Yeah, I've been to therapy.Have you been to therapy? Cause with that mindset you'll never gonna have a chick in your life
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
Yeah, I've been to therapy.Have you been to therapy? Cause with that mindset you'll never gonna have a chick in your life
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
The irony of him not wanting to humiliate himself, but consistently posts in here humiliating himself.Yes, he has. Please don't remind him of that failure. Last time he filled ten pages with whining. Don't feed the pinguin.
I think you hit the nail on the head. I’m impressed by your assessmentActually, I don't think that's ironic. He can be himself on this forum, hiding behind his anonymity, so he can test out how he will be perceived and not be personally humiliated.
He's anxious about being humiliated in public by people he might see again (and again). Some social anxiety is acceptable, but he shows a disproportionate fear of failure and the consequences, so his 'risk management' is totally unable to decide whether a risk is real or imaginary. Plus he has severe coping mechanisms to avoid risk at all, which paralyse him socially. And he's lazy and wants shortcuts to get rid of his social awkwardness, without understanding that he has to walk the path to get to the destination.
A lost cause, really. I agree that he needs therapy, but I think he needs the right therapist.
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OP actually has a great deal of energy and resolve... He just devotes it desperately manufacturing rationalizations for NOT adopting more adaptive beliefs and behaviorsAnd he's lazy and wants shortcuts to get rid of his social awkwardness, without understanding that he has to walk the path to get to the destination.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
just looked her up. Found a LinkedIn. She still has her good looks (and is a Certified Medical Assistant)
What I'm about to say isn't an excuse, merely a fact.Invite her out for coffee then, GM, and begin your seduction. Having someone with access to an RX pad in one's social orbit is always a benefit
You've still been presented with an opportunity to practice approaching, hombre.... PM her on Facebook with a message like: "Yo, honey. Next time your in town, contact me. We'll grab coffee"What I'm about to say isn't an excuse, merely a fact.
I live too far (And no, I don't mean 2 hour drive; I mean a several hour plane ride)
Stop training GM to be a simp.You've still been presented with an opportunity to practice approaching, hombre.... PM her on Facebook with a message like: "Yo, honey. Next time your in town, contact me. We'll grab coffee"
Limiting beliefs are flatlining your prospects for success, faster than whatever Johnny Depp gave River Phoenix, that fateful night at The Viper Room
https://www.sosuave.net/forum/threads/cringe-lunch-or-personal-social-experiment.281356/Stop training GM to be a simp.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Folks say Elon Musk could become the world's first trillionaire (USD) if his robotaxis actually work - but I think anyone that truly cracked the pheromone code would become a multi-trillionaire.In the past, I would use pheromone. If you spray the right pheromone then it should attract women your way. You need to see women as your subjects who you are doing experiments on to see how they react to various pheromones. When women are part of your experiment, they are in your frame, they are under you because you are the man with the scientific white lab coat and you are trying out various sprays on them to see how they react to that.
However, I stopped using them since 2014 for personal reasons.
At least you had folks that went to your high school that you could dance with!Only getting one pity dance at the high school dance was humiliating. I never should have gone.
I don't even want to elaborate on the humiliation at the college football games and the holiday party (the story is worse)
I was about to post about a movie that was about a lad who had this problem, but along the way, I came across this.I'm curious too. Like did he wet himself?
I guess they never learned from their light bulb changing endeavors.I was about to post about a movie that was about a lad who had this problem, but along the way, I came across this.
.Polish tourist killed by urinating on 750-volt electric railway line
Electrocuted: A 41-year-old man died after being hit with 750 volts at Vauxhall Stationwww.standard.co.uk
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
You don't live anywhere close to Toronto... It's thus improbable to infer that you've been patronizing ExoticaDo you know how that $ 100 was in my wallet?
I do not patronize anyone. I'm listening subscribing to this teen Christian lady:You don't live anywhere close to Toronto... It's thus improbable to infer that you've been patronizing Exoticalately. Which does tend to leave a few spare bucks in a fellas pocket
Cool. Let us know how it goes.Talk about Social Events. I'm attending my cousin's Wedding on Sunday.
Hope I meet someone there too. Hey, I'm doing this for your @GoodMan32. If you are not going to do something (or have the opportunity to get out there), then I am. Hope this goes somewhere, in terms of meeting someone, rather then niceties and stuffing my guts with food and jetting out of there when it comes dance time.
Hope springs eternal. Maker Of Life willing, the pattern will continue, and by this time next week:I'm not fapping, looking at porn, or any lewd youtube video
Her videos work.Hope springs eternal. Maker Of Life willing, the pattern will continue, and by this time next week:
-The Zodiac Killer will finally be apprehended
-Russia's invasion of Ukraine will end
-Sports Illustrated and Victoria's Secret will leave the obese and trans models back in the late 10s where they belong
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.