Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Caffeine addiction

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I'm drinking lots of strong teas (3-5 cups of maté/matcha) in the mornings, or sometimes a few cups of cold brew coffee, then have an energy drink (Ghost or Bang) in the afternoon. I've been at this for several months, yet I sleep fine, about 8 hours every night, and don't feel stressed or burnt out. I find having a late afternoon energy drinks puts me in a higher RPM for several hours without a crash and leads to much better performance when I hit the gym after work.

I've done caffeine "detoxes" in the past by tapering down then quitting cold turkey but I inevitably come back to it after a month or two. I'm actually not convinced I want to be caffeine-free indefinitely. Anyone else relate? It's hard to consider it an addiction when it seems to provide tangible benefits, but it's definitely a dependance/crutch at least.

Also when I think about it I suspect the energy drinks are more habit forming than caffeine/coffee on its own.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Coffee contains antioxidants. Energy drinks are largely processed garbage.
Look at the ingredients in Ghost energy drinks, nothing bad besides a couple preservatives and a couple artificial sweeteners which are fake news. The worst offender in most energy drinks is artificial colors and excessive B-vitamins (eg 3000% DV), which is lacking in here. It also contains Alpha-GPC which is a powerhouse nootropic.

 
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I drink pints and pints of the stuff, has little or no effect on me whatsoever and certainly doesn't
prevent me from sleeping, I'll often have a mug or two before bed and it's lights out in minutes.
Interestingly, people with an attention deficit disorder ( which commonly overlaps with autism)
often find themselves using it in a self medicating manner to stay focussed on a task. I have many
ADD traits along with all my other luggage and I certainly do, it takes the place of the typical drugs
you are given when you have such a condition, like the kind my nephew takes. My resting heart rate
is 66bpm.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Look at the ingredients in Ghost energy drinks, nothing bad besides a couple preservatives and a couple artificial sweeteners which are fake news. The worst offender in most energy drinks is artificial colors and excessive B-vitamins (eg 3000% DV), which is lacking in here. It also contains Alpha-GPC which is a powerhouse nootropic.

Artificial sweeteners are horrible for your body. Sucralose kills half of your beneficial gut bacteria and increases inflammation. Artificial sweeteners also interfere with your body's manufacture of protein that is necessary to fight viral infections. These are toxic chemicals peddled to people who are told they are the healthy choice.
 

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Artificial sweeteners are horrible for your body. Sucralose kills half of your beneficial gut bacteria and increases inflammation. Artificial sweeteners also interfere with your body's manufacture of protein that is necessary to fight viral infections. These are toxic chemicals peddled to people who are told they are the healthy choice.
[citation needed]
 

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I drink pints and pints of the stuff, has little or no effect on me whatsoever and certainly doesn't
prevent me from sleeping, I'll often have a mug or two before bed and it's lights out in minutes.
Interestingly, people with an attention deficit disorder ( which commonly overlaps with autism)
often find themselves using it in a self medicating manner to stay focussed on a task. I have many
ADD traits along with all my other luggage and I certainly do, it takes the place of the typical drugs
you are given when you have such a condition, like the kind my nephew takes. My resting heart rate
is 66bpm.
Caffeine is a terrible drug really...it loses its effectiveness rather quickly as your body becomes used to it and requires more and more to get the same effect with those effects also diminishing over time.

Also can have some nasty side effects if taken in too large amounts or for people sensitive to it.

Have read several posts written about how if it came up for approval to the FDA based on their standards they use now it would very likely not be approved for use as an additive to things.
 

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2-3 cups per day of coffee is perfectly fine.
And also very healthy for your liver...one of the most liver protective/repairing things you can do and it's been studied pretty in depth as to why without any real conclusive answers, they just know it's very helpful to the liver.

I am not a coffee drinker at all(tea if anything but mostly water) but have thought about becoming one for this reason alone.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Yes, tried to get off caffeine numerous times but always come back.

Funny thing is I noticed caffeine really changes my personality. When Im drinking it, I'm a little anxious, irritable (when I want more because of the withdrawals) and not calm.

When Im not drinking it or reducing its use, I'm calm, a lot more laid back. I'm better socially and not all over the place.

Very hard to quit all the same.
 

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Yes, tried to get off caffeine numerous times but always come back.

Funny thing is I noticed caffeine really changes my personality. When Im drinking it, I'm a little anxious, irritable (when I want more because of the withdrawals) and not calm.

When Im not drinking it or reducing its use, I'm calm, a lot more laid back. I'm better socially and not all over the place.

Very hard to quit all the same.
Have you tried decaf?
 

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Yes, tried to get off caffeine numerous times but always come back.

Funny thing is I noticed caffeine really changes my personality. When Im drinking it, I'm a little anxious, irritable (when I want more because of the withdrawals) and not calm.

When Im not drinking it or reducing its use, I'm calm, a lot more laid back. I'm better socially and not all over the place.

Very hard to quit all the same.
To clarify, you get withdrawals at the end of the day because you want another cup?
 

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Have you tried decaf?
Yes, but its only been moderately effective. My undisciplined brain always craves the real caffeine. Ive been moderately effective now and reduced from 3 cups of coffee to 2. Already sleeping better and calmer.

Pretty good book OP. Its called Caffeine Blues. Really motivated me to give up coffee altogether.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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I have a rare arthritic disease and one of the key things is I can feel inflammation, almost immediately. Pre disease I couldn’t.

All artificial food causes this for me. The worst, the absolute worst, is the shyt they put in processed meats. A can of cheap corned beef puts me in agony for 3 days.
carrageenan
 

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Yes, but its only been moderately effective. My undisciplined brain always craves the real caffeine. Ive been moderately effective now and reduced from 3 cups of coffee to 2. Already sleeping better and calmer.

Pretty good book OP. Its called Caffeine Blues. Really motivated me to give up coffee altogether.
I am not sure I would advocate for giving it up. It's exceptionally healthy for your liver and has been studied extensively for that. And since the world is becoming more and more toxic every day and the liver is the organ responsible for dealing with those toxins, anything that helps in that regard, especially to the degree in which coffee apparently does is exceptionally useful to maintaining your overall health.

 
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Cardiologist will love you down the road, PVCs are super common with heavy caffeine use. (300mg+ per day).
 

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Ive tried to quit so many times. After a hard fight Im finally almost 1 year off it.

I have to say that I started to notice some benefits after 6 months. Now it seems its only getting better. It is completely changing me.

But its damn hard. First months I wasnt productive and had zero motivation.

Its a drug that is very addictive. And you can only notice how much it changed your brain and behavior when your body starts to recover from whithdrawal.

Same goes for alcohol. Its another thing Im investing all my energy in to quit. I'm 36 days off it and it's amazing how things improve without it.

Some guys said that they could only felt completely recovered after 2 years without consuming caffeine.
 

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Hi Flexpart,
Some years ago work mate collapsed and was carted off in an ambulance...The verdict was the 20+cups of Jaffah he was drinking every day,had triggered a Stomach ulcer,which bled....He was anaemic as his body was consuming his own blood!
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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