"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Everything is fake and an illusion in life nowadays, why not females (and some males).
awww, disappointed thoughts like these from guys are what stops me from wearing makeup regularly and colouring hair regularly. I don't want to be fake.

Plus my Dad never encouraged it in my mother or me, although I have been able to amaze him with making my eyelashes look like "spiders". He said it in an admiring voice. lol

I always had a signature minimal look with dark red lipstick, black eyeliner and mascara. Seems neutral/accepted enough of a style over the decades that I just never learned another way.

Its just going to have to depend on whatever dominant male in my life likes, I guess.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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awww, disappointed thoughts like these from guys are what stops me from wearing makeup regularly and colouring hair regularly. I don't want to be fake.

Plus my Dad never encouraged it in my mother or me, although I have been able to amaze him with making my eyelashes look like "spiders". He said it in an admiring voice. lol

I always had a signature minimal look with dark red lipstick, black eyeliner and mascara. Seems neutral/accepted enough of a style over the decades that I just never learned another way.

Its just going to have to depend on whatever dominant male in my life likes, I guess.
Nothing wrong with makeup, but that is what it is... An illusion.
 

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It's a billion dollar industry for a reason.
someone should tell women they're wasting their money on fakeness that's not even looked at by men, not really. The woman's body shape is her attractiveness. Money should be spent on fitness.

Learning from that book Estrogeneration about the estrogenic dangers found in colouring, makes me think I should throw out what makeup I do have. Not call that theatrical makeup artist. Save that money for improving below the shoulders.

And invest money on hi-vis running pants or a better yoga mat instead.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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someone should tell women they're wasting their money on fakeness that's not even looked at by men, not really. The woman's body shape is her attractiveness. Money should be spent on fitness.

Learning from that book Estrogeneration about the estrogenic dangers found in colouring, makes me think I should throw out what makeup I do have. Not call that theatrical makeup artist. Save that money for improving below the shoulders.

And invest money on hi-vis running pants or a better yoga mat instead.
the other thing that is worth spending on is modeling school. I can see the difference in girls that have learned how vs not. Doesn't have to be a model, just learn how. the pose/walk/posture/smile it can be learned and makes a huge impact.
 

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the other thing that is worth spending on is modeling school. I can see the difference in girls that have learned how vs not. Doesn't have to be a model, just learn how. the pose/walk/posture/smile it can be learned and makes a huge impact.
I agree. I was in a modelling course when I was 11. It was helpful to learn how to move gracefully and gently. They taught speech and tone/volume too. It was only at the YWCA, but still a good course. I have watched some of Cynthia L's posture and walking youtube videos too for some good reminders.
 

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Nothing wrong with makeup, but that is what it is... An illusion.
This is why a lot of inexperienced men get intimidated by women. Look fantastic with all that make up and glitter. And when it comes off...you see all the flaws and just realize there just average and nothing to out on a pedestal.
 

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This is why a lot of inexperienced men get intimidated by women. Look fantastic with all that make up and glitter. And when it comes off...you see all the flaws and just realize there just average and nothing to out on a pedestal.
Most people are avg
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Yup...by definition that is true.
Young guys that are still learning...when they see women in clubs and bars all done up should remind themselves to imagine them without the make up without the heels enhancing there hips that they are just average.

Same with OLD. No reason to put these women on pedestal...they rarely look like their pics...they are nothing special..they often look worse in real life then even there worst pics seem to suggest.

Maybe this would stop the woman leadership here especially in the west.
 

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Young guys that are still learning...when they see women in clubs and bars all done up should remind themselves to imagine them without the make up without the heels enhancing there hips that they are just average.

Same with OLD. No reason to put these women on pedestal...they rarely look like their pics...they are nothing special..they often look worse in real life then even there worst pics seem to suggest.

Maybe this would stop the woman leadership here especially in the west.
i don’t think guys understand how rare HB8+ actually are. Most women by definition are average which is 4-6 range. Even some of the chicks I see posted in this forum are more in the average range than they are pretty.
 
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i don’t think guys understand how rare HB8+ actually are. Most women by definition are average which is 4-6 range. Even some of the chicks I see posted in this forum are more in the average range than they are pretty.
Without doubt. Can almost look like totally different people the next morning with no makeup on.

Makes it more baffling how full of themselves some women can be at times.

There aren't there many truely good looking women without makeup out there and theyre unlikely to be available in clubs for one night stands on a regular basis. Attractive yes, but most really aren't anything special once you strip away the camouflage and I include the girl I'm currently seeing in that category. Gets plenty of looks and male attention when we re out, but looks totally different with no makeup, dishevelled hair the next day.
 
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Young guys that are still learning...when they see women in clubs and bars all done up should remind themselves to imagine them without the make up without the heels enhancing there hips that they are just average.

Same with OLD. No reason to put these women on pedestal...they rarely look like their pics...they are nothing special..they often look worse in real life then even there worst pics seem to suggest.

Maybe this would stop the woman leadership here especially in the west.
I agree.

Just do a google search on all the top looking gals in the media and you'll see that less than 10% has natural beauty without any aids.
This one comes to mind...Sofia Vergara of Modern Family sitcom.

 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Man she looks hit. Smh. Disgusting.
Yup
That's some reality dose for those that are taking women at "face" value. literally. LOL
Wake up gentlemen and look past the mirage...

Always assume women are ugly to boost your confidence.
Always ask what a women can provide besides her looks and what's in between her legs to prevent you from investing too much too soon.
This is the mentality ALL guys should have.
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Yup
That's some reality dose for those that are taking women at "face" value. literally. LOL
Wake up gentlemen and look past the mirage...

Always assume women are ugly to boost your confidence.
Always ask what a women can provide besides her looks and what's in between her legs to prevent you from investing too much too soon.
This is the mentality ALL guys should have.
:up:
Looks aint even a "investment", its a bait.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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