Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Does she have a vagina? Does her body look good? I just gave you two reasons.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Attraction is ABSOLUTELY a choice. What about your sister, what about your mother, your hot first cousin?
No, attraction is not a choice. Just like being cold or thirsty or having a migraine is not a choice. You can choose to suppress your impulses, sure, but you cannot stop feeling attracted to a woman in her sexual prime who is not a close relative (unless you are gay or have psychological issues).
Honestly, this sounds like someone’s wife gained access to his SS account and is now trolling us
No man would write something like this.
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Apparently not all men. According to 2rocky, real men want 40-year-old, fresh off the carousel independent women.
I don’t disagree. It just doesn’t matter for Drake. He can be beta as fvck. He will still pull.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
It sure sounds like you are trying to rationalize whatever situation you currently find yourself in. That's okay, no one is forcing you to date "naive" 20 year olds. It's doubtful that they would be interested in you in the first place. Contrary to popular belief, most women are not interested in a man who is twice their age (and is not celebrity or billionaire).
Hahaha
"connect with on an intellectual level", that made me laugh, that sounds like one of the typical bullsh!ts women write in their profiles.She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Most women ( 90+% ) don't like that sh1t.Hahaha
Honestly, I think a “common sense” type chick would be better than an intellectual one.
One would think that "common sense" is a pre-requisite to "intellect."
"common" meaning what "most people" think. Did we think the majority here are intellectuals?
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
