Anyone know of any girls who stay single because "the guy" they want, is slow to proceed with her?

[NealIRC]

So she stays single for a while. She may still go to nightclubs, usually with female friends, but she's just accompanying them. And basically rejects whatever guy goes at her, until of course she finds a better 1 than the 1 she waiting on.

 

[Gamisch]

Hmm the "reject all guys" part only counts as long as she doesn't meet an obvious upgrade (can be a man with less smv,but more eagerness to be with her)

I've been this guy plenty of times. It works until she finds someone who will go all in, and then you lose her. And we tend to want what we don't have, so that's when buyers remorse kicks in.

But if this is told to you by a woman, it should be obvious she doesn't want you. Hell,married women might monkeybranche once the right DJ appears, so a single woman who knows she is just a side piece will make the jump must faster.

 

[CornbreadFed]

Yeah a girl can be single but not emotionally single. Once a girl finds a guy that’s her type and not a dip shvt like most men, she will be emotionally invested in this guy for life. The only cure to this is if she finds a similar guy that’s better than him in SMV. Otherwise, this girl will remain emotionally unavailable forever and remain an Alpha widow. She will settle for some sucker and make the their relationship a living nightmare. You do not want to be this guy, take the hints and find another girl that will be emotionally available for YOU.

This is also why LTRs with women with higher notch counts should be completely avoided because they have a higher chance of being an Alpha Widow.

 

[Stanley]

Yup and they tend to be complete nuts

 

[Doctor Europeo]

My fiancee´s sister. She´s has been banging this guy for years and he wont even give her the "girlfriend" label. I would assume he bangs other women, so she´s basically a plate.

 

[Gamisch]

My fiancee´s sister. She´s has been banging this guy for years and he wont even give her the "girlfriend" label. I would assume he bangs other women, so she´s basically a plate.

Isn't her family pushing her to get exclusivity? And how does she justify staying in this situation?

 

[Kotaix]

So she stays single for a while. She may still go to nightclubs, usually with female friends, but she's just accompanying them. And basically rejects whatever guy goes at her, until of course she finds a better 1 than the 1 she waiting on.

sounds like alpha widow to me.

 

[Gamisch]

sounds like alpha widow to me.

I think Cornbread made a good post about it. But this deserves a new phrase, maybe something like "alpha married ", meaning she's currently unavailable because she is some Alpha's side piece. Knowingly she is a side piece, no secrets.

 

[Doctor Europeo]

Isn't her family pushing her to get exclusivity? And how does she justifiey staying in this situation?

Yes, they are pushing. They even invite him to dinner all the time and on special ocassions, like if they were official. But he wont budge. In a way the guy deserves some props for not budging but the way they tream him (like if they were official), I dunno, I find the whole situation a bit bizarre.

The usual: "Its my business", "I know what Im doing", "Stay out of it".

 

[Gamisch]

Yes, they are pushing. They even invite him to dinner all the time and on special ocassions, like if they were official. But he wont budge. In a way the guy deserves some props for not budging but the way they tream him (like if they were official), I dunno, I find the whole situation a bit bizarre.

The usual: "Its my business", "I know what Im doing", "Stay out of it".

Really interesting.

I wonder a few things. How long would it last if he did gave her exclusivity? And when do you get to the woman's breakpoint, where she's like "feck it" and accepts her position?

Great example of a Alpha married woman.

 

[RazorRambo24]

So she stays single for a while. She may still go to nightclubs, usually with female friends, but she's just accompanying them. And basically rejects whatever guy goes at her, until of course she finds a better 1 than the 1 she waiting on.

Sadly, yes I know a girl like this. Would still go out every weekend but not talk to or entertain guys.. Seemed almost like she decided at one point that it was just me and her.. it was almost like she had such a level of trust and an open heart that she just figured that we had a thing- yet we wouldn't even hang very often or anything...but there was def some undeniable connection there --where i felt comfortable just knowing i had her and vice versa-- Her feelings toward me went on for years but I was always on the fence about her from a like seeing a future or dating standpoint.. because i was already having all the benefits of that without commitment. I think both of us were cool with not committing to each other.. In the end when I had an intuition that she started lookin at other options, I kinda cut her off..

