You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
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Short Answer: marry a woman of a lower SMV than your own, whom possess sufficient nurturing qualities and mentions being a wife and mother as more important than her career.
So if I freeze the woman I can have kids with her safely?
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
What do you think about marrying someone who is financially better off than me?
You’ll be her b tch. She will never truly respect you.
Talk this over with a therapist. No offense guy but this whole idea sounds sick. Therapy is good they can talk you through what you actually want and the root of why you think these are good ideas.
Never met a therapist equipped with the tools to even begin scratching the surface of my psyche. My logic is undeniable though, can't ignore that.
Look harder. What you want suggests a professional opinion would be helpful.
I didn't say I wanted it. Maybe you should consult an English reading comprehension specialist?
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Volunteer taking cancer patients to their appointments. They have sooooo many appointments(my Dad had cancer)
He said ceiling though.
I did that..... and she tried to make me her ***** and i had to fight her. But today every woman will try to make you her ***** once she got the ring and the kid, because the legal system and society supports this. The difference is, a woman with no money will divorce-rape you while the higher income woman might have to pay you out of the marriage. (depending on the local laws)
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
^^^^ THIS.
True to the point that women in general have a megalomaniac view of their own SMV in the western world. BUT, the problem she will face is, there are no 7,8,9 and 10 men out there looking for a single mom in their 30s/40s for an LTR. If she makes good money, she is most likely smart enough to realize that as long as you stay the high-value-guy for her.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.