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Sex after quitting porn

MrMcHaza

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So I’ve recently joined a community and I’ve taken on a no porn no masturbation challenge. I’m 17 days in my confidence has gone through the roof I’m attracting females through the rational male. The thing is I had sex today and i shot my load way too fast this really shook my confidence. I’ve got females that want me but I’m just to afraid this would happen again. Does anyone have any advice on this or experience does this get better. I’m good on the field and I can get women this is putting me off because I don’t want to embarrass myself.
 

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So I’ve recently joined a community and I’ve taken on a no porn no masturbation challenge. I’m 17 days in my confidence has gone through the roof I’m attracting females through the rational male. The thing is I had sex today and i shot my load way too fast this really shook my confidence. I’ve got females that want me but I’m just to afraid this would happen again. Does anyone have any advice on this or experience does this get better. I’m good on the field and I can get women this is putting me off because I don’t want to embarrass myself.
I always had that problem regardless the porn, it basically happened 80% of the times with no connection to the beauty of the girl.

The only solution is telling them that you're horny and you're gonna fill them up fast cause you're not in the mood to control yourself.

The second round usually goes much better and the third one even more.
If I manage to get to yound 4 I can basically jackhammer nonstop with no issue, actually it gets hard to finish.

The only issue is that sometimes you cant recover after round 1, it doesnt depend on any factor I'm aware to, sometime it just happens.

Be very honest and clear about it with an unapologetic attitude.
 

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So I’ve recently joined a community and I’ve taken on a no porn no masturbation challenge. I’m 17 days in my confidence has gone through the roof I’m attracting females through the rational male. The thing is I had sex today and i shot my load way too fast this really shook my confidence. I’ve got females that want me but I’m just to afraid this would happen again. Does anyone have any advice on this or experience does this get better. I’m good on the field and I can get women this is putting me off because I don’t want to embarrass myself.
Finishing too early can be mentally reversed. Even with a regular lay girl being early can happen occasionally and can be caused by a heightened and aroused emotional state which may supersede your rational and logical thinking pattern.
Develop the ability to separate your mental activity from the sex act by temporarily thinking exclusively about something completely different than the sex, concentrating on a bathtub full of ice cubes buys me more time when needed and serves to level my head back out.
 

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So I’ve recently joined a community and I’ve taken on a no porn no masturbation challenge. I’m 17 days in my confidence has gone through the roof I’m attracting females through the rational male. The thing is I had sex today and i shot my load way too fast this really shook my confidence. I’ve got females that want me but I’m just to afraid this would happen again. Does anyone have any advice on this or experience does this get better. I’m good on the field and I can get women this is putting me off because I don’t want to embarrass myself.
Get those wipe things that are used to reduce stimulation and use them right before you drive into that box. They are at your local pharmacy store, or online.
 

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It's not really the porn it's the lack of masturbation/ejaculation. When I started no fap/porn I would nut soooo fast, like as soon as my D entered my girl's V, I would literally know then and there, I'm not gonna last. I would feel how good it felt and know in that instant I will be nutting in 2-3 minutes.

Don't fight it, embrace it, get that nut and go again. After a while you get your old strength back. I was literally nutting in under 5 minutes but not fully enjoying it as I was so pissed off I was cumming quick.

Don't worry about it, keep going. These side effects fade after a few months of regular sex.
 
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I had just the opposite problem. Both of them suck, tbh. I figured out that my body will only finish in certain positions and I love hearing girls moan while I’m screwing them. Do you finish with girls on too easily because I can’t?
 

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just abstain from porn as much as you can and bang several times a week, eventually you will be in control (maybe not 100% of the times but most of the time) and sex will be an even better experience for both you and the girl
 

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You guys are looking way too into this. @MrMcHaza specifically stated that he went 17 days without masturbating, I'm going to assume that meant 0 ejaculation at all in that time frame. That is a very long time to go without a sexual release and it's totally understandable why he wasn't able to last long.
 

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If you quit porn and masturbation, you are re-wiring your brain's dopamine and reward circuitry. This takes longer than 17 days. This can take anywhere from months to years.

In general, sex after quitting porn and masturbation becomes better.
 

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When I haven't busted a nut in awhile I run the risk of cumming too quickly during sex. Doesn't matter if I look at p0rn or not.

To overcome that I drink alcohol, masturbate before, or mentally think of something other than her while we are having sex. Regular sex is the only thing that cures the problem.
 

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You need to learn how to control your muscle groups and your penis so when you take a piss stop midstream over and over again that's one way do that along with no fap and no p*** and you'll be good how old are you by the way that also plays a factor
 

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You need to learn how to control your muscle groups and your penis so when you take a piss stop midstream over and over again that's one way do that along with no fap and no p*** and you'll be good how old are you by the way that also plays a factor
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Whenever I come quickly I just compliment, her, let her suck my D and go again. I tell to stay just like that a second round is coming in 3,2,1...

Or just be cool about , have smoke or a drink or whatever and be right back at it. This can be a HUGE compliment to a woman if you play it right. Ofcourse you MUST also tear her apart a little later..

But yeah, this is why you dont copy paste others advice without thinking for yourself. If you know you gonna feck that day you are allowed to fap, you're a grown man. Doesn't mean you have to watch porn. But you gotta be prepared for everything when you meet a woman.
 

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It’s absolutely the best. The sensation, the motivation, the whole thing, just all the way it was supposed to be. It’s a feeling that porn will never create for you.
 
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