okay".

I reality however the component of unrest will be the most important ( dividing) issue. She is particularly good at "being a woman" and that requires a man / or multiple men to active that part of her.

We as men don't need women to be a man. We need succes, respect, money, strength ect. Women are great but not mandatory for being a man. Put a man in the woods and letting build a wooden house and watch how he'll light up.

Interesting to learn that shyte that we already knew. We knew the stay at home wife will feck the poolboy at some time. Can be 5 years, can be 10 years but eventually she'll get accustomed to whatever you provide and gets bored with a man's ambition if it doesn't put her in the center.

 

[BillyPilgrim]

That's unfortunately the truth and simultaneously you hit a nerve with this post.

Most men will say they prefer to carry a woman and to make her a stay at home wife. " as long as she's good in bed and can fry an egg shyte be okay".

I reality however the component of unrest will be the most important ( dividing) issue. She is particularly good at "being a woman" and that requires a man / or multiple men to active that part of her.

We as men don't need women to be a man. We need succes, respect, money, strength ect. Women are great but not mandatory for being a man. Put a man in the woods and letting build a wooden house and watch how he'll light up.

Interesting to learn that shyte that we already knew. We knew the stay at home wife will feck the poolboy at some time. Can be 5 years, can be 10 years but eventually she'll get accustomed to whatever you provide and gets bored with a man's ambition if it doesn't put her in the center.

I would say as a species we need women to be maximally inspired. A man in the woods builds a cabin, the man in the woods with a family builds a town or a city.

There was aman in Tennessee in the early 1800's who migrated to the woods with his family from Virginia at 70 years old and helped build a town in the wilderness and chances are he wouldn't have been as hard working at that age if it weren't for the desire to provide for his family. Of course this is John Bell from the famous Bell Witch haunting, but that's another story for another time.

 

[Vanderdonck]

This is why it's not about how a man "handles" the woman he's with. It's about how he handles himself and his reactions.

IME I've had LTRs that were different. One for instance was super feminine (as mentioned above) but used the art of subterfuge to try to sabotage my goals. It's not easy to get angry when a woman acts helpless and innocent but is in fact jealous and possessive. Another was also jealous and possessive but way more overt to the point of toxicity. HER game was gaslighting and criticizing, not me but the people I did business with or sought guidance from. Needless to say, both got the boot. And I'm a patient guy but if you're not on Team Vanderdonck, eventually you're out.

But if it's encouraging I at least now have a woman who "gets it." She stays out of my way when it comes to my mission, encourages me with my goals and doesn't question where I go or how long I'm gone or even who I'm with. When I hit a rough patch last year she was 100% supportive. Not saying it's a fairy tale but it's just a much better paradigm for a guy like me who's independent and goal driven. If anything she gets more gung ho when I'm in the dumps from a setback. So, know that there are women who have their man's back and give them space and support.

But the important thing is whatever happens I know how to handle myself just like @Gamisch . If you're not on board, there's the door.

 

[ThisIsSparta]

Interesting to learn that shyte that we already knew. We knew the stay at home wife will feck the poolboy at some time. Can be 5 years, can be 10 years but eventually she'll get accustomed to whatever you provide and gets bored with a man's ambition if it doesn't put her in the center.

This is why we cant have our women roaming free. They need to be kept on their toes or they will become bored and get ideas.

Frame, dread and a little drama. Thats what women need to be at their best behaviour.

They need to be led like dogs, or go nuts like unchecked dogs.

As Friedrich Nietzsche said: "wenn du zum Weibe gehst, vergiss die Peitsche nicht"

Of course there are exceptions, but most women i had a relationship of some kind with, reacted better to dark triad then to "the good man/nice guy".

You did well Gamisch, non compliant women need to hit the road.

 

[Divorced w 3]

I would say as a species we need women to be maximally inspired. A man in the woods builds a cabin, the man in the woods with a family builds a town or a city.

