Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
What happens, IN HER MIND, is that she comes to see you as WORTHLESS simply because she hasn't had to INVEST anything in you in order to get you or to keep you.
You were an interesting diversion while she had nothing else to do. But now that someone a little more valuable has come along, someone who expects her to treat him very well, she'll have no problem at all dropping you or demoting you to lowly "friendship" status.
Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.
Porn addicts are also in most cases depressed people and also anxious. It's proven.
That makes sense. Not getting vagina and emotional fulfillment from a female attached to a vagina will cause anxiety issues. Depression is possible too.
I just got back from a morning outing and approached two girls. One was at a coffee shop barista and the other was a chick at a park having a hard time with her dog. The way I opened was half ass and they did not really understand it at first, I was dressed in really baggy hipster clothes with a beanie on and basically look like a hobo. But I still went up and approached and they reacted favorably. It's all about just taking initiative and just doing it. I think I might start an approach day game journal in the future with these interactions.
You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.
I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.
Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.
These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.
Does it matter? Men are doing more porn than ever because of Covid.
It does not matter at all.
good for you wish some of my high schools buddies did this now most are divorced or wishing they were
Yes it does because there is a risk of catching this if you go out of the house. All of the issues with covid is encouraging people to stay home period. If you are staying home then you are prone to occupy your mind with entertainment, and technology has just made the virtual more realistic than ever before. You can work from home, go to school from home, everything, from home.
Just because a woman listens to you and acts interested in what you say doesn't mean she really is. She might just be acting polite, while silently wishing that the date would hurry up and end, or that you would go away... and never come back.
Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.
Pornography is arguably harmful from a practical standpoint also. There have been studies about how all the quick dopamine hits can mess up your ability to be aroused by a single woman or without getting freaky, it can be very harmful to relationships. Simply fapping outside of porn is less harmful IMO, but my main issue with it is that it's a waste of time. It's not productive. You see guys talk about fapping something like 10 times a day or more.
You can get quick dopamine hits from other sources though? I would disqualify relationships as an issue because the video is portraying a guy that's not meeting women or getting laid in the first place. These cases you can see porn is some type of escape to cope with not having a woman. If you are in a relationship and look at porn then I wouldn't see looking at that as valid. In fact, it could be a type of coveting because you already have something and should not want more. These dynamics don't exist if there is no woman and you are on a deserted island and you are by yourself.
I don't know fapping that frequently. But I digress, this video seems to be intended for young adults that have the energy of youth to go out there and make it happen. Most people here may be in the younger category, and it's unlikely that someone over 40 y/o, my age or older is going to really fap 10 times a day still. The libido isn't high enough to support that.zekko said:
It's arbitrary because understanding a command or not is not a prerequisite to obedience. Everybody is going to apply things in a different way. People's definition of porn is going to be different. To someone, porn may mean hardcore pornography with all sorts of deviant acts. To others, it may be looking at a woman in a bikini running on a beach, escort ads, or provocative poses, or fapping instructions from MILFS/GILFS/daughters, etc.... Fapping is going to be different to different people. Some may be 10 times a day, others may be once per other day or once a week or once in a while. Practicality is going to be VARIABLE, depending on how its applied. Religion (ie. fundamentalist Christianity) is going to be ABSOLUTE, that if you do it ONCE, you are in TROUBLE, and you have to solve it by seeking forgiveness, because then you've added a sin to your soul that could send you to hell or miss the rapture. There is no discretion where you can, as an adult, gauge or limit the practical effects, because lust is wrong in principle, whether you look at porn, or imagine it, or what you do. The only solution in such cases is to have deliverance whereby the offending behaviour is solved by the desire *poof* going away for good.zekko said:
The point I was making was that porn has the potential at least to make it hard to perform, because normal sex might not provide the stimulation the brain is used to getting from porn. I know you're talking about guys who don't get any, and that's fair enough, but porn could also be a crutch to keep socially awkward guys from getting out there.
I once found a video that wasn't even porn - it was from a Latin American TV show, but definitely something that the American femynists wouldn't allow, LOL - and I had to fap 5 times over 2 days before I got it out my system. Mamacita!
The official line from boy's Catholic school curricula is that the "Thou shalt not commit adultery" commandment covers fornication and fapping.
Just because a woman listens to you and acts interested in what you say doesn't mean she really is. She might just be acting polite, while silently wishing that the date would hurry up and end, or that you would go away... and never come back.
Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.
Rejection and failure and covid keeps guys from getting out there. Also keep in mind, in my specific issue I look at escort pics. Is it not better to look at escort pics rather than actually visit one? If I visited real escorts rather than fap to escort pics would thay really kill the motivation to go after civie women? Visiting escorts is not porn or fapping and yet that can be a crutch that kills motivation. That was not covered on this video at all. (The guy in thr video could have called an escort over)
But we are talking abouy the lusting behind the fapping.zekko said:
Of course. Obviously we dont get punished and just die and go to hell because of fapping (unledd you get an anyirism while you are doing it) so my experience with God is He does not operate that way. But I have seen a fair share of videos that would give me doubts that this is a safe pet sin to keep maintaining in the long run. I dont think an ongoing pet secret sin is going to make any believer feel assured they will make it to heaven if it remains unconfessed and unrepented of. Unless you are in the once saved always saved, or your botn again spirit is protected from sins of the soul and body, or that simple.acknowledgment of a set of facts about Jesus is enough and you can live as you please...then you cant have a pet sin in moderation. It would have to be totally eradicated in order to fulfill and confirm the salvation.zekko said:
Agreed with just this.
Went to an all boys school too. Anyway catholics dont believe in incel because they may say just become a monk or a priest if that is the case, right? They celebrate celibacy. Therefore being incel should lead to priesthood abd seminary, not.viewing porn. Maybe this is what some catholic incels did in the past to cope.The official line from boy's Catholic school curricula is that the "Thou shalt not commit adultery" commandment covers fornication and fapping.