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Video - why a lot of Men are in a weak state today

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Massive cold approaching sounds stupid. Unless you have no job or no life there is just no time for thst. Plus you have the pandemic. You mention massive which means an insane numbers game which means piles of rejection and on top you have to build muscle. Like you said all.a girl has to do, who is fat and doing nothing with her life, is go on a swipe app and pick up an 8 guy right? While you have to go through all that to a chance to get with that same type of girl and guys are supposed to feel motivated about that?
Massive cold approaching is better than sitting at home watching some other guy bang some other chick and fapping. Massive cold approaching gives a man the opportunity to get some vagina.

The pandemic has made approaching more difficult. It is still viable to do outdoor approaching.

You can reduce the amount of rejections when approaching by screening for positive body language. That will reduce the quantity of approaching but has the potential to increase the likelihood of successful approaching.

Yes, you need to go to the gym regularly now to be competitive.


As you said before, all the women you are currently dealing with are women you met before the pandemic. Which means this is not even helping you meet anyone now.
I assessed my own situation and determined it was better for me just to keep things going with women I met prior to the pandemic.[/QUOTE]
 

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SW15 said:
Massive cold approaching is better than sitting at home watching some other guy bang some other chick and fapping. Massive cold approaching gives a man the opportunity to get some vagina.
If you are using "doing x is better than y" arguments then I will object to the assertion that I look at that type of porn. You avoided the other post I did make about looking at escort ads which is interpreted as a type of softcore porn. As you cant presume who has what type of tolerance or taste in porn.

SW15 said:
The pandemic has made approaching more difficult. It is still viable to do outdoor approaching.

You can reduce the amount of rejections when approaching by screening for positive body language. That will reduce the quantity of approaching but has the potential to increase the likelihood of successful approaching.
So you are not for massive approaches but a few quality approaches? That is an about change. How do you screen for positive body language? Most women are in their own worlds or hooked up to a smartphone. How about you will end up doing no approaches at all if you wait for that?

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I assessed my own situation and determined it was better for me just to keep things going with women I met prior to the pandemic.
If these women ghosted you then how would you assess the situation? You realise you admit you have no options beyond their cooperation with you? Suppose they become unreasonable? You cant walk away.
 

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If you are using "doing x is better than y" arguments then I will object to the assertion that I look at that type of porn. You avoided the other post I did make about looking at escort ads which is interpreted as a type of softcore porn. As you cant presume who has what type of tolerance or taste in porn.
Porn and fap is bad. It doesn't matter what the source of porn is. Since I stopped porn and fap, I avoid any imagery of women that can affect my dopamine. I don't watch a lot of R rated movies that aren't porn. A lot of TV shows are not acceptable. Porn and fap make for weak men as the video suggests. No porn and no fap is natural. It allows men to be aggressive men. I've noticed benefits in my life from no porn and no fap beyond approaching and sex.

So you are not for massive approaches but a few quality approaches? That is an about change. How do you screen for positive body language? Most women are in their own worlds or hooked up to a smartphone. How about you will end up doing no approaches at all if you wait for that?
I'm for whatever number of approaches it takes to get laid. There is no change. When a man approaches, he should position himself to succeed in the approach. Women who demonstrate positive body language are more likely to behave in a way that makes for an easier and better quality approach. This is more likely to result in some interaction leading to one on one time together.

A lot of the women who are in their own worlds or hooked up to a smartphone are already in relationships and not open to new interactions anyway. Most people at any given point in time are in some sort of relationship.

If you're not getting enough positive body language, it often means that you have to work on something related to your outward appearance. It could be style, fitness, or even whatever energy you put out there with your own body language.

Women have become worse at body language signaling since the smartphone became popular. I first noticed this when I moved to a new city in the early 2010s. Since I came up in approaching in the early 2000s, I was taught to look for body language indicators of interest (IOIs). I was noticing in this new city in the early 2010s in my late 20s that I was getting fewer IOIs despite still being under 30 and having a similar fitness level as my early 20s. My sense of fashion was similar. One of my early friends in the new city was a white, ex-college athlete in a country club individual sport. He was a top tier guy at the time and still is today, albeit less so. He taught me that he never looked for positive body language. He just approached everyone at the bar and he never did day game approaching, which I would start getting serious about soon after this time. If a top level guy was noticing less IOIs and so was I, you have a legit point about the overall environment.

Ideally, you want to see some IOIs before approaching. Very few guys will see enough IOIs to never have to approach without getting IOIs first. I prefer to do approaches with IOIs but will do without.

The pandemic has also affected IOIs. In the grocery store, I made strong eye contact and smiled, and I would see who reciprocated. With masks, there is no smiling. Additionally, the fear of the Rona has reduced willingness to talk to strangers indoors. Even outdoor approaching is affected but still the most viable form of approaching.

