You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
There are many forms of depression. SS helped me because at some piont I put" all my money on love ". So when i lost this " bet" it was soothing to learn many other men went through similar or worse situations.I had it in eighth grade at the diagnost with chickenpox and having my father passed away . How has this place helped you
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
This is all justified criticism. I was just making the point that there is a genetic biochemical component to depression. Genetics load the gun, environment pulls the trigger. The US in particular has an extremely unhealthy lifestyle- poor work life balance, poor diet, insufficient exercise, high poverty for a hyper developed country, and a corrupt profit based health care system. Therefore, the US is a perfect storm for breeding mental health disorders like depression.a massive middle finger to US pill popping culture from your vulturous doctors.
Every 3rd American has ADHD. Or an opiate addiction because of a bit of back pain.
Not having a go at you personally, I lost my friend to a benzo complication from doctors who thought it was a good thing.
I dont doubt for the minority of cases SSRIs might help but I believe the US systems is a drug sales office as much as a health care service. Virtually no adults here have ADHD and getting an opiate script is so difficult you literally have to be dying of cancer or have a leg hanging off.
Kids on Ritalin, adults on meth, sorry, adderal.
I want to preface this with the fact our system has loads of probs and the US is a great country but the medical system is so distorted by profit motive the general public think that conditions our doctors send you home to work yourself over need to be cured With pills, when they don’t, they just want your money.
Right ona massive middle finger to US pill popping culture from your vulturous doctors.
Every 3rd American has ADHD. Or an opiate addiction because of a bit of back pain.
Not having a go at you personally, I lost my friend to a benzo complication from doctors who thought it was a good thing.
I dont doubt for the minority of cases SSRIs might help but I believe the US systems is a drug sales office as much as a health care service. Virtually no adults here have ADHD and getting an opiate script is so difficult you literally have to be dying of cancer or have a leg hanging off.
Kids on Ritalin, adults on meth, sorry, adderal.
I want to preface this with the fact our system has loads of probs and the US is a great country but the medical system is so distorted by profit motive the general public think that conditions our doctors send you home to work yourself over need to be cured With pills, when they don’t, they just want your money.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Partly because here in the UK they don’t like to diagnose adults with ADHD, not totally sure why but I was told that by a psychologist, maybe they think if you made it to adulthood you will be fine. ADHD caused some of my depression, really messed up my childhood and teen years.So many ADHD sufferers in the states and I’ve never met an adult here who had it, it’s rarer than hens teeth, unheard of.
Don’t tell me you actually believe vaccines cause autismI think many people suffer ADHD like autism these days, due to vaccines, poison and the internet.
Have you ever researched the links between vaccines and autism? Have you spent any time looking at the dramatic increase in autism numbers and when these fluctuations happened?Don’t tell me you actually believe vaccines cause autism
So truePartly because here in the UK they don’t like to diagnose adults with ADHD, not totally sure why but I was told that by a psychologist, maybe they think if you made it to adulthood you will be fine. ADHD caused some of my depression, really messed up my childhood and teen years.
I had to see a therapist and psychologist to get diagnosed with ADHD a few years ago. I always knew I had it. They prescribed me anti depressants (never took them) and tried to box me off with “low mood”, I had to explain my low mood was due to my ADHD, it was a long process for me to be diagnosed and they clearly wanted me on drugs I didn’t need. Many would have just accept the BS they tried pushing on me.
Once I knew I had ADHD I set about to improve my life through diet (cutting sugar is essential) and other means which has been great, I’m like a real person now, mostly.
I think many people suffer ADHD like autism and cancer these days, due to vaccines, poison, lifestyle, the internet. Things will only get worse.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Why stoicism i like that to.I had severe depression most of my teen years, starting around age 14, and lasted until my mid-late 20s, though the worst of it was definitely around my high school years. I would say only within the past 4-5 years I got a handle over it. SS or game/pickup had absolutely nothing to do with it. I thought that doing cold approach and getting laid would help but it did nothing.
Honestly looking back I think the main reason I got better is simply due a few different factors:
The fact that "with time, all wounds heal" and I never let myself veer too far off course
Psychedelic use which helped reorient my life
Generally building wisdom from books, lectures, research, etc.
I've never taken SSRIs or any other prescription medication. I tried years of therapy; didn't work. To this day I am convinced almost all depression and "mental illness" in general is caused by environment/lifestyle, particularly the social/parental environment in which you grew up.
Two books I would recommend to anyone:
The Myth of Mental Illness by Thomas Szasz and In the Realm of Hungry Ghosts by Gabor Mate.
I also have found Zen Buddhism and Roman Stoicism to be particularly helpful. If you're a nihilistic atheist you're almost guaranteed to have a mental illness; it's no surprise that leftists have significantly higher rates of mental illness across all age groups.
As you may or may not know, one of the main benefits of Stoicism (not the type you see in pop culture, such as Spock in Star Trek) is translated as tranquility of mind, basically inner peace. Or at least, that's a large part of what Seneca wrote about. Anyway, the ultimate goal of Stoicism isn't to become emotionless, it's to minimize negative emotions and maximize positive emotions. Rufus was banished to a barren island for several years and thrived. Epictitus was a slave for most of his early life, and a cripple, yet also thrived later in life.Why stoicism i like that to.
You want to elaborate?I too am someone who has never had time for depression. If something is wrong, I spring into action to correct it.
I do remember, as I gradually began to internalize evolutionary psychology and the true nature of the modern socio-sexual marketplace, that I was very shocked and quite sad that the world that I thought I lived in was really non-existent.
Then I learned to fiddle while Rome burns…
I agreeI had severe depression most of my teen years, starting around age 14, and lasted until my mid-late 20s, though the worst of it was definitely around my high school years. I would say only within the past 4-5 years I got a handle over it. SS or game/pickup had absolutely nothing to do with it. I thought that doing cold approach and getting laid would help but it did nothing.
Honestly looking back I think the main reason I got better is simply due a few different factors:
The fact that "with time, all wounds heal" and I never let myself veer too far off course
Psychedelic use which helped reorient my life
Generally building wisdom from books, lectures, research, etc.
I've never taken SSRIs or any other prescription medication. I tried years of therapy; didn't work. To this day I am convinced almost all depression and "mental illness" in general is caused by environment/lifestyle, particularly the social/parental environment in which you grew up.
Two books I would recommend to anyone:
The Myth of Mental Illness by Thomas Szasz and In the Realm of Hungry Ghosts by Gabor Mate.
I also have found Zen Buddhism and Roman Stoicism to be particularly helpful. If you're a nihilistic atheist you're almost guaranteed to have a mental illness; it's no surprise that leftists have significantly higher rates of mental illness across all age groups.
Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.
I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.
Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules. Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.