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Talents And Skills That Can Get A Man Laid

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What is a list of talents and skills that can get a man laid? I'm hoping this thread will become a comprehensive master list.
Not worrying about any of this and simply going about their life and working on incrementally improving themselves in all areas of their life.

That's what would benefit guys the most.

But everyone wants the "get rich quick" scheme to get laid, nobody wants to put in the hard work to make the money in the first place.
 

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Building your life around dussy is reductive and useless, if you build it, they will come, but they gotta go too and that's the problem... Availability is unattractive no matter what end of the equation it's on, it's why having a purpose is preached here, regardless of where you are in life your purpose endures
 

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This answer is ignorant to some skills are statistically more useful than others.

For example, more women are into guys that can dance than guys that can sing.

Anyways, stuff like home remodeling and investing in the stock market. For Mexican girls, knowing how to fix a car and change a tire...
It doesn't matter what chance they have of pulling girls. All skills pull women. You bring up home modeling. If I started a home modeling business, I could pull multiple women every week. Because it's how I carry it.
 

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If anyone knows what skills tend to specifically attract women of the following demographics, I would love to know:
1. White women
2. Latin women
3. Black women
4. Asian women

If you don't know about all these groups but know about some, I'd still like to hear what you have to say.
 

Just because a woman listens to you and acts interested in what you say doesn't mean she really is. She might just be acting polite, while silently wishing that the date would hurry up and end, or that you would go away... and never come back.

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If anyone knows what skills tend to specifically attract women of the following demographics, I would love to know:
1. White women
2. Latin women
3. Black women
4. Asian women

If you don't know about all these groups but know about some, I'd still like to hear what you have to say.
The same thing that attracts any woman. A man that knows what he wants, works hard for it and goes and gets it. A man who takes care of himself mentally, physically and emotionally. A man who isn't looking for the "get rich quick" schemes to getting women that don't exist.

This isn't rocket science. It's literally the same damn thing that's worked for thousands of years.

Stop looking for external ways to "do something" and start looking for internal ways to "become better".

The reason most guys on here have low success with women is because they are asking the wrong questions to begin with.

What they find attractive is irrelevant. What do you want to become is the question you need to ask yourself and then go and do it and stop worrying about them. They'll come find you, trust me.
 
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Again, there is no formula.

There is a framework that you use to fine-tune your custom formula.
  1. Get in gym shape.
  2. Have a wadrobe that reflects who you want to be seen as. Pro tip: if you’re 62 don’t try to dress like a gen-z or millennial. If you don’t know how to dress go to an upscale department store and hire a personal shopper.
  3. Hair cut - do not look like the dude that went to Supercuts.
  4. Be meticulously clean, but do not douse yourself in cologne, in fact use very very little, if at all.
  5. Have a mission/passion in your life, be an expert at SOMETHING, it has to be real - true drive and passion is palpable.
  6. Be well spoken, treat staff with respect, always. A man who gives respect commands respect.
  7. Get your life in order, don’t be late, be a man of your word.
  8. STAND FOR SOMETHING.
  9. Read the classics.
  10. Never pull out your phone when on a date, it should be muted.
That list alone should take 95% of men a while to reconcile. None of the above can be skipped.

Most guys want to pilot an F-35 but have never been in a single prop Cessna.
 

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Again, there is no formula.

There is a framework that you use to fine-tune your custom formula.
  1. Get in gym shape.
  2. Have a wadrobe that reflects who you want to be seen as. Pro tip: if you’re 62 don’t try to dress like a gen-z or millennial. If you don’t know how to dress go to an upscale department store and hire a personal shopper.
  3. Hair cut - do not look like the dude that went to Supercuts.
  4. Be meticulously clean, but do not douse yourself in cologne, in fact use very very little, if at all.
  5. Have a mission/passion in your life, be an expert at SOMETHING, it has to be real - true drive and passion is palpable.
  6. Be well spoken, treat staff with respect, always. A man who gives respect commands respect.
  7. Get your life in order, don’t be late, be a man of your word.
  8. STAND FOR SOMETHING.
  9. Read the classics.
  10. Never pull out your phone when on a date, it should be muted.
That list alone should take 95% of men a while to reconcile. None of the above can be skipped.

Most guys want to pilot an F-35 but have never been in a single prop Cessna.
@Pierce Manhammer I understand all of what you said except 9. Read the classics. By the classics do you mean books like The Book of Pook, or like Don Quixote?
 

