firstbornunicorn
Master Don Juan
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Half the fun to me are all the feelings involved. If there aren't any then I can probably find something better to do.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
What you’re feeling is a temporary state and will pass. Men naturally are wired to mate with as many females as they can to pass on their genes to the next generation. Societal conditioning tries to control and water down this natural programming. Take a little break and get back in the mixHalf the fun to me are all the feelings involved. If there aren't any then I can probably find something better to do.
A fatal mistake i made.Half the fun to me are all the feelings involved. If there aren't any then I can probably find something better to do.
It's been my entire adult life, pretty sure it's just who I am. Sex always has the risk of pregnancy, and not only am I not aborting my potential first born, I'm not going to **** someone I wouldn't put a baby in.What you’re feeling is a temporary state and will pass. Men naturally are wired to mate with as many females as they can to pass on their genes to the next generation. Societal conditioning tries to control and water down this natural programming. Take a little break and get back in the mix
Congrats on the emotional stunting, I guess.A fatal mistake i made.
#metoo was at a point when i thought me spinning plates is the issue i dont develop "feelings" anymore for women. I couldnt have been more wrong.
In the long run it puts you into a scarcity / oneitis mindset. You will do wrong (emotional) choices when it comes to women and this will get you into trouble.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
The time could be better spent on actual endeavors that yield a ROI. Modern women are a liability. Well played playboy.Half the fun to me are all the feelings involved. If there aren't any then I can probably find something better to do.
SameHell all the times I’ve had oneitis was with women I hadn’t slept with or wanted to sleep with but couldn’t make it happen. If I have sex with a woman I’ll never catch oneitis.
Exactly! I don't get MGTOW dudes. They complain about a certain type of woman and then do all they can to be surrounded by those and only those.I’m at this stage. I honestly need to have some connection and a background on the female. My bro’s still do one night stands when we are out or on a trip and I am usually laughing my @ss off the next morning when they are trying to sort it out. I also feel that in today’s day and age you open yourself up to Pandora’s box with chicks you don’t know... not saying it can’t happen with females you know but it’s probably less likely you will contract an Std if you have an idea of the girls history and character... you also never know when that one night stand might get home to the husband or boyfriend they lied about and suddenly claim they were raped to save face.... no thanks
Nice man.I’m at this stage. I honestly need to have some connection and a background on the female. My bro’s still do one night stands when we are out or on a trip and I am usually laughing my @ss off the next morning when they are trying to sort it out. I also feel that in today’s day and age you open yourself up to Pandora’s box with chicks you don’t know... not saying it can’t happen with females you know but it’s probably less likely you will contract an Std if you have an idea of the girls history and character... you also never know when that one night stand might get home to the husband or boyfriend they lied about and suddenly claim they were raped to save face.... no thanks
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.