Its weird you feel like people that are like that are yours.. like made for you . Not in the romantic sense or spiritual or anything but like almost in a slightly egotistical way.. like u expect them to just always be about u because everything they showed u thusfar resonated with that

She was def something special though.. I still got a special place for her in my heart.. but not in the way that I would date or see a future with her..

@Stanley In my experience, the girl was super normal. She didnt even care about relationships and sex that much. for her it was more like a genuine from the heart type connection.. str8 up an Angel on Earth. She got me through some real rough times

 

[Stanley]

@Stanley In my experience, the girl was super normal. She didnt even care about relationships and sex that much. for her it was more like a genuine from the heart type connection.. str8 up an Angel on Earth. She got me through some real rough times

That's nice man.

 

[Millard Fillmore]

Yeah but so what

 

[NealIRC]

Yeah but so what

So it's fun imprinting them. Give them a dose of you, then pull out, and she stays single cuz she can't find a guy better than you.

 

[BadBoy89]

So she stays single for a while. She may still go to nightclubs, usually with female friends, but she's just accompanying them. And basically rejects whatever guy goes at her, until of course she finds a better 1 than the 1 she waiting on.

That is their goal. Women are always looking for the bigger better deal.

Men, on the other hand, think once they get a hot girlfriend, their work is done. They can put their feet up and relax. Nothing can be further from the truth, Men have to work harder once they get a girlfriend.

 

[Murk]

Girls that other men won't commit to, you have to wonder why? Why would this seemingly high-quality female struggle to find commitment? You know why, we all do.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

Yes, they are pushing. They even invite him to dinner all the time and on special ocassions, like if they were official. But he wont budge. In a way the guy deserves some props for not budging but the way they tream him (like if they were official), I dunno, I find the whole situation a bit bizarre.

The usual: "Its my business", "I know what Im doing", "Stay out of it".

It likely means he is far above her in value either from a status or financial perspective and the family wants that and sees him as a "good catch "

 

[BackInTheGame78]

So basically pimping their daughter out....

Well...I doubt it. She is a grown woman who can make her own decisions.

I am also probably sure what they hear is far different than what is actually happening between them.

 

[NealIRC]

So it's fun imprinting them. Give them a dose of you, then pull out, and she stays single cuz she can't find a guy better than you.

Or, make a girl think twice about if she should make a move with a guy, or move on. Act what she's attracted to, not do what she doesn't find attractive in men.

 

[NealIRC]

Yes, they are pushing. They even invite him to dinner all the time and on special ocassions, like if they were official. But he wont budge. In a way the guy deserves some props for not budging but the way they tream him (like if they were official), I dunno, I find the whole situation a bit bizarre.

The usual: "Its my business", "I know what Im doing", "Stay out of it".

Sadly, yes I know a girl like this. Would still go out every weekend but not talk to or entertain guys.. Seemed almost like she decided at one point that it was just me and her.. it was almost like she had such a level of trust and an open heart that she just figured that we had a thing- yet we wouldn't even hang very often or anything...but there was def some undeniable connection there --where i felt comfortable just knowing i had her and vice versa-- Her feelings toward me went on for years but I was always on the fence about her from a like seeing a future or dating standpoint.. because i was already having all the benefits of that without commitment. I think both of us were cool with not committing to each other.. In the end when I had an intuition that she started lookin at other options, I kinda cut her off..

Its weird you feel like people that are like that are yours.. like made for you . Not in the romantic sense or spiritual or anything but like almost in a slightly egotistical way.. like u expect them to just always be about u because everything they showed u thusfar resonated with that

She was def something special though.. I still got a special place for her in my heart.. but not in the way that I would date or see a future with her..

@Stanley In my experience, the girl was super normal. She didnt even care about relationships and sex that much. for her it was more like a genuine from the heart type connection.. str8 up an Angel on Earth. She got me through some real rough times

So basically, both these girls have one-itis?