I have a decision to make and pressure myself with fear of failure. So I wanted to ask you guys, what you think about my current situation.
My former boss from a company I left over ten years ago, contacted me last weekend and made me an offer for a position as CISO (Chief Information Security Officer). We had some lose contact over the last years, so he knows what I'm doing jobwise and he asked me on several occasions, if I could imagine working there again - I always declined.
I made my vocational education in this company and stayed for two years after finishing it as a sysadmin. My contract wasn't prolonged back then because I was going through a hard time and failed a project miserably. My boss tried to rescue the situation for me, because he didn't want me to leave, but HR declined.
I was 22 back then and not very experienced with life. I wasn't able to separate my work from private issues. Something like that never happened to me again. Losing this job changed myself into being more disciplined and driven, because as a result I set high aspirations for myself. So I don't regret to have failed back then, although it was very hard for me. I built a solid career in IT over the last years and made plenty of experience. Having an offer from them again feels somewhat strange, but I'm also pleased because I really liked working there.
However, I was thinking about his offer constantly over the last days and I want to give it a try. A position as CISO in an enterprise IT infrastructure will give my career and finances a boost like never before. Also Cybersecurity is a big passion of mine.
Thinking about working with old coworkers and even friends again, who all saw me failing once pressures me hard. With 34 I'm not the same as with 22, perhaps I just overthink. But i can't get my head out of that fear right now.
Would you go back to an ex company, where everyone saw you fail? Is it worth putting this pressure on yourself or am I just thinking too much again?
What's waking up all these doubts is the fact, that I have to engage in subjects in this position, I've never encountered before. Like business impact analysis, etc.
My former boss from a company I left over ten years ago, contacted me last weekend and made me an offer for a position as CISO (Chief Information Security Officer). We had some lose contact over the last years, so he knows what I'm doing jobwise and he asked me on several occasions, if I could imagine working there again - I always declined.
I made my vocational education in this company and stayed for two years after finishing it as a sysadmin. My contract wasn't prolonged back then because I was going through a hard time and failed a project miserably. My boss tried to rescue the situation for me, because he didn't want me to leave, but HR declined.
I was 22 back then and not very experienced with life. I wasn't able to separate my work from private issues. Something like that never happened to me again. Losing this job changed myself into being more disciplined and driven, because as a result I set high aspirations for myself. So I don't regret to have failed back then, although it was very hard for me. I built a solid career in IT over the last years and made plenty of experience. Having an offer from them again feels somewhat strange, but I'm also pleased because I really liked working there.
However, I was thinking about his offer constantly over the last days and I want to give it a try. A position as CISO in an enterprise IT infrastructure will give my career and finances a boost like never before. Also Cybersecurity is a big passion of mine.
Thinking about working with old coworkers and even friends again, who all saw me failing once pressures me hard. With 34 I'm not the same as with 22, perhaps I just overthink. But i can't get my head out of that fear right now.
Would you go back to an ex company, where everyone saw you fail? Is it worth putting this pressure on yourself or am I just thinking too much again?
What's waking up all these doubts is the fact, that I have to engage in subjects in this position, I've never encountered before. Like business impact analysis, etc.
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