AureliusMaximus
Master Don Juan
Best definition I ever heard so far on this subject. The blackhole analogy is golden.
Thoughs?
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She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
People DO have the ability to make others happy or unhappy.There is an intrinsic flaw to this mans logic which provides a pretty glaring insight into the knowledge he possess about psychology which presents as minimal although the spirit of the idea is intact.
#1: Happiness is an emotion, regulated by your brain... Point blank, being happy is a choice... If you have an individual who is conditionally happy, that's not happiness, that's something else. Happy is something you would be on your own, without anybody around within reason of still having social contact... Women don't need men to be happy and men don't need women to be happy, you can simply choose to be happy and most people eventually do.
So what is he really saying then, in place of the word happy? Happy isn't the right word but it's the closest thing he knows to explain the concept, but this is gonna confuse a ton of people.
We are not able to make other people happy, the idea that you could based off of some provision or presence... Happiness is something unconditional, to attach a condition to it changes what it is.
I would say the better word would be enabling.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Though there is some truth to this in some contexts, few men can be happy without woman. Hence I’ll always remember when I was a young womanless guy my psychologist, who didn’t mince words in discussion of women said, “If you don’t eventually find a woman, you’ll be one of the most miserable people on the planet.” I agreed with that, and quickly got my act together after that conversation.There is an intrinsic flaw to this mans logic which provides a pretty glaring insight into the knowledge he possess about psychology which presents as minimal although the spirit of the idea is intact.
#1: Happiness is an emotion, regulated by your brain... Point blank, being happy is a choice... If you have an individual who is conditionally happy, that's not happiness, that's something else. Happy is something you would be on your own, without anybody around within reason of still having social contact... Women don't need men to be happy and men don't need women to be happy, you can simply choose to be happy and most people eventually do.
So what is he really saying then, in place of the word happy? Happy isn't the right word but it's the closest thing he knows to explain the concept, but this is gonna confuse a ton of people.
We are not able to make other people happy, the idea that you could based off of some provision or presence... Happiness is something unconditional, to attach a condition to it changes what it is.
I would say the better word would be enabling.
Well no one but yourself and only you are 100 percent responsible for your own happiness. Never expect that others should make you happy. This is where it goes wrong for many chicks which think they are entitled to that their bf makes them happyHowever, technically a person SHOULD be able to be happy with or without a person, but many use happiness they obtain from people for other voids of happiness in their life to cover those up.
Do your friends, family, and woman (if you have one) have anything to do with your life satisfaction? If happiness is a choice, can a man choose to be happy while broke and busted, womanless, friendless, in poor health, and no one who loves him, pretty much the antithesis of seemingly all that most posters here want and put a whole lot of effort and thought into obtaining?Well no one but yourself and only you are 100 percent responsible for your own happiness. Never expect that others should make you happy. This is where it goes wrong for many chicks which think they are entitled to that their bf makes them happy
(and for some guys too), they think the other person should make them happy and so it all goes south sooner or later.
Everything in life is (more or less) a choice. all choices and decisions (good or bad) you make have lead you up to this point and result of where you are now in your life. You always make decision either directly by taking action or not and you let others make the choice for you (Which is a decision too)Do your friends, family, and woman (if you have one) have anything to do with your life satisfaction? If happiness is a choice, can a man choose to be happy while broke and busted, womanless, friendless, in poor health, and no one who loves him, pretty much the antithesis of seemingly all that most posters here want and put a whole lot of effort and thought into obtaining?
Modern women doesn't seem to ever be mentally balanced.It's always a game a man must play. Dangle the carrot, always keep them wanting more. Never give them 100%.
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.