Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
I joined. But the admin has yet to activate my posting privileges (he has to approve accounts before they can post)I had thought about joining incels.is, but I just lurk there.
I would assume having had ‘free sex’ would make you a non-incel. And thus not an outcast, but rather not even allowed.. The fact I've had free sex makes me an outcast on the incel forum.
The definition of incel is fluid.I would assume having had ‘free sex’ would make you a non-incel. And thus not an outcast, but rather not even allowed.
Also. Why would a non-incel want to join an incel site?
Imagine a site for men with one arm. Who. with two arms would join that site?
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
What if that free sex was a long time ago?I would assume having had ‘free sex’ would make you a non-incel. And thus not an outcast, but rather not even allowed.
Also. Why would a non-incel want to join an incel site?
Imagine a site for men with one arm. Who. with two arms would join that site?
The existential fact is that the dating market is so dystopian that, relative to earlier times, a much, much larger portion of the male population can't get a date, or sustain a relationship, etc., with a decent chick (i.e., not fat, not a single mommy, not tatted, not vituperative, not crazy, etc.), and thus are de facto incels. The fact that there websites like SoSuave.net, and dating gurus, is proof of this dystopia.The definition of incel is fluid.
Some say if you've ever had free sex, even once, you don't qualify as an incel.
Yet some (including some posters on So Suave) say I'm an incel because of how sparingly I get free sex. I've had a 6 year dry spell from free sex before (and am currently on a 3 and half year dry spell)
As for why I'd want to join an incel forum: Because even if I've had free sex, I can relate to incels (because, again, how sparingly I get free sex)
All women are crazy.The existential fact is that the dating market is so dystopian that, relative to earlier times, a much, much larger portion of the male population can't get a date, or sustain a relationship, etc., with a decent chick (i.e., not fat, not a single mommy, not tatted, not vituperative, not crazy, etc.), and thus are de facto incels. The fact that there websites like SoSuave.net, and dating gurus, is proof of this dystopia.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
This reminds me of how long this has been going on:I know incels that, I strongly believe, never got pu$$y. They are middle aged & decrepit. They will never get pu$$y. True incels.
Even the types of broads you mentioned are increasingly hard to get sex/dates with.The existential fact is that the dating market is so dystopian that, relative to earlier times, a much, much larger portion of the male population can't get a date, or sustain a relationship, etc., with a decent chick (i.e., not fat, not a single mommy, not tatted, not vituperative, not crazy, etc.), and thus are de facto incels. The fact that there websites like SoSuave.net, and dating gurus, is proof of this dystopia.
I had a coworker at a past job who was 50-ish at the time. He was clearly an autist (to a much more noticeable degree than me), wore Coke bottle glasses, and had niche hobbies that would turn off the vast majority of the female population.I know incels that, I strongly believe, never got pu$$y. They are middle aged & decrepit. They will never get pu$$y. True incels.
Consider yourself blessedBut the admin has yet to activate my posting privileges (he has to approve accounts before they can post)
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
That's the state of the world we live in, both on AND offline, hoss. The sort of jokes you could tell around the office as relatively recently as '14 will get you relieved of employment todayCan anyone recommend a web forum with mods that constantly delete posts and close threads? I need that type of environment to protect my delicate snowflake feelings.
Reddit.Can anyone recommend a web forum with mods that constantly delete posts and close threads? I need that type of environment to protect my delicate snowflake feelings.