What to do when a girl finds out that I frequent so suave for dating advice

[Dazzlenuts]

so i have been caught before in the past about me watching arms on YouTube, that I go on suave and stuff like that. What would you guys do how would you behave, what would you say to the girl?

 

[EyeBRollin]

“Yes, I do _______. Any questions?”

 

[Dazzlenuts]

“Yes, I do _______. Any questions?”

Lol

 

[Barrister]

so i have been caught before in the past about me watching arms on YouTube, that I go on suave and stuff like that. What would you guys do how would you behave, what would you say to the girl?

Why are letting yourself be seen watching/visiting these videos/sites? Seems like it would be very easy to avoid this.

Most women are immediately going to become very defensive if they know you frequent SS. It actually has made us lose some very good posters over the years when their LTR discovered they posted here. You’re better off not being discovered rather than letting her see and tell her you come here. It’s bullsh1t and unfair, but they’re women brother. Most aren’t going to understand and will have zero interest in understanding.

 

[Kotaix]

I have been caught, and my response is that I come here to help guys out. Which is actually what I do.

 

[Dazzlenuts]

Why are letting yourself be seen watching/visiting these videos/sites? Seems like it would be very easy to avoid this.

Most women are immediately going to become very defensive if they know you frequent SS. It actually has made us lose some very good posters over the years when their LTR discovered they posted here. You’re better off not being discovered rather than letting her see and tell her you come here. It’s bullsh1t and unfair, but they’re women brother. Most aren’t going to understand and will have zero interest in understanding.

I went to the toilet and the girl looked through my phone because she knew the passcode. And the first time a girl came over I forgot I had ams on my YouTube recommendations and got caught again. I felt like such as pleb.

do you think I lost value because of that?

 

[Serenity]

I had a couple of pick-up books laying around, my wife (then girlfriend) found them while cleaning. I just told her what the deal was, my past, looking for advice etc. Nothing more has come of it, as it should be.

I haven't told her about this forum, there's no need to, but it wouldn't be a big deal if she found out. Especially since she's accepting of my past, so that would explain why I'm here. As for why I'm still here it's to pass it on and help others.

Honesty works out fine and if it doesn't then it's clearly the woman who's the problem, I don't find this controversial. Just bros helping each other out with things we might find hard to talk about IRL.

 

[Dazzlenuts]

I have been caught, and my response is that I come here to help guys out. Which is actually what I do.

best excuse haha

 

[Dazzlenuts]

I had a couple of pick-up books laying around, my wife (then girlfriend) found them while cleaning. I just told her what the deal was, my past, looking for advice etc. Nothing more has come of it, as it should be.

I haven't told her about this forum, there's no need to, but it wouldn't be a big deal if she found out. Especially since she's accepting of my past, so that would explain why I'm here. As for why I'm still here it's to pass it on and help others.

Honesty works out fine and if it doesn't then it's clearly the woman who's the problem, I don't find this controversial. Just bros helping each other out with things we might find hard to talk about IRL.

fair enough, I try my very best to hide it from girls but sometimes, I’m caught off guard.

 

[RobbyDog]

There’s nothing wrong about frequenting SS. If she doesn’t like it, show her the door.

For a healthy relationship, you should never feel that you have to hide or apologize for ANYTHING. In your past. You are imperfect just like the rest of us.

 

[Barrister]

do you think I lost value because of that?

Maybe - probably would greatly depend on how you reacted after she found it. The bigger issue I would have, if I were you, is that she grabbed your phone and rifled through it without asking you. If this is your wife of 10 years that is one thing. If it is a plate or a relatively new LTR that is bullsh1t and may be grounds to NEXT them IMO.

 

[Kotaix]

I went to the toilet and the girl looked through my phone because she knew the passcode. And the first time a girl came over I forgot I had ams on my YouTube recommendations and got caught again. I felt like such as pleb.

do you think I lost value because of that?

You only lose value if you think you lose value.

If you honestly don't care what the girl thinks, she can either accept it or take a hike. Just because you listen to that kind of content doesn't mean you're going to go cheat on her. Women break rules for men that they want to be with.

 

[Dazzlenuts]

Maybe - probably would greatly depend on how you reacted after she found it. The bigger issue I would have, if I were you, is that she grabbed your phone and rifled through it without asking you. If this is your wife of 10 years that is one thing. If it is a plate or a relatively new LTR that is bullsh1t and may be grounds to NEXT them IMO.

It’s was an ex **** buddy and it happened during the last time see stayed at mine. Never officially ended it. Just fazed out and stopped seeing/messaging her. I felt her going cold before that anyway. Yeah I should’ve said something I thought it was her phone but turns out it was mine.

 

[Dazzlenuts]

You only lose value if you think you lose value.

If you honestly don't care what the girl thinks, she can either accept it or take a hike. Just because you listen to that kind of content doesn't mean you're going to go cheat on her. Women break rules for men that they want to be with.

Yeah this was the kind of frame I tried displaying but it’s a lost cause now.

 

[Kotaix]

Yeah this was the kind of frame I tried displaying but it’s a lost cause now.

My mantra when it comes to women, with sosuave swapped for vomit, obviously.
"I say hurl.
If you blow chunks and she comes back, she's yours.
If you spew and she bolts, then it was never meant to be." -Wayne Campbell

 

[darksprezzatura]

Tell her to make an account and introduce her to us guys.

 

[devilkingx2]

If a woman finds out about this place you must kill her.

Never compromise the integrity of the brotherhood.

 

[Black Widow Void]

Something smells rotten.

According to you, she's just an F-Buddy. Okay, fair enough, but do any of us give out our phone pass-word to an F-Buddy?
Something in your story isn't adding up.

And...

You claim that she knows that you are on this site. If she can read this posting, then why would you post this topic here?

Again, something about this particular posting isn't adding up.

 

[Scars]

I have been caught, and my response is that I come here to help guys out. Which is actually what I do.

Everyone give this guy a +1 for the best response in this thread.

 

[manfrombelow]

I have been caught, and my response is that I come here to help guys out. Which is actually what I do.

Then what if she demands to see your latest comments and posts? Because that's what women do.

First off, there should be privacy in your relationship, no matter if it's serious or just FWB kind of thing. Which means what you do in your private time & space is your business, thus you should not have to explain anything to her as if you were a schoolchild caught watching porno movie.