If these women ghosted you then how would you assess the situation? You realise you admit you have no options beyond their cooperation with you? Suppose they become unreasonable? You cant walk away.
I'll see what happens. I am able to cold approach, despite cold approaching being a royal pain.
 

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Porn and fap is bad. It doesn't matter what the source of porn is. Since I stopped porn and fap, I avoid any imagery of women that can affect my dopamine. I don't watch a lot of R rated movies that aren't porn. A lot of TV shows are not acceptable. Porn and fap make for weak men as the video suggests. No porn and no fap is natural. It allows men to be aggressive men. I've noticed benefits in my life from no porn and no fap beyond approaching and sex.



I'm for whatever number of approaches it takes to get laid. There is no change. When a man approaches, he should position himself to succeed in the approach. Women who demonstrate positive body language are more likely to behave in a way that makes for an easier and better quality approach. This is more likely to result in some interaction leading to one on one time together.

A lot of the women who are in their own worlds or hooked up to a smartphone are already in relationships and not open to new interactions anyway. Most people at any given point in time are in some sort of relationship.

If you're not getting enough positive body language, it often means that you have to work on something related to your outward appearance. It could be style, fitness, or even whatever energy you put out there with your own body language.

Women have become worse at body language signaling since the smartphone became popular. I first noticed this when I moved to a new city in the early 2010s. Since I came up in approaching in the early 2000s, I was taught to look for body language indicators of interest (IOIs). I was noticing in this new city in the early 2010s in my late 20s that I was getting fewer IOIs despite still being under 30 and having a similar fitness level as my early 20s. My sense of fashion was similar. One of my early friends in the new city was a white, ex-college athlete in a country club individual sport. He was a top tier guy at the time and still is today, albeit less so. He taught me that he never looked for positive body language. He just approached everyone at the bar and he never did day game approaching, which I would start getting serious about soon after this time. If a top level guy was noticing less IOIs and so was I, you have a legit point about the overall environment.

Ideally, you want to see some IOIs before approaching. Very few guys will see enough IOIs to never have to approach without getting IOIs first. I prefer to do approaches with IOIs but will do without.

The pandemic has also affected IOIs. In the grocery store, I made strong eye contact and smiled, and I would see who reciprocated. With masks, there is no smiling. Additionally, the fear of the Rona has reduced willingness to talk to strangers indoors. Even outdoor approaching is affected but still the most viable form of approaching.



I'll see what happens. I am able to cold approach, despite cold approaching being a royal pain.
It is interesting your top tier friend is not onto daygame. How about you? How did you meet your prepandemic women?

It is good you sound honest and realistic. I still dont get the impression that you intrinsically enjoy cold approaching because you are no porn and no fap. You called it a royal pain after all. Lets say you rather pay than cold approach like that since one is a business person and time is money.

How does visiting escort fit into all of this? The idea of escort pics as a source of porn is it is supposed to be the one case where that is better than actually visiting an escort. Is visiting an escort a dopimine release too? What would make fapping on escort ads WORST than visiting an escort?

What about non sexual music videos from a diva you like?
 

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Women I have had sex with, both plates and girlfriends, have been impressed with what they have seen in a condom after ejaculation.
Except for escortmaxxing - and then only for coitus - I go raw.
I only release sperm naturally. I have nocturnal emissions and I release through sex.
Fapping would make washing your sheets & blankets a lot easier. :rolleyes: Steady fapping allows me to have dry wet dreams; besides nothing could compare to that one wet dream as an adolescent lad in which I walked into a shower stall to see a buck naked Ellie Mae Clampett there. :up::up::up::up:

Imagine watching reruns in syndication every afternoon (after attending an all-boys school for the day) with her: :cool:

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So you would rather visit hookers than fap on their ads because fapping on the ads is worst than paying and sexing them because you wont be turned on enough to pay for sex with them?
LOL, there is some guy at YouPorn that faps on pictures of hot celebrities. :eek:
 

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Ted Kaczynski's manifesto should be mandatory reading in school.
 

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Good video. Swiping and texting to get laid, approaching strangers to get laid, or building a social circle to get laid are all much more difficult than porn on tube sites.
I disagree that swiping and texting are hard. Cold approach is hard, and is what real men should be doing. Swiping and texting are part of the problem.... they're a crutch for guys nowadays to be frank (even for a lot of you guys on Sosuave, sadly). More guys need to get out approaching in person (preferably direct and in the daytime).

The whole swiping and texting sh*t is one of the biggest problems guys have these days. It's made them less manly and less ballsy - they don't have to face their fears of approaching women, so they don't develop a thick skin or any game or resilience.
 
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