firstbornunicorn
Master Don Juan
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Half the fun to me are all the feelings involved. If there aren't any then I can probably find something better to do.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
What you’re feeling is a temporary state and will pass. Men naturally are wired to mate with as many females as they can to pass on their genes to the next generation. Societal conditioning tries to control and water down this natural programming. Take a little break and get back in the mixHalf the fun to me are all the feelings involved. If there aren't any then I can probably find something better to do.
A fatal mistake i made.Half the fun to me are all the feelings involved. If there aren't any then I can probably find something better to do.
It's been my entire adult life, pretty sure it's just who I am. Sex always has the risk of pregnancy, and not only am I not aborting my potential first born, I'm not going to **** someone I wouldn't put a baby in.What you’re feeling is a temporary state and will pass. Men naturally are wired to mate with as many females as they can to pass on their genes to the next generation. Societal conditioning tries to control and water down this natural programming. Take a little break and get back in the mix
Congrats on the emotional stunting, I guess.A fatal mistake i made.
#metoo was at a point when i thought me spinning plates is the issue i dont develop "feelings" anymore for women. I couldnt have been more wrong.
In the long run it puts you into a scarcity / oneitis mindset. You will do wrong (emotional) choices when it comes to women and this will get you into trouble.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
The time could be better spent on actual endeavors that yield a ROI. Modern women are a liability. Well played playboy.Half the fun to me are all the feelings involved. If there aren't any then I can probably find something better to do.
SameHell all the times I’ve had oneitis was with women I hadn’t slept with or wanted to sleep with but couldn’t make it happen. If I have sex with a woman I’ll never catch oneitis.
Exactly! I don't get MGTOW dudes. They complain about a certain type of woman and then do all they can to be surrounded by those and only those.I’m at this stage. I honestly need to have some connection and a background on the female. My bro’s still do one night stands when we are out or on a trip and I am usually laughing my @ss off the next morning when they are trying to sort it out. I also feel that in today’s day and age you open yourself up to Pandora’s box with chicks you don’t know... not saying it can’t happen with females you know but it’s probably less likely you will contract an Std if you have an idea of the girls history and character... you also never know when that one night stand might get home to the husband or boyfriend they lied about and suddenly claim they were raped to save face.... no thanks
Nice man.I’m at this stage. I honestly need to have some connection and a background on the female. My bro’s still do one night stands when we are out or on a trip and I am usually laughing my @ss off the next morning when they are trying to sort it out. I also feel that in today’s day and age you open yourself up to Pandora’s box with chicks you don’t know... not saying it can’t happen with females you know but it’s probably less likely you will contract an Std if you have an idea of the girls history and character... you also never know when that one night stand might get home to the husband or boyfriend they lied about and suddenly claim they were raped to save face.... no thanks
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.