You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
I joined. But the admin has yet to activate my posting privileges (he has to approve accounts before they can post)I had thought about joining incels.is, but I just lurk there.
I would assume having had ‘free sex’ would make you a non-incel. And thus not an outcast, but rather not even allowed.. The fact I've had free sex makes me an outcast on the incel forum.
The definition of incel is fluid.I would assume having had ‘free sex’ would make you a non-incel. And thus not an outcast, but rather not even allowed.
Also. Why would a non-incel want to join an incel site?
Imagine a site for men with one arm. Who. with two arms would join that site?
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
What if that free sex was a long time ago?I would assume having had ‘free sex’ would make you a non-incel. And thus not an outcast, but rather not even allowed.
Also. Why would a non-incel want to join an incel site?
Imagine a site for men with one arm. Who. with two arms would join that site?
The existential fact is that the dating market is so dystopian that, relative to earlier times, a much, much larger portion of the male population can't get a date, or sustain a relationship, etc., with a decent chick (i.e., not fat, not a single mommy, not tatted, not vituperative, not crazy, etc.), and thus are de facto incels. The fact that there websites like SoSuave.net, and dating gurus, is proof of this dystopia.The definition of incel is fluid.
Some say if you've ever had free sex, even once, you don't qualify as an incel.
Yet some (including some posters on So Suave) say I'm an incel because of how sparingly I get free sex. I've had a 6 year dry spell from free sex before (and am currently on a 3 and half year dry spell)
As for why I'd want to join an incel forum: Because even if I've had free sex, I can relate to incels (because, again, how sparingly I get free sex)
All women are crazy.The existential fact is that the dating market is so dystopian that, relative to earlier times, a much, much larger portion of the male population can't get a date, or sustain a relationship, etc., with a decent chick (i.e., not fat, not a single mommy, not tatted, not vituperative, not crazy, etc.), and thus are de facto incels. The fact that there websites like SoSuave.net, and dating gurus, is proof of this dystopia.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
This reminds me of how long this has been going on:I know incels that, I strongly believe, never got pu$$y. They are middle aged & decrepit. They will never get pu$$y. True incels.
Even the types of broads you mentioned are increasingly hard to get sex/dates with.The existential fact is that the dating market is so dystopian that, relative to earlier times, a much, much larger portion of the male population can't get a date, or sustain a relationship, etc., with a decent chick (i.e., not fat, not a single mommy, not tatted, not vituperative, not crazy, etc.), and thus are de facto incels. The fact that there websites like SoSuave.net, and dating gurus, is proof of this dystopia.
I had a coworker at a past job who was 50-ish at the time. He was clearly an autist (to a much more noticeable degree than me), wore Coke bottle glasses, and had niche hobbies that would turn off the vast majority of the female population.I know incels that, I strongly believe, never got pu$$y. They are middle aged & decrepit. They will never get pu$$y. True incels.
Consider yourself blessedBut the admin has yet to activate my posting privileges (he has to approve accounts before they can post)
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
That's the state of the world we live in, both on AND offline, hoss. The sort of jokes you could tell around the office as relatively recently as '14 will get you relieved of employment todayCan anyone recommend a web forum with mods that constantly delete posts and close threads? I need that type of environment to protect my delicate snowflake feelings.
Reddit.Can anyone recommend a web forum with mods that constantly delete posts and close threads? I need that type of environment to protect my delicate snowflake feelings.