"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Group dynamics when multiple men are into the same girl(s)

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Don Juan
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Something frustrating has happened to me twice now going out. Its really bugging me.

The first time I made the approach, I opened. Myself and 2 other guys are talking to two girls. At a certain point it is obvious that one of the girls is talking to me, laughing at my jokes, touching me....we are flirting. I go to the bathroom and see a friend real quick say hi. I come back to my seat and one of the other guys in the group is now sitting in my seat and talking to the chick and i sit down and act nonchalant. They keep talking and he leaves with her number.

The second time I made the approach, I opened. Myself and 2 other guys are talking to two girls. Its obvious one of the girls is into me. Laughing at my jokes, touching me, giving me eye contact, asking me questions. The guy sitting next to her starts having a conversation with her and I again act nonchalant and talk to the group. He get's her number. We all go outside and this girl is standing right next to me, touching me again, laughing at jokes and flirting with me. This time I didn't say anything cause honestly I felt awkward knowing she just gave him her number.


Bro. What do I gotta do, be more aggressive? Be attached to her the entire night? Or is the move to just keep it chill.

Im frustrated today.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Borknagar

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Reminded me of last weekend. I got a woman's number because we were mutually making fun of a group of guys all taking to one woman.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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The Duke

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Stop hanging out with them. Learn to isolate the girl when in that situation. Take her to a more private area so its less likely to happen.
 
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