"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Losing 15lbs in 30 days

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i actually pulled this off in about two weeks last month for my trip to Las Vegas.

ate minimal food, salads with eggs as my entire meal for the day. (consumed less than 500 calories a day)

two eggs boiled or scrambled for the day.

worked out lifting and running. Cut sweets and carbs completely.

After two weeks i lost 14lbs. I was planning a vacation to vegas and wanted to be able to eat and look better without blowing up. My friends saw me and asked what i did to lose weight.
For the love of all things healthy please don’t follow this advice. It’s stupid and dangerous and a quick way to yo-yo your way into diabetes and worse eating habits.

Getting into a healthy physique and maintaining that physique require slow changes to diet and lifestyle so you don’t throw your central nervous system into chaos and have your body shutdown or get injured.

Anyone here that’s in good health will tell oh it took them a while to get into good habits and they have maintained said habits for a long time. There is no quick fix.

You’re not super fat just unfit and a novice. Looking at the stats you posted I’d say you’re more akin to being “skinny-fat”.
Your best bet to getting into good shape is first spending at least the next 8 months working on building a platform of pure strength. Strong lifts or Rippatoes starting strength programs are perfect for this.

You will lose fat by just the weight training alone and a clean diet. Once you’ve built some decent strength in 6 months then you can add in some lite cardio. If you’re not wrecked from doing a basic strength program 3 times a week then you’re doing it wrong.

You can add in a 5 min cross training session at the end of each workout or a 30on30off sprint session on the row machine for 5 mins to get your heart and lungs working. But only at the end of your workout. But honestly stronglifts should be enough to get your heart and lungs pumping.

EDIT: also I cannot stress this enough. Stretch and foam roll everyday to avoid injuries. You’ve already tweaked your rotator cuff and if you don’t get any stretching or massage work done to relief the issue ASAP it will eventually cause you major issues as you age.
 
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"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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For the love of all things healthy please don’t follow this advice. It’s stupid and dangerous and a quick way to yo-yo your way into diabetes and worse eating habits.

Getting into a healthy physique and maintaining that physique require slow changes to diet and lifestyle so you don’t throw your central nervous system into chaos and have your body shutdown or get injured.

Anyone here that’s in good health will tell oh it took them a while to get into good habits and they have maintained said habits for a long time. There is no quick fix.

You’re not super fat just unfit and a novice. Looking at the stats you posted I’d say you’re more akin to being “skinny-fat”.
Your best bet to getting into good shape is first spending at least the next 8 months working on building a platform of pure strength. Strong lifts or Rippatoes starting strength programs are perfect for this.

You will lose fat by just the weight training alone and a clean diet. Once you’ve built some decent strength in 6 months then you can add in some lite cardio. If you’re not wrecked from doing a basic strength program 3 times a week then you’re doing it wrong.

You can add in a 5 min cross training session at the end of each workout or a 30on30off sprint session on the row machine for 5 mins to get your heart and lungs working. But only at the end of your workout. But honestly stronglifts should be enough to get your heart and lungs pumping.

EDIT: also I cannot stress this enough. Stretch and foam roll everyday to avoid injuries. You’ve already tweaked your rotator cuff and if you don’t get any stretching or massage work done to relief the issue ASAP it will eventually cause you major issues as you age.
I didn't share this as advice, I just shared what i did to get my results.

It definitely wasn't healthy, but op wants to lose 15lbs in 30 days. There aren't many healthy ways to lose that much weight in such a short amount of time without cutting down calories significantly or keep the burn of calories high or a combination of both.

I cut down carbs completely as well as sugar and tried to keep working out/running.

You are here talking about a 6 months, 8 months, etc. OP is not asking for long term methods, he's asking for 30 days.
 

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I didn't share this as advice, I just shared what i did to get my results.

It definitely wasn't healthy, but op wants to lose 15lbs in 30 days. There aren't many healthy ways to lose that much weight in such a short amount of time without cutting down calories significantly or keep the burn of calories high or a combination of both.

