Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
There are many forms of depression. SS helped me because at some piont I put" all my money on love ". So when i lost this " bet" it was soothing to learn many other men went through similar or worse situations.I had it in eighth grade at the diagnost with chickenpox and having my father passed away . How has this place helped you
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
This is all justified criticism. I was just making the point that there is a genetic biochemical component to depression. Genetics load the gun, environment pulls the trigger. The US in particular has an extremely unhealthy lifestyle- poor work life balance, poor diet, insufficient exercise, high poverty for a hyper developed country, and a corrupt profit based health care system. Therefore, the US is a perfect storm for breeding mental health disorders like depression.a massive middle finger to US pill popping culture from your vulturous doctors.
Every 3rd American has ADHD. Or an opiate addiction because of a bit of back pain.
Not having a go at you personally, I lost my friend to a benzo complication from doctors who thought it was a good thing.
I dont doubt for the minority of cases SSRIs might help but I believe the US systems is a drug sales office as much as a health care service. Virtually no adults here have ADHD and getting an opiate script is so difficult you literally have to be dying of cancer or have a leg hanging off.
Kids on Ritalin, adults on meth, sorry, adderal.
I want to preface this with the fact our system has loads of probs and the US is a great country but the medical system is so distorted by profit motive the general public think that conditions our doctors send you home to work yourself over need to be cured With pills, when they don’t, they just want your money.
Right ona massive middle finger to US pill popping culture from your vulturous doctors.
Every 3rd American has ADHD. Or an opiate addiction because of a bit of back pain.
Not having a go at you personally, I lost my friend to a benzo complication from doctors who thought it was a good thing.
I dont doubt for the minority of cases SSRIs might help but I believe the US systems is a drug sales office as much as a health care service. Virtually no adults here have ADHD and getting an opiate script is so difficult you literally have to be dying of cancer or have a leg hanging off.
Kids on Ritalin, adults on meth, sorry, adderal.
I want to preface this with the fact our system has loads of probs and the US is a great country but the medical system is so distorted by profit motive the general public think that conditions our doctors send you home to work yourself over need to be cured With pills, when they don’t, they just want your money.
You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.
I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.
Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.
These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.
Partly because here in the UK they don’t like to diagnose adults with ADHD, not totally sure why but I was told that by a psychologist, maybe they think if you made it to adulthood you will be fine. ADHD caused some of my depression, really messed up my childhood and teen years.So many ADHD sufferers in the states and I’ve never met an adult here who had it, it’s rarer than hens teeth, unheard of.
Don’t tell me you actually believe vaccines cause autismI think many people suffer ADHD like autism these days, due to vaccines, poison and the internet.
Have you ever researched the links between vaccines and autism? Have you spent any time looking at the dramatic increase in autism numbers and when these fluctuations happened?Don’t tell me you actually believe vaccines cause autism
So truePartly because here in the UK they don’t like to diagnose adults with ADHD, not totally sure why but I was told that by a psychologist, maybe they think if you made it to adulthood you will be fine. ADHD caused some of my depression, really messed up my childhood and teen years.
I had to see a therapist and psychologist to get diagnosed with ADHD a few years ago. I always knew I had it. They prescribed me anti depressants (never took them) and tried to box me off with “low mood”, I had to explain my low mood was due to my ADHD, it was a long process for me to be diagnosed and they clearly wanted me on drugs I didn’t need. Many would have just accept the BS they tried pushing on me.
Once I knew I had ADHD I set about to improve my life through diet (cutting sugar is essential) and other means which has been great, I’m like a real person now, mostly.
I think many people suffer ADHD like autism and cancer these days, due to vaccines, poison, lifestyle, the internet. Things will only get worse.
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
Why stoicism i like that to.I had severe depression most of my teen years, starting around age 14, and lasted until my mid-late 20s, though the worst of it was definitely around my high school years. I would say only within the past 4-5 years I got a handle over it. SS or game/pickup had absolutely nothing to do with it. I thought that doing cold approach and getting laid would help but it did nothing.
Honestly looking back I think the main reason I got better is simply due a few different factors:
The fact that "with time, all wounds heal" and I never let myself veer too far off course
Psychedelic use which helped reorient my life
Generally building wisdom from books, lectures, research, etc.
I've never taken SSRIs or any other prescription medication. I tried years of therapy; didn't work. To this day I am convinced almost all depression and "mental illness" in general is caused by environment/lifestyle, particularly the social/parental environment in which you grew up.
Two books I would recommend to anyone:
The Myth of Mental Illness by Thomas Szasz and In the Realm of Hungry Ghosts by Gabor Mate.
I also have found Zen Buddhism and Roman Stoicism to be particularly helpful. If you're a nihilistic atheist you're almost guaranteed to have a mental illness; it's no surprise that leftists have significantly higher rates of mental illness across all age groups.
As you may or may not know, one of the main benefits of Stoicism (not the type you see in pop culture, such as Spock in Star Trek) is translated as tranquility of mind, basically inner peace. Or at least, that's a large part of what Seneca wrote about. Anyway, the ultimate goal of Stoicism isn't to become emotionless, it's to minimize negative emotions and maximize positive emotions. Rufus was banished to a barren island for several years and thrived. Epictitus was a slave for most of his early life, and a cripple, yet also thrived later in life.Why stoicism i like that to.
You want to elaborate?I too am someone who has never had time for depression. If something is wrong, I spring into action to correct it.
I do remember, as I gradually began to internalize evolutionary psychology and the true nature of the modern socio-sexual marketplace, that I was very shocked and quite sad that the world that I thought I lived in was really non-existent.
Then I learned to fiddle while Rome burns…
I agreeI had severe depression most of my teen years, starting around age 14, and lasted until my mid-late 20s, though the worst of it was definitely around my high school years. I would say only within the past 4-5 years I got a handle over it. SS or game/pickup had absolutely nothing to do with it. I thought that doing cold approach and getting laid would help but it did nothing.
Honestly looking back I think the main reason I got better is simply due a few different factors:
The fact that "with time, all wounds heal" and I never let myself veer too far off course
Psychedelic use which helped reorient my life
Generally building wisdom from books, lectures, research, etc.
I've never taken SSRIs or any other prescription medication. I tried years of therapy; didn't work. To this day I am convinced almost all depression and "mental illness" in general is caused by environment/lifestyle, particularly the social/parental environment in which you grew up.
Two books I would recommend to anyone:
The Myth of Mental Illness by Thomas Szasz and In the Realm of Hungry Ghosts by Gabor Mate.
I also have found Zen Buddhism and Roman Stoicism to be particularly helpful. If you're a nihilistic atheist you're almost guaranteed to have a mental illness; it's no surprise that leftists have significantly higher rates of mental illness across all age groups.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.