RSDCharlie
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As the title suggests, how do you stop yourself from kicking your bosses in the face?
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
How do you handle high job stress?
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"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
mrgoodstuff
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We should all master communication enough that going physical is almost never necessary.
RSDCharlie
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You think bosses are manipulative ****heads because we don't communicate with them enough
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mrgoodstuff
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If we can kick them in the head without kicking them in the head.... Master communications...You think bosses are manipulative ****heads because we don't communicate with them enough
RSDCharlie
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I don't think abusing them will help. But would love to know some examples.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
mrgoodstuff
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If you've mastered it they won't know it's "abuse".
RSDCharlie
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Any examples? I told my boss today youre the worst boss ever. But i dont think saying that would cut it anymore.
mrgoodstuff
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It's other people better at it than me, it would be done in a way that they don't figure it out until some time later.
you take things to serious
saying this kind of things only leads to you getting fired soon
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
EyeBRollin
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Find another job. You handle it by not handling it.
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What you describe isn't stress. I have an old boss in my hit list for if I ever have nothing to lose and the right chemical imbalance in my brain.
Veréngárda
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Basically. Putting up with things like that will only make you more sensitive to those things.
This idea of being "toughened up" by genuinely terrible leadership is a myth.