AureliusMaximus
Master Don Juan
Best definition I ever heard so far on this subject. The blackhole analogy is golden.
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That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
People DO have the ability to make others happy or unhappy.There is an intrinsic flaw to this mans logic which provides a pretty glaring insight into the knowledge he possess about psychology which presents as minimal although the spirit of the idea is intact.
#1: Happiness is an emotion, regulated by your brain... Point blank, being happy is a choice... If you have an individual who is conditionally happy, that's not happiness, that's something else. Happy is something you would be on your own, without anybody around within reason of still having social contact... Women don't need men to be happy and men don't need women to be happy, you can simply choose to be happy and most people eventually do.
So what is he really saying then, in place of the word happy? Happy isn't the right word but it's the closest thing he knows to explain the concept, but this is gonna confuse a ton of people.
We are not able to make other people happy, the idea that you could based off of some provision or presence... Happiness is something unconditional, to attach a condition to it changes what it is.
I would say the better word would be enabling.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Though there is some truth to this in some contexts, few men can be happy without woman. Hence I’ll always remember when I was a young womanless guy my psychologist, who didn’t mince words in discussion of women said, “If you don’t eventually find a woman, you’ll be one of the most miserable people on the planet.” I agreed with that, and quickly got my act together after that conversation.There is an intrinsic flaw to this mans logic which provides a pretty glaring insight into the knowledge he possess about psychology which presents as minimal although the spirit of the idea is intact.
#1: Happiness is an emotion, regulated by your brain... Point blank, being happy is a choice... If you have an individual who is conditionally happy, that's not happiness, that's something else. Happy is something you would be on your own, without anybody around within reason of still having social contact... Women don't need men to be happy and men don't need women to be happy, you can simply choose to be happy and most people eventually do.
So what is he really saying then, in place of the word happy? Happy isn't the right word but it's the closest thing he knows to explain the concept, but this is gonna confuse a ton of people.
We are not able to make other people happy, the idea that you could based off of some provision or presence... Happiness is something unconditional, to attach a condition to it changes what it is.
I would say the better word would be enabling.
Well no one but yourself and only you are 100 percent responsible for your own happiness. Never expect that others should make you happy. This is where it goes wrong for many chicks which think they are entitled to that their bf makes them happyHowever, technically a person SHOULD be able to be happy with or without a person, but many use happiness they obtain from people for other voids of happiness in their life to cover those up.
Do your friends, family, and woman (if you have one) have anything to do with your life satisfaction? If happiness is a choice, can a man choose to be happy while broke and busted, womanless, friendless, in poor health, and no one who loves him, pretty much the antithesis of seemingly all that most posters here want and put a whole lot of effort and thought into obtaining?Well no one but yourself and only you are 100 percent responsible for your own happiness. Never expect that others should make you happy. This is where it goes wrong for many chicks which think they are entitled to that their bf makes them happy
(and for some guys too), they think the other person should make them happy and so it all goes south sooner or later.
Everything in life is (more or less) a choice. all choices and decisions (good or bad) you make have lead you up to this point and result of where you are now in your life. You always make decision either directly by taking action or not and you let others make the choice for you (Which is a decision too)Do your friends, family, and woman (if you have one) have anything to do with your life satisfaction? If happiness is a choice, can a man choose to be happy while broke and busted, womanless, friendless, in poor health, and no one who loves him, pretty much the antithesis of seemingly all that most posters here want and put a whole lot of effort and thought into obtaining?
Modern women doesn't seem to ever be mentally balanced.It's always a game a man must play. Dangle the carrot, always keep them wanting more. Never give them 100%.
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.