What are red flags in a woman?

[Canadian_Man]

Top Flag: She’s been Alpha Widowed

1). Flirty with men
2). Owns a large dog or multiple dogs
3). Too good in bed/high amount of previous sexual encounters
4). Tattoos
5). Toxic friends/always going on weekend trips
6). Busy schedule
7). Plays any games
8). Past age 25 and still lives with parents….In the USA
9). Bubbly/friendly personality
10). Indecisive opportunists, can’t make a decision by herself
11). Disney mentality with dating. If she brings up terms such as vibe, romantic connections, chemistry, spark….NEXT

NOW TO END IT: IF SHE HAS BEEN SINGLE FOR A YEAR OR MORE/1 month flings do not count

I'll add to this list.

(12) Mental health issues and/or severe anxiety
(13) Desperate and/or very lonely
(14) Rebounding
(15) Victim-hood mindset (if she blames everyone else for her issues, she will eventually blame you too)
(16) More male friends than female friends

 

[BillyPilgrim]

From observations of mine plus some personal experiences;

A major red flag is when a woman is highly active on social media to the point where it is a regular part of her life. If she is constantly taking selfies, particularly thirst trap type photos showing herself off in a provocative way it's often not a good thing to see. I've noticed that women like this are not only narcissistic but their entire existence is based around the validation they can get from others, particularly men. Women like this are naturally going to get a lot of attention and will be bombarded by men. These women will also lead men on, as the more orbiters she can get the better. Pretty self-explanatory, I'd steer clear of women like this without hesitation, just a modern example of attention whoring.

Something else I've seen, though not quite as obvious as the example above, is if a woman overshares personal issues at a time where it is inappropriate. If you have been dating for quite a while it is normal to open up about some traumas from childhood, etc. However, if on the first date she starts talking about her psychological issues or brings up something like sexual abuse or trauma this is a very bad sign. Quite a while ago I had a first date with a woman and she randomly blurted out how she was sexually abused as a child, there was literally nothing in the conversation that would have led to that. Very bad sign.

Some more obvious examples;

- Has a lot of tatoos
- Has unusual/excessive piercings
- Unnatural colored hair (pink, blue, etc.)

I've found that with these above very often these women are not something you want around. I've noticed that the women with unnatural hair colors often seem to have legitimate mental health issues.

Other things I'd steer clear of would be party girls or women who have an alcohol problem or are drug users, this really doesn't need any further explanation.

Obtaining sex is easy. Any dismay expressed at the current SMP is evidence of an egregious personal flaw. Learn to live a fulfilling and well-rounded life without the innate need for female companionship. A man who isn't the master of his own domain is no man at all.

@EyeOnThePrize

 

[Canadian_Man]

Another thread on this topic:

Your Top 10 Red Flags to Look Out for

- Parents are separated or divorced. She will always have this fear of being abandoned again or not being worthy enough and will sabotage relationships because of it. - She travels a lot. Permission to be slutty without her family and friends knowing it. - She has a cat. A substitute for the...

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[TheGambino]

Very extroverted is not a red flag by itself. Being very flirtatious with men in general is. This is typically a woman who has Cluster B tendencies and relishes a lot of validation. She isn't going to get enough validation from just you in a relationship and this will be a constant battle.

On the other hand, these types are very fun in short bursts. For just social events/sex they are perfect. My problem personally is I am highly attracted to this type of woman despite knowing the pitfalls. I had a long LTR with a HB 8.5 who had these tendencies and it was probably the most exciting relationship of my life when it first began - but it became hell. You will constantly be setting and reaffirming boundaries and she will constantly be breaking them. Tread carefully.

Cluster B, borderliner. She will always idealize you, love bomb then when u do stuff she doesn’t like she will monkey branch. Its in her nature, she is fvcked up. Don’t catch feelings, spin plates. I had one, it was hell.

 

[Solomon]

1. Women who are to busy to make time for you (yet have time to go drinking with their thot friends)
2. Women Who sent you nudes before you meet them
3. Women who have done onlyfans this is becoming more and more common on dating apps
4. Women who show thier body on IG/SNapchat or any social media has increased a lot since 2020
5. Women who let you smash raw the first night

 

[Gamisch]

I have met a woman that is extroverted but VERY flirty with men. I am wondering whether this is a red flag?

Also, could anyone let me know what red flags to look out for. Thanks

What do YOU want from this woman? Sounds like you want a LTR...