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You'd be surprised how much women will swoon if you can rap well. I've watched women lose their minds over a guy doing an eminem cover at a karaoke bar. (he was really good)

I've had women look at me with that glint in their eye for busting out some Snoop Dogg.
 

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Man, some of the people on here seem to have really missed what he was trying to ask. @Mike32ct and @Kotaix bring up some very good points.

@davidsonj73

Learning how to dance can definitely be a good skill to develop. @Mike32ct has discussed this, so he could add more. Something like getting decently proficient at salsa or other latin type dances would allow you to show up to dance clubs without looking like a complete fool. The benefit of this is that women tend to be more into this than men, so you are bound to be able to meet or interact with many different women. Anything that gets you OUT of the house and to where you are having many different interactions with women is a good thing.

@Kotaix brings up an interesting point about rapping. If you were a musician, dj or club rapper this could definitely be beneficial. The problem is that this requires a degree of natural talent and quite a lot of work, so this definitely is not for everyone.
 

What happens, IN HER MIND, is that she comes to see you as WORTHLESS simply because she hasn't had to INVEST anything in you in order to get you or to keep you.

You were an interesting diversion while she had nothing else to do. But now that someone a little more valuable has come along, someone who expects her to treat him very well, she'll have no problem at all dropping you or demoting you to lowly "friendship" status.

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@Pierce Manhammer I understand all of what you said except 9. Read the classics. By the classics do you mean books like The Book of Pook, or like Don Quixote?
More like El Cid, Art of War, The Illead, Shakes, Marcus Aurelius, The Great Gatsby, Twain, 100 Years of Solitude (GGM), etc.
 

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My list works for a mature man, and what is expected of a debonair worldly Gentleman. Most of us are not looking for ONS, we want a quality woman (rare). Quality attracts quality. Class attracts class.
 

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Women are attracted to selfish men. Not complicated.

If you are doing things to get women it will make you look retarded.
 

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Again the answer would depend on the age of the women and her priorities.

A 23 year old woman looking to get pregnant is not going to care too much a man is educated, rich and short. .She wants tall / good hair.
A 42 year old woman looking for a provider is not going to care too much a man is tall / good hair. She wants his resources.

But if the question is what can a man laid quickly, it means short term gratification. And short term is about a man’s genetics. So that means:

1. Get tall.
2. Have good hair.
3. Don’t be fat (you won’t feel good about yourself)
 

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Again the answer would depend on the age of the women and her priorities.

A 23 year old woman looking to get pregnant is not going to care too much a man is educated, rich and short. .She wants tall / good hair.
A 42 year old woman looking for a provider is not going to care too much a man is tall / good hair. She wants his resources.

But if the question is what can a man laid quickly, it means short term gratification. And short term is about a man’s genetics. So that means:

1. Get tall.
2. Have good hair.
3. Don’t be fat (you won’t feel good about yourself)
Is this your personal experience or did you come to believe this strictly from the internet?
 

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OP. For your own sake, you need to try to realize that trying to "adopt" a talent or become talented at something just for the sake of being able to impress women or a woman will inevitably lead to your utter failure with women.

But for a more general answer, I don't think there's any particular talent that stands out in terms of "getting laid." And in this context of getting laid, I mean, being able to choose a woman who's attention you've gotten and bang her with relative ease. The more important thing is being able to have public recognition of said talent and having public authority of that talent. Let's take Tiger Woods as an example. I know lots of women that find him highly attractive. It's not because they think golf is atractive (or even him for that matter), but because he's an elite authority figure in golf through his extreme competence and also he's quite chill and non-chalant about his dominance in the field.

Be publicly competent, add lots of stoic don't-give-a-f*ckness to it, and don't be hideously ugly. Of course, once you have the attention of the women (after gaining the general attention and respect from the public), you still have to not f*ck it up, but that's another discussion.
 

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If anyone knows what skills tend to specifically attract women of the following demographics, I would love to know:
1. White women
2. Latin women
3. Black women
4. Asian women

If you don't know about all these groups but know about some, I'd still like to hear what you have to say.
Not to sound rude but when will you start doing field reports?
 

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If anyone knows what skills tend to specifically attract women of the following demographics, I would love to know:
1. White women
2. Latin women
3. Black women
4. Asian women

If you don't know about all these groups but know about some, I'd still like to hear what you have to say.
Just be white
 

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Social, confidence, quick wit, intelligence, money, physical attributes, living an interesting life
 

Tell her a little about yourself, but not too much. Maintain some mystery. Give her something to think about and wonder about when she's at home.

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