Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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POLL: How many HB9s have you slept with on multiple occassions?

How many HB9s have you slept with more than once? (fwb, g/f, plate, ...)

  • 0

    Votes: 5 31.3%
  • 1

    Votes: 4 25.0%
  • 2

    Votes: 1 6.3%
  • 3-5

    Votes: 3 18.8%
  • 6-10

    Votes: 1 6.3%
  • 11-20

    Votes: 1 6.3%
  • 21-40

    Votes: 0 0.0%
  • 41+

    Votes: 1 6.3%

  • Total voters
    16
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TheMonkeyKing

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I don't agree with that at all, never liked blondes, prefer brunettes.
Margot is a beautiful woman but prime Selma Hayek blows her off the map for me.

It is subjective, to try to deny this is going against human nature.
Was literally just thinking of Selma! My last gf was like Selma if you ordered from Wish But actually not that much worse!
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Might be tough to find universal agreement. For example, even though white women are the beauty standard, there are still plenty of men with little attraction to them.
 

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Might be tough to find universal agreement. For example, even though white women are the beauty standard, there are still plenty of men with little attraction to them.
You don’t have to be attracted to someone to rate them. None of us are attracted to men but you still know a Chad when you see him.
 

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My ratings closely match those of Wheat Waffles, although he claims HB8, HB9 and HB10 have no meaningful differences.
I didn't know he said that. I have to agree with him.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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You don’t have to be attracted to someone to rate them. None of us are attracted to men but you still know a Chad when you see him.
Sometimes I can tell and sometimes I can't. Sometimes it just doesn't even occur to me. A couple of times I've been mystified that certain celebrities were said to be attractive and I was surprised, but I was informed they were really hot - Colin Jost and Seth McFarlane. I never would have known.
 

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Pics or it didn’t happen.

I rarely see higher than 7 in everyday life. 9s are movie stars, models, and pageant queens. Most of y’all are capping. They were 7s at best.
I don't get why people think celebrities and such are higher on the scale. I've seen women as hot as your A-lister (e.g. Margot Robbie) walking around on the street. Now sleeping with her, that's different. But they are out there to approach. And pageant queens? Please.

Anyway usually it's women that are attracted to celebs. For men, this is meaningless, other than having a neat story to tell if you nail one.
 

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I don't get why people think celebrities and such are higher on the scale. I've seen women as hot as your A-lister (e.g. Margot Robbie) walking around on the street. Now sleeping with her, that's different. But they are out there to approach. And pageant queens? Please.
We think they are higher on the scale because they are higher on the scale. I work in NYC; unless you live in SoCal, I find it hard to believe where you are has HB8+ just walking around everywhere. I’ve seen but a handful of HB9s in real life, and only in places such as Las Vegas, Miami, and Los Angeles. Those women are by definition extremely rare.

A woman’s beauty is her currency. It is her door to opportunities. Average and even “cute” girls do not end up in magazines, winning pageants, or starring in movies. Peak Margot Robbie is indeed elite tier, hotter than 100% of the women you have ever talked to in your life.
 

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I don't agree with that at all, never liked blondes, prefer brunettes.
Margot is a beautiful woman but prime Selma Hayek blows her off the map for me.

It is subjective, to try to deny this is going against human nature.
Agree.

Though I think of Margot as more "cute hot," so I do like her. She doesn't have that weird vapid cover girl look, usually has a smile on her face which is sexy to me.
 

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We think they are higher on the scale because they are higher on the scale. I work in NYC; unless you live in SoCal, I find it hard to believe where you are has HB8+ just walking around everywhere. I’ve seen but a handful of HB9s in real life, and only in places such as Las Vegas, Miami, and Los Angeles. Those women are by definition extremely rare.

A woman’s beauty is her currency. It is her door to opportunities. Average and even “cute” girls do not end up in magazines, winning pageants, or starring in movies. Margot Robbie is indeed elite tier, hotter than 100% of the women you have ever talked to in your life.
Disagree.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Disagree.
You are looking at this from your own lens. There are chicks you may personally find more attractive, however the consensus of the general population and where she is in life disagrees.

If you know a broad that is over 27, never been married, never dated a wealthy guy, or never gotten a modeling contract, there is a strong probability she really just isn’t as attractive as you think she is.
 

