Girl said this after I ****ed her on the first date, what would you do?

[AM349]

She send me this message a day after the date:

''Hi,

Thanks again for yesterday. I got home safely as soon as you asked

I just wanted to text you because i notice that we are not going to work out. I am not the type of girl that likes the share, and i notice that you are still in your hoe phase. You are also young, so you have to enjoy yourself. Tell me next time beforehand that you are still in your hoe phase. Then we could have skipped the whole eating and stuff. You could have saved €10/€15

Good luck in the future ''

We had a fun date, and we ended up ****ing. How would you don juans react to this message?

I just want to have her as a extra plate, not as a wifey. I thought about just taking in lightly and tell her to act normal.

Something like: ''don't act stupid, see you next week ''

How would you react?

 

[Clockwerk50]

Did she text you this after she got home after having sex with you or did she text this a few days later when you did not follow up with her?

Why does she think you are still in your hoe phase?

Texting her back “don’t act stupid” sounds moronic. Don’t send her that. Best to not reply at all if that is the best you can come up with.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

Are you on dating sites?

Sounds like you are probably messaging her friends or people she knows and they told her about it.

 

[BaronOfHair]

First date, you say

 

[BillyPilgrim]

OP, since she mentioned a next time in her text, tell her that next time you'll bring a hazmat suit because she's phucking toxic.

Next.

 

[BPH]

I just wanted to text you because i notice that we are not going to work out. I am not the type of girl that likes the share, and i notice that you are still in your hoe phase. You are also young, so you have to enjoy yourself. Tell me next time beforehand that you are still in your hoe phase. Then we could have skipped the whole eating and stuff. You could have saved €10/€15

This tells me a few things; first, something about how you carry yourself or interact with her gave off the vibe that you weren't looking for anything serious, second, she's says you're young so she's definitely older and that might play a part in her wanting something more "real", and finally she seems ok with these things - but might've found you dishonest in how you ended up bedding her.

A lot of this requires more context on your part, but that's what I get from reading this message.

We had a fun date, and we ended up ****ing. How would you don juans react to this message?

Be honest with yourself for a moment. Looks like you're 20 years old so you're likely not too experienced in the bedroom - do you think you did a good job? Or is there the possibility that she was cool with everything else, but left unsatisfied?

I just want to have her as a extra plate, not as a wifey.

Looks like she picked up on that. She went for a test drive but didn't want to buy the car.

Something like: ''don't act stupid, see you next week ''

Absolutely not.

If you want to be mature and leave the door open for her to come back around you simply thank her for her honesty, agree, and wish her the best.

She may come back around, but this is one of the most direct and thorough "no's" you can get from a woman, so take it for what it is.

 

[AM349]

Did she text you this after she got home after having sex with you or did she text this a few days later when you did not follow up with her?

Why does she think you are still in your hoe phase?

Texting her back “don’t act stupid” sounds moronic. Don’t send her that. Best to not reply at all if that is the best you can come up with.

She texted me a day after our date. I did not follow up with her.

She thinks i am still in my hoe phase because i made a joke that i still like to “share” myself.

 

[AM349]

Are you on dating sites?

Sounds like you are probably messaging her friends or people she knows and they told her about it.

Yes, but i got this one via instagram dm. She already told me she has friends that know me.

 

[AM349]

This tells me a few things; first, something about how you carry yourself or interact with her gave off the vibe that you weren't looking for anything serious, second, she's says you're young so she's definitely older and that might play a part in her wanting something more "real", and finally she seems ok with these things - but might've found you dishonest in how you ended up bedding her.

A lot of this requires more context on your part, but that's what I get from reading this message.



Be honest with yourself for a moment. Looks like you're 20 years old so you're likely not too experienced in the bedroom - do you think you did a good job? Or is there the possibility that she was cool with everything else, but left unsatisfied?



Looks like she picked up on that. She went for a test drive but didn't want to buy the car.



Absolutely not.

If you want to be mature and leave the door open for her to come back around you simply thank her for her honesty, agree, and wish her the best.

She may come back around, but this is one of the most direct and thorough "no's" you can get from a woman, so take it for what it is.

What context would you like to know exactly. The date was about 3 hours, so i can’t tell everything of course hahaha.

