"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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My right arm got Twanged, laying on my side jacking up my van with a slightly too small hydraulic jack. New rotors. I can't twist off a pickle jar lid. If you tap on the bone on the inside of the elbow, that's the spot. I have stopped working out with weights, just low key Mtn biking. All I know is rest rest rest.. NOT HEALING. Been a month and it seems to want to get better then the slightest wrong activity and it's set back a couple days. Supplements ?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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I had something similar... same area... was so painful I would almost puke trying to hit a golf ball. I actually went against the grain and got theraband flex bars. I started doing the workout for golfers elbow... and it was insanely painful but I actually healed. I think it was forcing more nutrient rich blood into the inflamed tendon.
 

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Thanks for replying Machine. Must be rare not much traffic. Could be old man getting old issue. (tendon) needs
Longer to heal than I would expect. Sucks Bong water...
 

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I recently had tendinitis in my arm and it took 2 months to heal completely. Wearing a forearm brace or tennis elbow brace might help you.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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TOPICAL CBD OIL. Sh1t works wonders.

You can also see a Healing Touch or Reiki practitioner if you have the cash.
 

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Have you gone to a doctor to determine what the issue is? Potential cortisone injection might help
 

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Have you gone to a doctor
Thanks for asking. But I'm 3 years away from Medicare/caid. I'm a self employed, single, male, home owner. And I'm white. I will gladly die before writing another outrageous check to the medical industry.

I have decided to not use it until it's healed. I'll make it better & stronger later on.
 

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Thanks for asking. But I'm 3 years away from Medicare/caid. I'm a self employed, single, male, home owner. And I'm white. I will gladly die before writing another outrageous check to the medical industry.

I have decided to not use it until it's healed. I'll make it better & stronger later on.
If it's an injury that requires surgery it may not get better that's the whole point.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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