noctorious
Don Juan
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Not enough
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
How many chicks have you slept with?
- Thread starter timmylivingalie
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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
ManFromTartarus
Senior Don Juan
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About 30, was married for a while so that took a chunk out of my DJ years.
Atom Smasher
Master Don Juan
The SoSuave algorithm rounds up to the nearest 50.
escaleraroyal
Master Don Juan
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You are not gonna believe, 3 million.
Atom Smasher
Master Don Juan
Get outta here. Two million, maybe. But three million?
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
dustmuffin
Master Don Juan
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Over 100
TheMonkeyKing
Master Don Juan
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As an honest approximation, would say approaching or around 100. Genuinely stopped counting at 50ish. Then started a rough guess again a few years back which got to about 90, and probably another half a dozen since then
Murk
Master Don Juan
58 now.
Gamisch
Master Don Juan
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Haha dont you have a steady gf bro?
Murk
Master Don Juan
No not any more
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Peaks&Valleys
Master Don Juan
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When I was 19 I was 30+, started young. However, lost my way for a while got in some droughts, it was bad, went a year and a half once without a new one. Now, the total is most likely 100+. Last 5 years it's just been with one. I'm at the point where new ones are nice but my standards are high and my opportunities and energy for it are low.
Murk
Master Don Juan
59 now (yes I’ll be using this thread to keep track)
Fowo
Don Juan
Why track it so religiously though?
I'm almost 24 and despite being in a 4 years long relationship I ended recently im probably somewhere around 20-25 right now. Still, I never quite understood the concept of keeping the track of exact number, it always felt to me like to some people it's an ego thing "omg I'm so cool, my number is XYZ". Especially that, let's be honest, sex is very often of much higher quality in fwb-type relationships over hookups, and to maintain this type of relationship it also requires some skill. When you don't look like a zombie and have basic dancing skills, you can increase your number very quickly by nightgame. Still though - what's the point when the number doesn't really translate to actuall skills (if you use it to measure it per say)?
I'm almost 24 and despite being in a 4 years long relationship I ended recently im probably somewhere around 20-25 right now. Still, I never quite understood the concept of keeping the track of exact number, it always felt to me like to some people it's an ego thing "omg I'm so cool, my number is XYZ". Especially that, let's be honest, sex is very often of much higher quality in fwb-type relationships over hookups, and to maintain this type of relationship it also requires some skill. When you don't look like a zombie and have basic dancing skills, you can increase your number very quickly by nightgame. Still though - what's the point when the number doesn't really translate to actuall skills (if you use it to measure it per say)?
Murk
Master Don Juan
I like to know the exact number, I’m big on details and specifics in my life. Why do you care so much that I want to track my bodycount? You talk about quality of sex and ego, you come across as a weirdo. I suggest you focus on your own life.
Fowo
Don Juan
You turn around to attack me while I asked as I was genuinely curious, this is a discussion forum after all. What I wrote was not an attack on you - I asked a question and explained my personal reasoning behind it. Calm your ass
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Murk
Master Don Juan
I asked why you care so much about me and my bodycount, I called you a weirdo, you’ve failed to answer my question and my initial statement remains, focus on your own life.
characternote
Master Don Juan
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about 75.
But I have too approach a LOT of hot girls to find one who find me hot, so it's a slog. It's not easy! Hell of a lot of rejections. Some fairly harsh lol
I have really good looking friends (such as my main wing) who have banged about 300 girls, and they don't need to do sh1t! haha. Don't even tend to approach in fact. Them's the breaks. We all Gotta make the most of what we got
But I have too approach a LOT of hot girls to find one who find me hot, so it's a slog. It's not easy! Hell of a lot of rejections. Some fairly harsh lol
I have really good looking friends (such as my main wing) who have banged about 300 girls, and they don't need to do sh1t! haha. Don't even tend to approach in fact. Them's the breaks. We all Gotta make the most of what we got
Stanley
Master Don Juan
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I think most people keep track of their count. Most normal guys don't tend to hit double digits anyways. I actually find it more interesting how you don't know the exact number of girls you've been with. I don't know how you could forget personally
Murk
Master Don Juan
Of course he knows, he’s trying to troll me. 20-25 is not so high you can’t remember them. He’s 24, he remembers them clearly. He’s low iq.
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.