"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Joseph o connor/myers biggs test;
- Thread starter eli77
- Start date
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
CornbreadFed
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Update: I see a LOT Extroverted Thinking in your post history that stands out, you are a photographer, and some minor posts stood out. My final answer is ESTJ. Why did you type as INTJ? 1). The vast majority of people have the wrong definitions of what an introvert and extrovert is, so they screw up on the first letter and it goes downhill from there. 2). INTJs have extroverted thinking as their auxiliary function, so if you were completely unaware of what Extroverted Thinking was, you could've mistaken this as your dominant function while testing. Last, I do not know who you are outside this forum, so I am purely testing you off of your post history.
Fortune_favors_the_bold
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I think Im borderline introvert altought closer to the extrovert range.
2-3 hours a day of socialization are more than enough for me while I need total silence and quiet to work and rest.
CornbreadFed
Master Don Juan
This underscores the significance of adhering to cognitive functions. Extroverted Thinking, while outwardly directed, may exhibit introverted tendencies, harboring a preference to avoid interactions with individuals perceived as lacking intellectual depth. Furthermore, the notion of leadership is multifaceted.
An ENTJ finds limited compatibility with middle management or team leader positions, roles that often entail motivational functions or overseeing larger groups. Instead, ENTJs are better suited for executive leadership roles or guiding more specialized, compact teams. To illustrate, a middle manager interfaces extensively with numerous individuals, whereas a CEO or upper-level manager oversees a larger cohort with more authoritative interactions.
Another example: Joe Biden is the leader of 300 million plus Americans, but he is mainly dealing with his cabinet and leaders of other countries, political parties, and businesses not Joe the plumber in Ohio.
Bible_Belt
Master Don Juan
Enneagrams are more fashionable these days and have an interesting history. There is evidence they played a role in some early religious manuscripts, and may have been the origin of the 7 Deadly Sins dogma.
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
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CornbreadFed
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Then change your post history
why the hell would i do that brain deadThen change your post history
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CornbreadFed
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ambivert pretty much means you are an intelligent extrovert.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
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Seems to depend on how my emotions are running at the time of eval but I’m a bit of a chameleon according to MB.
I like to socialize but it drains me after a while. I appreciate solitude and quiet and alone time although I am quite content being close to one or several individuals. My husband is an introvert and on the ASD spectrum in a very highly intelligent high functioning (STEM) way. I also work in STEM but am very left/right brained so I have great intuition and emotional calibration…
It’s all fascinating stuff.