I cut down carbs completely as well as sugar and tried to keep working out/running.

You are here talking about a 6 months, 8 months, etc. OP is not asking for long term methods, he's asking for 30 days.
Man having been in sports and an athlete for the last 3 decades I don’t agree with anyone doing these crazy “lose x amount in x days” type of crash diet.

They are extremely unhealthy and can be down right dangerous with many persons being hospitalised due to failing organs.

Seeing as he’s a novice you should have just steered him away from such a drastic diet .... or should I say “Starvation”. People need to learn that getting into a healthy physique and maintaining said physique is a lifelong change in eating and exercise habits.

A crash diet (unless followed up with proper dieting and exercise) will only lead to more weight (fat) being gained by the individual and thus they yo-yo forever and never make any serious gains or maintain year round optimal physique. The entire health and fitness world is based upon crash dieting and fad exercises, it’s why it’s a multi trillion dollar business globally.

Best to steer movies away from such kings and get them to gain better willpower and make changes for the long term because at the end of the day this entire website is based upon the whole “improve your life for the long run” aspect.

TLDR - you’re only making things harder for novice trainees.
 

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Man having been in sports and an athlete for the last 3 decades I don’t agree with anyone doing these crazy “lose x amount in x days” type of crash diet.

They are extremely unhealthy and can be down right dangerous with many persons being hospitalised due to failing organs.

Seeing as he’s a novice you should have just steered him away from such a drastic diet .... or should I say “Starvation”. People need to learn that getting into a healthy physique and maintaining said physique is a lifelong change in eating and exercise habits.

A crash diet (unless followed up with proper dieting and exercise) will only lead to more weight (fat) being gained by the individual and thus they yo-yo forever and never make any serious gains or maintain year round optimal physique. The entire health and fitness world is based upon crash dieting and fad exercises, it’s why it’s a multi trillion dollar business globally.

Best to steer movies away from such kings and get them to gain better willpower and make changes for the long term because at the end of the day this entire website is based upon the whole “improve your life for the long run” aspect.

TLDR - you’re only making things harder for novice trainees.
I'm a former nationally ranked all American athlete and a millionaire, so?

Again, OP asked for a specific solution under certain criteria, and I provided such. You did not. I also could care less what you agree with.
 

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I'm a former nationally ranked all American athlete and a millionaire, so?

Again, OP asked for a specific solution under certain criteria, and I provided such. You did not. I also could care less what you agree with.
ROFL okay buddy, so instead of giving proper advice you would rather give him haphazard advice because it fits "his criteria" ? NO ONE in the sports and medical field that's worth their qualifications or experience would tell that to a novice trainee and would more likely guide that individual down the path where there isn't going to be the chance of creating more harm then good.

Typical "Cowboy" response mate.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Alright fellas, appreciate all your support here. Lost 13 lbs in over 2 months, down to 165. Gained a more solid physique and able to fit cloths I did 3 years ago before my LTR.

I'm biking to the gym 6 days a week, 5 mi R/T, and doing stronglifts
Squats - 185lb
Bench - 195
OH Press - 125

3 days rest between each segment and other days I'm doing body exercises
 
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At what point do you move from Stronglifts to another program?
 

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For 3x3?

I'd like to start cutting to get more muscle definition, could I do that for say 2 months then go back to Stronglifts?
Honestly, it’s hard to do 1 set of 3 with those lifts. Definitely advanced for a natty if you can do that. Most it’s a 1RM.

Cutting is vanity my friend. Get strong as a bull first. Then cut to your hearts content. It’s easier to maintain the muscle than to build it.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Honestly, it’s hard to do 1 set of 3 with those lifts. Definitely advanced for a natty if you can do that. Most it’s a 1RM.

Cutting is vanity my friend. Get strong as a bull first. Then cut to your hearts content. It’s easier to maintain the muscle than to build it.
Got it, I thought the ratios you mentioned were for 5x5...that would probably take me years.

How do you decide if you're strong enough to start cutting? BW 160lbs
 
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