What is the point of having a wingman?

[Josh Davidson]

Why not just approach women on your own?

 

[Josh Davidson]

I'm tired of being crapped on. I'm 32 years old and have only been on 4 dates in my life. I googled: I'll let you know meaning, after I just got that text and found this forum.

 

[Josh Davidson]

Cool!

 

[firstbornunicorn]

The right wingman can be great. But if in the end you're two thirsty dudes, it might be worse than being alone. I went out solo once and ended up getting together with two other random dudes I met and just went with them. But they were so thirsty and chased women away. I'd 100% have done better on my own.

However. A friend you really gel with and who isn't too thirsty, will relax you. If you two can laugh and stuff on your own, you'll seem much more approachable.

 

[Josh Davidson]

Ok. I see your point. What about a female wingman?

 

[SW15]

Ok. I see your point. What about a female wingman?

That has been a thing. I'm not a big proponent of doing that. There are better uses for women. With that said, if you can get a female sister, cousin, or a friend's long term girlfriend or wife to do it for you, it can be useful if she's above average looking. Covid has ruined night game for the time being.

Why not just approach women on your own?

Most day game pickup is geared towards the solo artist and is a part of why it became my primary form of pickup starting in the early 2010s. You don't need a wing to go out and pick up women in a grocery store, at the gym/gym fitness class, or on the street/walking path. I also was not great at staying up late, didn't like loud music, or trying to isolate.

I also learned that it's possible to do approaches at bars/nightclubs even rolling solo and most of the time it won't even be an issue. With that said, I still think non-bar approaching is better suited for a guy rolling solo.

 

[SirBigBell]

A good wingman helps with social proof, target identification and target isolation. He must be good though otherwise he can do more harm than good to your cause

 

[Mike32ct]

You also need to consider your personality type. If you are an introvert and your wing is an extrovert, he can end up “drowning you out” or “stealing your thunder” so to speak. I highly recommend that introverts go solo for that reason.

Introverts also shine with one on one interactions, which is more suitable for approaching alone.

 

[bat soup]

Why not just approach women on your own?

You can learn from each other and make going out fun even when you don't get laid.

 

[TheProspect]

Why not just approach women on your own?

Wingman can be useful in some contexts.

Ok. I see your point. What about a female wingman?

With the right female wingman, especially if she is hot, it can instantly give you social proof.

 

[bat soup]

Wingman can be useful in some contexts.



With the right female wingman, especially if she is hot, it can instantly give you social proof.

If you're with a girl that you consider hot, then why would you want to be hanging out as friends and not banging her?

 

[TheProspect]

If you're with a girl that you consider hot, then why would you want to be hanging out as friends and not banging her?

I have a current FWB who I've also known and been friends with for 15 years (although we've only reconnected this January after she moved away for a few years). She's gotten me laid multiple times, be it from introducing me to her friends or from intentionally winging for me when we're out.

For the last couple of years I've also had a strictly platonic friendship with a client where I work, and I am not willing to turn that relationship sexual because I don't need potential issues at work. However, she's helped me get laid for the same exact two reasons as the other chick.

 

[Paper Crane]

Kinda cringe that you don't know the answer to this question man but to each their own.

Winging is all about making the girl feel a lot more comfortable. By having someone approach and ask her, she can make her opinion from afar without having to worry about hurting a guys feelings, or the guy being an a-hole to her because of her choice. It's also hard for some women to think coherently when approached by a stranger, which is why they will often pull the boyfriend card.

It also helps because the guy doesn't have to feel bad if the girl is not interested as he doesn't face the rejection directly and the wingman simply lets him know "yea man shes not worth it" or "yah man shes got aboyfriend" or "shes not going bro. lets move on"

 

[BackInTheGame78]

There are pros and cons to both...if you are targeting a group of women or even 2 women a wingman makes it a lot easier for you to get your target isolated while you focus on the girl you are interested in at some point...also it makes logistics easier if you have 2 women and you have "someone for her friend".

 

[2Rocky]

To occupy her female friend. My best Wingman experience was when two girls who were cousins met me at a concert. I was dancing with them both and they asked me to invite the musician out to the bar with us afterwards because "You look totally legit" He said "Sure dude, let me pack up the gear and I'll meet you there" and gave me his number.

30 minutes later the girls were buying me beers and he came in. We paired off for about 3 pool games then the four of us went back to his hotel. Not sure, but I think all parties involved thought I was winging them.