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You are looking at this from your own lens. There are chicks you may personally find more attractive, however the consensus of the general population and where she is in life disagrees.
This is contradictory IMO. Everyone has their own lens. Therefore there is no 'consensus.' I'm not going to pursue a girl because other people her attractive. Only boner that matters is my own.

We can see this with beauty pageants. The judges vote and someone wins. It doesn't make it objective, and if a judge voted for a non-winner, doesn't mean that will change his mind. So 51% can be for one and 49% for the others. Or a plurality - less than 50% since there are many finalists. I guess you can call that a consensus since it was put to a vote, but it's still a variety of opinion. Subjective.
 

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Visual Analogue Circlejerk
 

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This is contradictory IMO. Everyone has their own lens. Therefore there is no 'consensus.' I'm not going to pursue a girl because other people her attractive. Only boner that matters is my own.

We can see this with beauty pageants. The judges vote and someone wins. It doesn't make it objective, and if a judge voted for a non-winner, doesn't mean that will change his mind. So 51% can be for one and 49% for the others. Or a plurality - less than 50% since there are many finalists. I guess you can call that a consensus since it was put to a vote, but it's still a variety of opinion. Subjective.
No contradiction here - you just confirmed my point. In a pageant, you can fancy candidate A based on personal taste, but the panel of judges vote and B wins. That actually means B > A.

Now apply that to real life. You may bang a girl that you consider a 9. Great. However, she is 29 years old, has never been married, has never even dated a high status man, has no modeling or acting contracts. These facts about her are a better overall reflection of her true SMV. She may be a 9 to you, but not others. There’s nothing wrong with dating this girl, she’s just not actually a 9.
 

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You don’t have to be attracted to someone to rate them. None of us are attracted to men but you still know a Chad when you see him.
Exactly. Chads generally have certain features in common that I don’t need to list here. It’s pretty easy to pick up on the pattern even as a straight guy.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Millard Fillmore

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No contradiction here - you just confirmed my point. In a pageant, you can fancy candidate A based on personal taste, but the panel of judges vote and B wins. That actually means B > A.

Now apply that to real life. You may bang a girl that you consider a 9. Great. However, she is 29 years old, has never been married, has never even dated a high status man, has no modeling or acting contracts. These facts about her are a better overall reflection of her true SMV. She may be a 9 to you, but not others. There’s nothing wrong with dating this girl, she’s just not actually a 9.
I see your point but we disagree.
 

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Margot Robbie is a max a 8, I've been with girls wayyyy hotter than her. She is hot, but elite tier? nah. I worked as a fashion photographer in Moscow Russia, you have no idea what I've seen there.
8/9 is splitting hairs. She’s going to be in the 95+ percentile in the West.
 

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Margot Robbie is a max a 8, I've been with girls wayyyy hotter than her. She is hot, but elite tier? nah. I worked as a fashion photographer in Moscow Russia, you have no idea what I've seen there.
I've worked with celebrities in the past (not her though). Once you see women like this in person, you see they are as "elite" as the next pretty face. But again: we all see reality subjectively. On a macro level it's still just a collection of individual opinions. One man's 7 is another man's 10. There are men who let that affect them though... "Do you think my girlfriend is hot bro?"
 

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My ratings closely match those of Wheat Waffles, although he claims HB8, HB9 and HB10 have no meaningful differences.
I didn't know he said that. I have to agree with him.
In my view, an HB8 is very attractive, but seeing an HB10 drives guys crazy. I planned to create a thread to ask about how to avoid acquintances at risk for brain melt in the presence of HB10s.
 

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I've worked with celebrities in the past (not her though). Once you see women like this in person, you see they are as "elite" as the next pretty face. But again: we all see reality subjectively. On a macro level it's still just a collection of individual opinions. One man's 7 is another man's 10. There are men who let that affect them though... "Do you think my girlfriend is hot bro?"
I suspect the shock wears off as the work hours add up. If you have any advice on detecting & avoiding celebrity-obsessed guys, I'm curious about that. While I haven't dated a celebrity, I had some acquaintances became obsessed with my girlfriend at the time. Spotting them earlier and avoiding their awkwardness would be a plus.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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