"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Do you think employers' pickiness about who they hire is akin to chicks' pickiness with men?

MatureDJ

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I see parallels here:
The e-applicants were supposed to democratize the search process by giving more people a chance. But they also created a tsunami of applications that overwhelmed companies. The algorithms created to help with this process, known as applicant-tracking systems, filtered tons of prospects down to a select group.
That much automation made it difficult for some applicants to stand out. The software typically ranks candidates according to broad affirmative criteria—such as candidates with a college degree—as well as negative criteria such as candidates who were convicted of a crime. The longer and more complicated the job description, the more people get weeded out by the automated systems.
This next section reminds me of chicks that only date men who have been married before (i.e., pre-selected):
Another hurdle for workers is that these software systems often eliminate those with a gap in employment if companies believe the currently-employed are more capable of filling a role successfully.
A big résumé gap has long been a handicap for applicants, even before automated hiring became so widespread. What’s different now is that the practice persists at a time when companies are desperate for new hires, and those who were rejected by the automated systems don’t get to hear about these concerns from a hiring manager directly.
This next section reminds me of chicks' ridiculously long lists:
Companies said they are eliminating candidates they want to hire. Of those Harvard surveyed, 90% believed high-skilled prospects were being weeded out because they didn’t meet all of the criteria listed in the job description.
This next section reminds me of having better success IRL rather than ODL:
Some workers are changing their tactics, too. Those who are not getting any traction with online job postings are turning to more old-fashioned ways of finding work, such as referrals from friends and family.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Dating and job hunting are exactly the same, messaging a girl on OLD is the same as sending your resume out to a company.

Most don't reply and the few that do make you go through hoops to get a date/interview.
 

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I imagine that in a lot of cases IT'S THE EXACT SAME WOMEN being picky online and being picky with resumes.

As an anecdote, I notice women who list their profession as HR in OLD are some of the most delusional ones out there.
 

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Dating and job hunting are exactly the same, messaging a girl on OLD is the same as sending your resume out to a company.

Most don't reply and the few that do make you go through hoops to get a date/interview.
I can see where you are coming from with this argument. I don't agree. Think about all the dweeby Silicon Valley engineers who are to secure employment but are not able to get vagina or an LTR from women. So many STEM guys are incels.

I imagine that in a lot of cases IT'S THE EXACT SAME WOMEN being picky online and being picky with resumes.

As an anecdote, I notice women who list their profession as HR in OLD are some of the most delusional ones out there.
Yes, most in HR are women. There are not a lot of men in HR.
 
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