Yes but I think what the phrase is actually saying is some men need a greater purpose to be inspired, not necessarily women. In this phrase it could have been children. That is what does it for me anyway. One day the lights turned on and I looked at my life in whole and said, these guys are growing up and they deserve way better. And then out of sheer willpower and desire the professional creativity turned on and business leveled up big.

 

[CornbreadFed]

This is why I vet women and refuse to date NEETS, bums, and gold digger women lol.

 

[Gamisch]

Interesting update:

Hmm okay, I get what you’re saying.
Also, it feels like there’s this constant pressure from her to “lock you down” or make you do things her way.


Another thing I’d add to this: when women complain about their men saying things like “he’s too hyper” or “he never sits still,” but they still stay with them, they’re just complaining.


What does hyperactivity symbolize, or rather, a man like you who’s always on the move, not just in terms of work, but in general behavior, someone who’s full of energy?


From my point of view, women are actually attracted to that. It’s like whatever they complain about in you, deep down they’re drawn to it. But since they don’t want to admit it, they just turn it into a complaint.

So you hear all those women bad talk about their boyfriends/husbands

Yes spot on!

Eventually she got big mad that " I made a decision for her" and that " she is a grown woman who can think for herself and that she is more than willing to wait " ..Okay. Now she can duck some sick and we can have a conversation.

Imo this is because I don't F around anymore. If you a burden = you gone. Judging how people respond when giving " advice " you'll see 99 9 % say that " if a person really wants to see you yadiya they'll make time they just don't got time for you yadiya. You could put prime Megan Fox in front of me and imma still prioritise my business and clients over p00sy.

 

[Solomon]

Met a nice one. Bubbly personality. Kinda funny...BUT..

I'm building a business. I have almost no time to answer. I'm on this ish 7 days per week ,juggling 2, 3 big jobs at the time

After a few weeks the complaints started pouring in already. "You are too dry, I get no compliments, it's too one sided yadiya. " Women say they want an ambitious man but 99% of them can't handle the combination of liking someone while simultaneously giving him space to "adjust to the temperature ".

I'm like hey miss, I'm not even intentionally doing that I'm sincerely occupied all day long.

Had to release the fish back in to the water and let her roam the oceans freely.

This is the problem with modern women: they don't appreciate a man who is on his purpose
A lot of them are looking for court jester or a clown to entertain them while they put in no effort
The crazy part is that women think they are doing you a favor by their presence or giving you sex
the bar is ****ing low man

Good job Op

 

[BaronOfHair]

Rephrase "I had to" from "I chose to". The minute we start thinking we "have to", we start denying our own agency

 

[Gamisch]

Rephrase "I had to" from "I chose to". The minute we start thinking we "have to", we start denying our own agency

Good one..

 

[Hal9000]

Women want an ambitious man after his ship has come in. They have zero interest in supporting you working long hard hours, in order to hopefully make that someday happen, while they sit alone at home.

 

[Dash Riprock]

Met a nice one. Bubbly personality. Kinda funny...BUT..

I'm building a business. I have almost no time to answer. I'm on this ish 7 days per week ,juggling 2, 3 big jobs at the time

After a few weeks the complaints started pouring in already. "You are too dry, I get no compliments, it's too one sided yadiya. " Women say they want an ambitious man but 99% of them can't handle the combination of liking someone while simultaneously giving him space to "adjust to the temperature ".

I'm like hey miss, I'm not even intentionally doing that I'm sincerely occupied all day long.

Had to release the fish back in to the water and let her roam the oceans freely.

And the minute you start giving her more attention, she monkey branches to another dude because you were "too available." Truth. Women's logic.

 

[Chow Mein]

And the minute you start giving her more attention, she monkey branches to another dude because you were "too available." Truth. Women's logic.

To add to that, women will always come back if they genuinely like you.
I’ve had my share of fk-ups, women will come back Likely once, maybe twice if you’re good/lucky.
Rarely a third time.