Why is it that women seem to be such attention seekers compared to (straight) men? Really seems like only women (and flamboyant gay guys) dress provocatively, post skanky chit on insta, etc. and it's fkn annoying. Is there some science behind this or something?
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
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"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Bible_Belt
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It must work if they all do it.
Kotaix
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Women's historical survival strategy revolves around conformance and being in the in-group. When there is a war and a country has been conquered, women must be able to fit in with the new paradigm because they aren't capable of physical resistance. It's either conform and submit, or be raped/killed.
Also, a woman's power hinges heavily on her beauty. A man's power hinges on his physical power and knowledge.
As for gays... well that's a modern scenario that doesn't really have a direct historical correlation.
Also, a woman's power hinges heavily on her beauty. A man's power hinges on his physical power and knowledge.
As for gays... well that's a modern scenario that doesn't really have a direct historical correlation.
BillyPilgrim
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A relative lack of agency is at play too imo. If you can get sh1t done on your own, what do you need attention for?
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
This dynamic gets old to be around. We had a group lunch today and one of the women that went got dressed up to the nines. Usually she hates birthdays and never celebrates anyone. Well with the pandemic, her daily dose of attention has died. Today she shows up in tight jeans and a super tight top. Since a few of us know she is a covert narcissist attention hoe, we don’t give her a single compliment or pay her much attention. My thought was, nice you dressed up but none of us are fvcking you so what’s the point? When women do this type of thing it‘s pathetic. She dressed up to feel good about herself but also to fish for compliments. Feels like she is trying to use us to boost her ego.
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They do it to boost their own egos and feel like they have value.
When you see this behaviour it's best to basically ignore them.
AureliusMaximus
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Male attention is their life blood, well any attention (E.g. female too). But especially male attention. They need to be validated that they are good enough and hot enough for their own ego. Take a way your male attention and they are like a flower without sunlight. it will wither and eventually die. Same with girls, if you take away the attention they will go mad and eventually break down.
Just accept it dudebro and move on @dahnwahn9
