Black Widow Void
Master Don Juan
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You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Yeah.. this isnt exactly the high watermark of BWV's contributions.There is a new name for people like you, it's called "aggressively stupid".
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Of course he died of Covid and was fully vaccinated. It looks like my sense of humor (irony) went over everyone's head . I was mocking the whole mask/vaccine group-think.
I take it that... displaced hostility is a side-effect of the vaccine... or have you always been this way?There is a new name for people like you, it's called "aggressively stupid".
People wear seatbelts and still suffer when car accidents happen... but that doesnt mean the seatbelt is useless or harmful. People also manage to drive without seatbelts without necessarily getting into an accident, but that doesnt mean driving without a seatbelt is just as sound as driving with one.Of course he died of Covid and was fully vaccinated. It looks like my sense of humor (irony) went over everyone's head . I was mocking the whole mask/vaccine group-think.
If someone wants to vax up and wear a mask, I'm okay with that (it's your choice). However... since covid, I've only worn a mask for about two hours total. I also do not believe in the vaccine. Even as a two pack a day smoker, I wasn't sick last year and am still in good health. Imagine that.
This.People wear seatbelts and still suffer when car accidents happen... but that doesnt mean the seatbelt is useless or harmful.
And listening to the advice of people who study epidemiology, virology and public health for a living, whose institutions have an overall track record of improving public health, is a kind of abductive reasoning. It's not a baseless "groupthink" any more than acting on the advice of plumbers when it comes to plumbing or traffic planners when it comes to traffic planning. Can you have a reasonable skepticism of what other people recommend you to do? Yeah of course, because people can present a facade but have malicious motivations (scammers/fraudsters) or just make mistakes. But again, you have to use abductive reasoning to decide the likelyhood of that in each case.
PS. I havent worn a mask or gotten a vaccine yet either, but out of neglect rather than opposition.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Ironic to hear this argument coming from many of the same folks that vehemently oppose abortion.Not to mention the lack of personal freedom regarding our bodies and health choices.
What makes you think I oppose abortion? A girl I knocked up a few years ago got an abortion and it was a joint decision. Don’t be a prejudicial pr!ckIronic to hear this argument coming from many of the same folks that vehemently oppose abortion.
It was a general observation… Nothing personal intended.What makes you think I oppose abortion? A girl I knocked up a few years ago got an abortion and it was a joint decision. Don’t be a prejudicial pr!ck
I just assumed you were making a jab at me. Seems it’s all pro-mandate people do. It is possible to get a Vax and NOT approve of the totalitarianism.It was a general observation… Nothing personal intended.
There is a segment of folks in the USA that are against the Covid-19 vaccine on the basis of personal choice with respect to ones body yet they want abortions to be illegal.I just assumed you were making a jab at me. Seems it’s all pro-mandate people do. It is possible to get a Vax and NOT approve of the totalitarianism.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Yes it’s crazy.There is a segment of folks in the USA that are against the Covid-19 vaccine on the basis of personal choice with respect to ones body yet they want abortions to be illegal.
Quit making crap up. Be reasonable. You are the one making fatalistic and rigid assumptions.I think that some of you have missed the point.
(as already mentioned above) I'm okay with those that wish to get the vaccine and or masked. I make my choices., You make your choices.
I *am not* okay with the preachy behavior and "Us VS them" mentality (I've seen this on both sides, but much more heavily with the pro mask pro vaccine crowd).
My initial posting was to mock the cognitive dissonance behavior.
speed dawg because you seem to enjoy sniffing out things that are "aggressively stupid" I left a bone below for you.
Want to talk "science?"
So far... We've heard and you obeyed
"no mask required" then... .
"just two weeks to flatten the curve" then...
"a mask in public places is mandatory" then...
"get the vaccine, then a mask isn't necessary." then...
"get the vaccine and won't catch Covid". then...
"get the vaccine and still wear a mask." then...
"get the vaccine and you'll not die of Covid" ....
Your "science" changes its mind about as much as a woman.
Doesn’t the smallpox and polio vax prevent those? Malaria? Tetanus?Quit making crap up. Be reasonable. You are the one making fatalistic and rigid assumptions.
First, I'm not for or against mandates. I don't really care. I am pro-vaccines though. We've been mandating them forever to do certain things, like to go to school, etc. It's not really a big deal, and as the world population grows, and urban areas become more congested, we need even more preventative vaccines.
No reasonable person expects vaccines to totally prevent anything. But they do help - a good bit. And as long as there is a sizable group of unvaccinated people out there, we will never have enough data to prove anything to the extremists on either side, so they'll continue to sit on the internet and argue with each other.
However, I can look at the hospitalization stats and plainly see that the vaccine is the better route than the alternative. I mean, it's overwhelming. You do you, but again, trying to find ways to criticize the vaccine is just aggressively stupid. Finding stupid in places where there was thought to be no stupid.
It's not political anymore. Delta variant came through and ravaged mainly unvaccinated people (even though some vaccinated people were affected too). Trump's administration is the one who started the vaccine research and development. They have come and gone, and the Biden camp criticized initially, now they've jumped on board. All of them got vaccinated. They all agree on one thing - the vaccines are safe, and the best way to end the pandemic.
That's the last post I'll make on this incredibly simple topic. I should have never started. At this point, do what you want and live with the consequences.
Clearly you don’t understand how vaccines work.Doesn’t the smallpox and polio vax prevent those? Malaria? Tetanus?
Clearly. Because everyone is getting polio measles and smallpoxClearly you don’t understand how vaccines work.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.