i know we are, but its a sad state of affairs when telling someone you like them will result in them losing interest
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
How would you guys handle this text?
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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
AureliusMaximus
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After just meeting a few times and saying something like that; it is like a red flag on a communist parade...
Too many of them lol.
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In this situation I don't think so at all. The mistake is when a guy is overinvested when she is not and start saying all this stuff that she's not feeling. In this situation she's feeling it and reciprocating it would be positively received.
Context matters. In a different context I would agree with you, but not this one.
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An ambiguous answer is all you need.
I respectfully disagree, Me nor anyone I know, has never had a good experience from telling a woman anything. in under 3 months
"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
Keep the momentum going!!!
She said the “L” word because she wants to see your level of commitment.
You do not have to say it back, but you should do something to show your level of commitment now!
If I were in your situation, I would seriously go Tiffany’s and get her some earrings at the very low end price point.
Surprise her with that gift then the momentum keeps going and you do not have to say the “L” word.
Women are very perceptive. Show too many signs of pulling back your commitment level and it is game over. The emotional connection she has to you is lost forever.
The “L” word is a giant test. If you want her, do not fail it.
She said the “L” word because she wants to see your level of commitment.
You do not have to say it back, but you should do something to show your level of commitment now!
If I were in your situation, I would seriously go Tiffany’s and get her some earrings at the very low end price point.
Surprise her with that gift then the momentum keeps going and you do not have to say the “L” word.
Women are very perceptive. Show too many signs of pulling back your commitment level and it is game over. The emotional connection she has to you is lost forever.
The “L” word is a giant test. If you want her, do not fail it.
CAPSLOCK BANDIT
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To me, love is a measurement of convenience; we have desire for those who are going to make our lives more convenient. Declarations of Love to me means that the convenience you provide is on another level, but it's not enough.
All you can do is avoid filling their heads with bull**** and be honest
All you can do is avoid filling their heads with bull**** and be honest
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I once dated a girl that told me all the time she loved me. Never once did I tell her. My reply was "you're a sweetie" or some **** like that. I wasn't looking to fall in love. I just wanted fun times and a hot girl.
My response never caused any issues in the 2yrs we were together. She did voice her displeasure to others, but never me. Stay true to yourself and if they have a problem with it then so be it. There are always more out there.
My response never caused any issues in the 2yrs we were together. She did voice her displeasure to others, but never me. Stay true to yourself and if they have a problem with it then so be it. There are always more out there.