"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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How to get tested for STDs

thermodynamic

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How do you go about getting tested for common STDs in the USA? with and without health insurance. How often do you suggest to get tested if you get around 10 partners a year and use condoms with all of them?
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Doctor can order a test on routine physical with bloodwork and urine. You’re also pseudo tested for blood bourne STDs when you donate. I recommend all of us get an annual physical and to donate blood at least once a year.

You can also go to planned parenthood in some states. They will test for STDs, and is fully covered by your state government.

If you wear condoms for all sexual contact, the chance of contracting the major STDs is infinitesimal bordering on impossible. STDs are transmitted mostly by unprotected sexual acts such as bare BJs, and high risk acts such as anal sex where condoms are likely to not be used or are shredded in the act. Even while bare backing, vaginal sex isn’t that likely to transmit from female to male.
 

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Doctor can order a test on routine physical with bloodwork and urine. You’re also pseudo tested for blood bourne STDs when you donate. I recommend all of us get an annual physical and to donate blood at least once a year.

You can also go to planned parenthood in some states. They will test for STDs, and is fully covered by your state government.

If you wear condoms for all sexual contact, the chance of contracting the major STDs is infinitesimal bordering on impossible. STDs are transmitted mostly by unprotected sexual acts such as bare BJs, and high risk acts such as anal sex where condoms are likely to not be used or are shredded in the act. Even while bare backing, vaginal sex isn’t that likely to transmit from female to male.
I get unprotected BJs from practically all girls I bang. I assume this is fairly common ?
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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I assume you cannot get HIV or any of the really hard core diseases this way ?
I think your biggest risk would be transmission of herpes if she has a cold sore.... if you have ever gotten a cold sore on your lip you really do not have to worry. HIV from straight sex is pretty rare... and from bjs probably almost non existent. I have never had a cold sore... and do not have the virus and have never put a rubber on for a BJ. If the girl had a festering sore on her lip I’m not letting that near my c0ck.
 

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In the us become a member of:


It’s a site that is about managing your own health, they allow you to order your own bloodwork from normal reputable labs like Quest, they also provide MD consultation if you don’t know how to read the results.

They have like every blood test known to man, including STD panels and male hormone levels etc etc.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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What are the ways to test for hpv?

Also is it more riskful for them to blow us or for us to lick them?

I never paid much attention to that in the last decade yet I got nothing for what I recall.
 

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Any family practice can do comprehensive STD panel bloodwork. If you don't have insurance, there are 3rd party companies that do it too like Labcorp, which are usually reasonably priced.

Honestly though, the cheapest way to get tested is to **** a girl raw a few times then have her go get tested herself 2 weeks later.

Anyway I wouldn't worry about it. I've raw dogged probably a dozen women now and gotten many BJs (who the hell uses a condom for a BJ) and eaten out at least a dozen women as well - never caught anything, and I test myself every year.

STD risks, and pregnancy, are largely overblown. All those government funded programs that used scare-tactics in school were full of shvt. It's understandable - we lie to children and say porcupines can throw their quills, in an effort to make sure kids avoid them because while they cannot throw quills, their quills can be fatal. In the same way, we've conditioned people to be terrified of STDs and pregnancy, when in fact they are fairly low risk.
 
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What are the ways to test for hpv?

Also is it more riskful for them to blow us or for us to lick them?

I never paid much attention to that in the last decade yet I got nothing for what I recall.
Nope. A dude cannot be tested for HPV.

Any family practice can do comprehensive STD panel bloodwork. If you don't have insurance, there are 3rd party companies that do it too like Labcorp, which are usually reasonably priced.

Honestly though, the cheapest way to get tested is to **** a girl raw a few times then have her go get tested herself 2 weeks later.

Anyway I wouldn't worry about it. I've raw dogged probably a dozen women now and gotten many BJs (who the hell uses a condom for a BJ) and eaten out at least a dozen women as well - never caught anything, and I test myself every year.

STD risks, and pregnancy, are largely overblown. All those government funded programs that used scare-tactics in school were full of shvt. It's understandable - we lie to children and say porcupines can throw their quills, in an effort to make sure kids avoid them because while they cannot throw quills, their quills can be fatal. In the same way, we've conditioned people to be terrified of STDs and pregnancy, when in fact they are fairly low risk.
Don't listen to a crash test dummy post like this.
 

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Yes they can? You can get HPV in your throat.


Feel free to point out where you think i'm wrong
Do you know I work in the ER? YOU ARE INCORRECT!

Link - https://www.cdc.gov/std/hpv/stdfact-hpv-and-men.htm


Is there testing for HPV in Men?
No, there is currently no approved test for HPV in men.

CDC does not recommend routine testing (also called ‘screening’) for HPV in men. CDC also does not recommend routine testing for diseases from HPV before there are signs or symptoms in men. Some healthcare providers offer anal Pap tests to men who may be at greater risk for anal cancer. This includes men with HIV or men who receive anal sex. If you have symptoms and have concerns about cancer, please see a healthcare provider.

Can I receive treatment for HPV or health problems that develop from HPV?
There is no specific treatment for HPV. But, there are treatments for health problems that develop from HPV. Your healthcare provider can treat genital warts with prescription medication. Cancers from HPV are more treatable when found and treated early. For more information, visit www.cancer.org.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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PP is cheap. But they ask a billion questions. Quest Diagnostics is a bit pricey, but quick.
 

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Do you know I work in the ER? YOU ARE INCORRECT!

Link - https://www.cdc.gov/std/hpv/stdfact-hpv-and-men.htm


Is there testing for HPV in Men?
No, there is currently no approved test for HPV in men.

CDC does not recommend routine testing (also called ‘screening’) for HPV in men. CDC also does not recommend routine testing for diseases from HPV before there are signs or symptoms in men. Some healthcare providers offer anal Pap tests to men who may be at greater risk for anal cancer. This includes men with HIV or men who receive anal sex. If you have symptoms and have concerns about cancer, please see a healthcare provider.

Can I receive treatment for HPV or health problems that develop from HPV?
There is no specific treatment for HPV. But, there are treatments for health problems that develop from HPV. Your healthcare provider can treat genital warts with prescription medication. Cancers from HPV are more treatable when found and treated early. For more information, visit www.cancer.org.
That's strange, when I asked my Dr about getting tested for HPV she didn't say there were no tests, only that it's rare for men to get HPV.
 

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That's strange, when I asked my Dr about getting tested for HPV she didn't say there were no tests, only that it's rare for men to get HPV.
Not rare for dudes, quite common. However, many of the stains the body can fight off. For females with a lot of partners, much more common because they get it from dudes during unprotected sex.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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