She already "puppy dogged " you several times it seems. She flirting wit other men in front of you while you couldn't stand it, =disrespect. Never forget ,you determine the laws of the relationship at the beginning, not midway. She beta'd you already and she knows that believe me.

Add to that single moms, 32, and alpha widowed, heavy drinker. Just freaking leave. Only way to handle such a woman is by being 100% aloof and see her for fun only.

 

[will123]

What do YOU want from this woman? Sounds like you want a LTR...

She already "puppy dogged " you several times it seems. She flirting wit other men in front of you while you couldn't stand it, =disrespect. Never forget ,you determine the laws of the relationship at the beginning, not midway. She beta'd you already and she knows that believe me.

Add to that single moms, 32, and alpha widowed, heavy drinker. Just freaking leave. Only way to handle such a woman is by being 100% aloof and see her for fun only.

She hasn't been flirty with me around me. It is what I have been told from people that know her. I HAVE been aloof with her.

What does "puppy dogged" mean?

 

[Gamisch]

She hasn't been flirty with me around me. It is what I have been told from people that know her. I HAVE been aloof with her.

What does "puppy dogged" mean?

A puppy dog means a guy who has to stand next to a woman ,or gets dragged along while she's "doing her thing ". Mostly happens when a guy goes out with a woman and he has no social circle (or skills)to lean on , so he has to patiently wait his turn before he can continue whatever he wants to do.

Womem do this subtlety maybe even sneaky. You can say she " little brother's " you on the spot. The ultimate disrespect. If you go out and lol for this you'll see it happens all the time. Last time a woman tried something like yhos with me i simply left the spot and went solo to a place close by.

if this scenario doesn't apply to you that's..better.How did you guys met by the way? How do you manage to get so much information about her from third parties?

 

[LTG71]

Here’s a few

1) Majority of her friends are guys yet she claims to be a feminist
2) Erratic and irrational mood swings, cluster b type sh!t
3) On antidepressants
4) Always flaking
5) Victim mindset
6) No sense of humor
7) Resting b!tch face more often than not

 

[EyeBRollin]

I have met a woman that is extroverted but VERY flirty with men. I am wondering whether this is a red flag?

Also, could anyone let me know what red flags to look out for. Thanks

Red flag for sure. She’s for the streets. This girl is recreational use only.

 

[will123]

A puppy dog means a guy who has to stand next to a woman ,or gets dragged along while she's "doing her thing ". Mostly happens when a guy goes out with a woman and he has no social circle (or skills)to lean on , so he has to patiently wait his turn before he can continue whatever he wants to do.

Womem do this subtlety maybe even sneaky. You can say she " little brother's " you on the spot. The ultimate disrespect. If you go out and lol for this you'll see it happens all the time. Last time a woman tried something like yhos with me i simply left the spot and went solo to a place close by.

if this scenario doesn't apply to you that's..better.How did you guys met by the way? How do you manage to get so much information about her from third parties?

I speak to her female acquaintances. So they know her, and speak to her, but not friends in the true sense.

One of her friends (male) seems to be encouraging me to make a move. He says she is giving me choosing signals - as she walks away, she looks back at me; makes eye contact and then holds it when I look; if I make eye contact, she will look and then immediately look down, and so on. He says she is cautious now after being, lets say "pumped and dumped". Her other friends have nothing negative to say about her and say she is "nice (as in beautiful), and is a nice woman (as in personality). However, as I said, she has a child, flirty with men etc.

One thing I cannot understand, is why she is flirty with other men, very confident and outgoing, but, yet, is quiet around me, even to the point she sometimes can't look at me or acts nervous around me.

 

[2Rocky]

being outgoing/flirty is a matter of degrees. if you feel threatened then it's a red flag FOR YOU. I gotta tell you , I love it when the woman in my life outcharms a service person like a waiter or waitress, and we get outstanding customer service. I don't mind it when she acts flirty with my 80 year old father complimenting a photo of him, telling him he looks SOOO handsome...So often insecure men mistake charm and engaging behavior to be "Acting Flirty". I probably do the same to some degree and we understand each other.

The ultimate in social proof is to be with the person everyone else at the party wishes they could be with, and I'm taking her home....

