"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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What role do YOU play nowadays for women ? Provider, protector, performer or puppet?

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Forget about love. You are either a provider, protector, performer or a puppet.

On a deeper level especially the performer and puppet are " new" in his space but yet those roles are as old as the sun and earth themselves.

I believe women look for men to fulfill one or more of those roles. Are you aware of your role, do you play accordingly and does it lead to "success" for you?

Let's discuss
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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I full agree that women often keep different men around for different roles.

I’m mostly a friend or brother to women these days. Puppet is maybe the closest one. I’m a very good listener and capable of conversing with them on almost any topic.

Women’s laughter is often tied to attraction. So while my guy friends love my humor, those same jokes don’t land as often with my female friends. So I ruled out performer/entertainer.
 
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That is giant horse crap.



I am good at that as well. I don't do that unless she's letting me slam her pussie.
Why is it horse crap if HE knows that's his " function"? Especially if it DOES work for him?

Or do you mean that being a friend/ brother isn't the best position to take? (The latter makes sense by the way)
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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That is giant horse crap.



I am good at that as well. I don't do that unless she's letting me slam her pussie.
And what do you think about the puppet and performer roles? Imo those are rarely talked about in these spaces.
 

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I don't play any role. I am who I am, they can either choose to be with me or choose not to and I don't care either way.

I know where I want to go, if they want to come along for the ride they can as long as they don't become a hinderance to me.

If they are supportive that's even better...

My current girlfriend has been ride or die since Day one almost and it's extremely hard to find that these days.
 

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Why is it horse crap if HE knows that's his " function"? Especially if it DOES work for him?

Or do you mean that being a friend/ brother isn't the best position to take? (The latter makes sense by the way)
Yeah it’s my current situation. It’s not ideal, but it works at the moment. I don’t mind being friends with women, and I don’t hit on the ones that I know see me that way. The introvert in me enjoys one on one conversations.

Breaking the long dry spell with somebody new (ie with a clean slate) outside that circle is the challenge right now lol.

I totally understand SW’s point though.

Anyway, I don’t SEEK to play a role. Just being honest about my current perceived role.
 

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Anything less than a lover and a woman is using the man.

Next time you are with a woman, ask yourself “Would. a King be like this with her?” If not, change your behavior.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Forget about love. You are either a provider, protector, performer or a puppet.

On a deeper level especially the performer and puppet are " new" in his space but yet those roles are as old as the sun and earth themselves.

I believe women look for men to fulfill one or more of those roles. Are you aware of your role, do you play accordingly and does it lead to "success" for you?

Let's discuss
Mostly protector and to some extent provider, as husband and father.
 

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Is performer a sexual performer?
That's a good one and I actually do think you are right.

I geuss the performer is the artist, the rockstar, in he eyes, the type of man who "gets her to do things outside of her box".

The puppet might be the safety blanket, the friend who is there for her . Obviously all forms contain some form of mutual attraction.
 

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Hmmm. In this context my husband would be a performer and protector.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Anything less than a lover and a woman is using the man.

Next time you are with a woman, ask yourself “Would. a King be like this with her?” If not, change your behavior.
It's OVER for PeasantCels.
 

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Oke let's evaluate the results.

Nobody is a performer and ESPECIALLY zero puppets. Surprise Surprise. No man will admit he is a puppet while arguably most of us been a puppet most of the time..yes indeed : rather an image of who SHE want you to be , and the power of p00sy actually made you do exactly what SHE wanted you to do like a good little puppet.

Ofcourse you can be a combination of certain things, but tbh most men are viewed as puppets and performers. You only become a provider and protector after you are heavily invested. The irony is that we as men gotta " earn " to provide and protect...we gotta " earn the privilege " of being willing to risk our physical financial and mental health to be with Miss little princess..

I geuss that 85% of the women I dated viewed me as a puppet / performer; I played a role that she wanted me to play at that point in her life, and when she needed something else or grew out of it she was poof gone. And while she was around me I kept feeling the disconnect from the fact that she actually has no idea who I REALLY am, and she also doesn't care. Simultaneously I might not given a F because I just wanted to feck.
 
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The typical married man in the United States is a provider. He's a beta male whose primary utility to his woman is additional revenue into the household. In a lot of cases, the married woman is also working a job.

A married man might not have started out as a provider. There's a process that happens in long-term relationships called "beta-ization". Men often become more and more beta as time passes in relationships. This is a part of the idea that I'm most known for promoting on SoSuave, which is the idea that relationships enter a decay phase around the 3-5 year point in time. It's possible that a married man initially attracted a woman on the basis of being either a protector or performer.

Beta males fall into the provider and puppet roles most commonly.

I desire to be a sexual performer. I want to be around for my sex appeal. In this framework, I position myself to women as a performer.
 

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Next time you are with a woman, ask yourself “Would. a King be like this with her?” If not, change your behavior.
Mmmmhhhhh......Now that you mention it, my woman actually calls me "Your Majesty" with a very specific tone of voice from time to time. Specifically when Im doing whatever the f0ck I want (which is possibly quite often). Might be some sort of test? I just laugh it off; Agree & Amplify. I keep getting laid whenever I want so Im assuming Im passing all sorts of tests. Im interested in @BeExcellent ´s perspective on this "Your Majesty" thing.

Forget about love. You are either a provider, protector, performer or a puppet.
Im the provider and protector (and some sort of King, apparently). Women should the be the performer/puppet to keep things balanced.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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