bat soup
Master Don Juan
- Joined
- Apr 10, 2020
- Messages
- 4,210
- Reaction score
- 4,701
- Age
- 46
The more Instagram followers, the less I'm interested.
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Do you look girls up on social media after you've approached them?
- Thread starter Guitar_Whizz
- Start date
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
bat soup
Master Don Juan
- Joined
- Apr 10, 2020
- Messages
- 4,210
- Reaction score
- 4,701
- Age
- 46
I agree. I've also seen this. A while ago I had to block someone and I could see new accounts they created to get around the block coming up in my "people you may know" list.
redskinsfan92
Master Don Juan
- Joined
- Jun 18, 2018
- Messages
- 1,827
- Reaction score
- 1,459
- Age
- 34
I do it for screening purposes. Nothing more.
2Rocky
Master Don Juan
- Joined
- Jun 13, 2016
- Messages
- 2,444
- Reaction score
- 2,738
- Age
- 52
You better bet I do. Especially when other people tag them in photos. Reading the comments gives you an idea of how many orbiters are out there. It also helps if you know the same people. You can get a pretty good read on them if you know their friends. You can also figure out what sort of things are their interests for future reference
Black Widow Void
Master Don Juan
- Joined
- Feb 24, 2010
- Messages
- 2,153
- Reaction score
- 3,796
It's true. On my actual facebook profile, I've had ex's show up as "friend suggestions" (they did not have the e-mail connected to my account, nor do they share any mutual friends of mine). Coincidence?
Hardly.
If you're going to snoop, be sure to have a "dummy profile" that is in no way connected to your account (use a different web browswer and always clean those cookies afterwards)
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Guitar_Whizz
Master Don Juan
Good idea, thanks for the suggestion.
Guitar_Whizz
Master Don Juan
Thanks for the replies to this thread. Just to add to this - I think it's also important for your mental well being not to constantly look up a girl you're attracted to on social media.
A quick initial look is fine, but if you keep looking them up (especially if they rejected you/it didn't work out with her) it just makes you feel weak, anxious and can lead to potential oneitis. It takes a lot of self-discipline to resist the temptation to keep looking them up, especially if it was with someone you were really attracted to, but it's best for your mental health if you don't.
A quick initial look is fine, but if you keep looking them up (especially if they rejected you/it didn't work out with her) it just makes you feel weak, anxious and can lead to potential oneitis. It takes a lot of self-discipline to resist the temptation to keep looking them up, especially if it was with someone you were really attracted to, but it's best for your mental health if you don't.