@will123 in your case you need to approach her with your personal confidence that you can attract quality women and there are more where she came from. Let her ACTIONS eliminate her from contention , rather than ruling her out based on assumptions. the easiest way to do that is by meeting more women and thinking about what you enjoy about each of them, and allocating your time accordingly. Hey you can have orbiters too you know...

 

[Macadellic]

- guy friends
- hates her dad
- doesn’t stay in contact with her siblings
- solo travels
- is on couchsurfing and tinder
- lives with guy roommates
- single over the age of 27
- is on birth control and single
- she’s done porn
- any subtle sign of disrespect early on
- thinks she’s a boss with masculine traits
- lives in low income government housing
- over 40 and lives with her mom
- grandma, mom and daughter together at a bar

And lastly the greatest red flag of all
- whether born a female or not she’s a female

Woman will not unconditionally love you so
be more than okay being a success object to them

The game has never been easier to play

 

[Solomon]

The number of girls this year I've talked to or met whom have confessed to having done "Onlyfans" in the past is mindblowing
Most of those women were under the age of 25 too which is quite scary.

When I was 25 not to long ago a woman would never have confessed that to a guy and took it to the grave. Gen Z women are very bold and arrogant especially about their thottery

 

[SW15]

I'm black so most of the women I have dated have been careerist/feminists. If a careerist woman likes you/is seriously looking for a relationship, then she will make time for you. Don't let the ones juggling you as a lower priority waste your time. Feminism? I am more of a Bill Maher Democrat, so I guess I am considered a Republican to them lol. TBH, I rarely talk about politics with girls until I have stuck my weenie in them and then I just bring it up mainly to poke fun at them lol. If she goes on her rant about some feminist bs I just say that's cute lol.

The careerist/feminist type White woman is more open to dating a Black man.

I don't think it is good for any man to waste time on any women whoi consider them lower priority.

Good idea not to discuss politics with women. I don't do it either. You have the perfect reaction to that feminist BS.

A major red flag is when a woman is highly active on social media to the point where it is a regular part of her life. If she is constantly taking selfies, particularly thirst trap type photos showing herself off in a provocative way it's often not a good thing to see. I've noticed that women like this are not only narcissistic but their entire existence is based around the validation they can get from others, particularly men. Women like this are naturally going to get a lot of attention and will be bombarded by men. These women will also lead men on, as the more orbiters she can get the better. Pretty self-explanatory, I'd steer clear of women like this without hesitation, just a modern example of attention whoring.

I think men are too quick to disqualify and don't think creatively enough to slot women into the right category.

As a 6'4" man with big muscles, you are the type of man that is desirable to a narcissistic, good looking woman. If you desired to do so, you would have the opportunity to embrace your inner Chad Thundercocck and give these women what they want. These are the women that want a casual romp with a good looking stud. You have the opportunity to be that stud. You could harness your assets of height and muscles. Slam their vaginas and don't get emotionally attached. If a man doesn't get emotionally attached and ignores the bad energy that come from these women, he has the opportunity to enjoy some sex from them.

The challenge is not getting emotionally affected by their nonsense.

 

[will123]

Is it a red flag if it is only the second time meeting her and she asks about your privates? She is engaged, not that I care because I am not interested. She has also admitted she cheated on a previous boyfriend.

A further red flag I am unsure of is that she its VERY masculine in her personality. Interacting with me she seems to need to dominate (in a mental sense, not physical) and gives off control vibes. For example, she would tell me what to eat my lunch, even if I didn't want it anymore. She also would need to humiliate by taking the piss. This seems to be about power.

Red flags galore?

 

[Pierce Manhammer]

She also would need to humiliate by taking the piss. This seems to be about power.
Red flags galore?

Huh? I must ask as in urinate or giving someone a hard time (as in the briticism).

 

[will123]

Huh? I must ask as in urinate or giving someone a hard time (as in the briticism).

As in ridiculing someone. Mocking them in a deliberate and offensive way.

 

[Jake_Gyllenhaal69]

As a 6'4" man with big muscles, you are the type of man that is desirable to a narcissistic, good looking woman.

this is accurate, so many guys here think Chad deals with zero BS from women when the majority of women available to him are trash quality mental wise.

 

[SW15]

As a 6'4" man with big muscles, you are the type of man that is desirable to a narcissistic, good looking woman.

this is accurate, so many guys here think Chad deals with zero BS from women when the majority of women available to him are trash quality mental wise.

Even men with top tier looks get some BS at times. @sangheilios has had a lot of interactions with trashy women.