You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
All she says is true, and people should be aware these circumstances happen and might be in store for them.
Exactly. It’s some honest advice for both women and men.I don't see her as a harridan as such. To me, that's just an older woman dispensing some sobering advice and guidance. Admittedly, it's a bleak picture she paints but, to be fair, what she describes isn't that unusual.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
She is a harridan. She never married and had no children. She mentioned that in the video. That was somewhat uncommon in her age bracket, as I'm guessing she's about 60-70.I don't see her as a harridan as such.
I do not know this woman's history, but there's wisdom in what she states in the video. If you have children but you paid too much attention to money instead of them, there's decent chance they will put you into nursing home or some institution.
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Be the captain of the ship, and have a staff or passengers to share the journey with.Do your best to be as healthy, wealthy and independent as you can. You can invite others to walk a part of your life together but in the end you are in this alone and no matter how many friends or family you have, you will most likely die without them being around
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
I guess it's a lot harder for women since a man at that age could easily get a caretaker wife ... or maybe the Golden Girls will still be hypergamic at that stage of life?I do not know this woman's history, but there's wisdom in what she states in the video. If you have children but you paid too much attention to money instead of them, there's decent chance they will put you into nursing home or some institution.
However, if you don't have children, rest assured that your extended family members will be interested in putting you into nursing home if you are well off and unable to take care of yourself.
Being old and alone is not a funny part of life.
Actually, a lot of older women (around 60-65) still have sexual needs and any guy up for satisfying them may have "rotation" as a lot of older guys loose interest in sex or their long-term female partner very often. If it's about women older than that - they obviously still enjoy male company but probably not to the caretaker level (I think at 70+ both females and males still prefer to date non-disabled/rather healthy partners and due to various reasons - including fear of death - they may be prone to quickly leaving any new partner which succumbs to sickness or may succumb to it in a mid-to-short time period, they will also leave partners with signs of dementia as it scares them off - it is probably not ghosting but efficient loosing ties before worst part happen). Gold diggers don't care about terminal sickness (actually they are counting on it) therefore guys with financial assets will always have a choice.I guess it's a lot harder for women since a man at that age could easily get a caretaker wife ... or maybe the Golden Girls will still be hypergamic at that stage of life?![]()
This point could be an entire discussion.Most old couples I see appear to just be sleepwalking through life and getting on each other’s nerves. I don’t see much desire or affection. Hardly something to be fearful of.
Not possible, but You can live with that structure in mind and fear nothing or no one.Probably not possible in the Western World