I made a joke about sharing myself with others. And she might picked this up as that i am not looking for anything serious.

i did a good job, she came multiple times.

 

[corrector]

She saying you spent too much money on her. She a free hoe, not a buy food for her hoe. Hoes get offended when you dont know the difference.

 

[BPH]

What context would you like to know exactly. The date was about 3 hours, so i can’t tell everything of course hahaha.

I made a joke about sharing myself with others. And she might picked this up as that i am not looking for anything serious.

i did a good job, she came multiple times.

Little things that would take too long to recollect and describe; how you carried yourself, the "jokes" you said to her, how she reacted, whether she ACTUALLY came or just faked it/told you she came.

Either way, none of this really matters, I'd still respond like this:

If you want to be mature and leave the door open for her to come back around you simply thank her for her honesty, agree, and wish her the best.

By the way, you can reply to multiple people at once on here, you don't have to make a new message for each quote.

 

[BillyPilgrim]

OP, did the girl give you hints prior to your "sharing yourself" comment that she strongly preferred something more than casual?

 

[BaronOfHair]

How would you react?

By texting back: "If by "hoe phase" you mean "Your appetite for randy little tramps remains remarkably strong"... You're assessment of me is highly astute, honeybun. That's why you'll be in my bed again this weekend"

The worst that could happen is that she neither replies nor reappears

 

[inquisitor]

She thinks i am still in my hoe phase because i made a joke that i still like to “share” myself.

Shît joke, by the way. You can be more decent about yourself than that.

 

[pipeman84]

i did a good job, she came multiple times.

If that's the case, then why did she dump you? It's not like she went into it expecting to get married as you already made the joke about sharing yourself during the 3 hour long date.

My take is that she's a hoe who wanted to try some younger dyck and she was disappointed in your performance therefore she's nexting you. But she's can't say that so she says something that sounds plausible and gives her the high moral ground.

 

[Tilex]

What kind of lunch or dinner did you buy that was €10 for two people?
That sounds really cheap.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

Yes, but i got this one via instagram dm. She already told me she has friends that know me.

Well there ya go...

 

[Clockwerk50]

She texted me a day after our date. I did not follow up with her.

She thinks i am still in my hoe phase because i made a joke that i still like to “share” myself.

If I can read between the lines, I don’t think it’s the “share” joke that put her off since there is nothing more irresistible to women than trying to reform a possible suitor who has multiple options at his feet. I think there is a level of immaturity in your personality, and maybe she thinks building a relationship with someone that cannot protect and provide for her in the long run is not a good investment. Maybe she felt like a slvt because she slept with you and you didn’t follow back. Maybe you are lying to us that you slept with her but you didn’t. Again, this is just my interpretation of the situation.

Either way, if I was you I wouldn’t answer to her text. Give it some time and let her hamster work its magic. Maybe text her back a week or 2 later and pray the her perception of you has changed, if you still want to see her that is.

The other option is to just move on and become a better man.

 

[Divorced w 3]

If you’re hooking up with her acquaintances like you claim to be, you wouldn’t have needed to tell her that you were doing that, as she would have already known that. False bravado is never a good move, your actions and nonverbal should have been more than enough to convey what you felt the need to say out loud. Guessing here, but your words probably didn’t match the personal demeanor and she took the bird in hand while you were there to have some fun, but sounds like that is the only time that’s going to happen.

TLDR; she said you talk too much and called you a fvckboy.

 

[Solomon]

If you’re hooking up with her acquaintances like you claim to be, you wouldn’t have needed to tell her that you were doing that, as she would have already known that. False bravado is never a good move, your actions and nonverbal should have been more than enough to convey what you felt the need to say out loud. Guessing here, but your words probably didn’t match the personal demeanor and she took the bird in hand while you were there to have some fun, but sounds like that is the only time that’s going to happen.

TLDR; she said you talk too much and called you a fvckboy.

THIS, OP"s actions weren't congruent with his words, happens to the best of us . In 2024 a lot of men would save themselves time and money if they were honest with a women. You have guys taking girls on dates that just want to be banged. Guys taking girls on dates who just want a free meal, free attention, validation and a meal. IMO the direct approach while it may lose you a lot of leads it will also save you a lot of time and $$$