"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Happy New Year!

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Wishing you all happy new year!

I have no new year's resolution, but many do and I'm always curious, what's yours?

Sorry, my timezone is UTC+1.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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I rarely do new years resolutions either. Figured what the heck, I'll do one this year.
I've been real slack this past year. I've accumulated too much clutter and haven't done any deep cleaning. I've also chosen to work part time this year (I can live on it, but can't save much). 2021, I plan to reverse my bad habits of 2020.
 

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- Work out more consistently
- volunteer more, help out the homeless, needy and sheltered animals.
- Keep working on my book of Poems.

Have a Good one tonight guys if you're celebrating. Make sure to don't drink and drive/ drive high. Get a designated driver lol cheers.
 

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I've accumulated too much clutter and haven't done any deep cleaning.
I've usually been bad with this, but this year I have thrown out a lot of stuff I don't need (great lockdown activity). It doesn't pain me to throw stuff away, what pains me is that at some point I wasted money getting stuff I didn't use.

This reminds me that I might actually have a new year's resolution after all, that is to save at least $1k (converted from local currency) every month this year (with plans to extend it to 2022) into a global index fund. In 2020 I've cut down on living expenses that I won't miss, 2020 was the year I explored and planned my financial future. I discovered the FIRE (Financial Independence, Retire Early) movement, while I don't know about retiring early I do know that I want to be financially independent. Make the money work for me rather than work for money.
 

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2020 was the best hand I've ever been dealt. Hands the f uck down. I knew I was going to be switching careers this year (as far back as 2017) when my boys gave me a heads up to start saving massively. When 2018 came around, I got transferred to Europe, began saving that $ and boxing again. By the time I caught the rona in Feb 2020, my bank account and my biceps (and my back) had blown up in size. The sh!t ppl like to hate on but I never cared much for. I've never been this well off or jacked and donated endlessly in 2020 to Cambridge food bank, wounded firefighter centers, salvation army, etc.

I struggled for almost a decade and now I'm doing amazing as the rest of the world burns around me, makes sense. To compound all of that, I was finally offered a bonus to stay in my career 3 more years part-time and a scholarship from the city my school is in that I start in 2021 (DAFUQ), on top of the fact that I already earned paid education/housing/utilities. No need to set resolutions but:
- Take and pass all my courses, travel the U.S. a little more, continue to box/condition/deadlift a fvck ton
- Use this $600 refund to debauch. Maybe buy a "gold" watch for $599.99 with it so I can keep flexing on all these local bigots, ****heads, libs, femininas and holier than thou fakes as a buff, islander "brown" guy. Trust me, the tension was there leading up to BREXIT and now that I'm back in the U.S. it's the same BS all over again.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Wishing you all happy new year!

I have no new year's resolution, but many do and I'm always curious, what's yours?

Sorry, my timezone is UTC+1.
Happy New Year! No new resolutions, just keep working on everything I've already written that I'm working on.
 

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2020 was the best hand I've ever been dealt. Hands the f uck down. I knew I was going to be switching careers this year (as far back as 2017) when my boys gave me a heads up to start saving massively. When 2018 came around, I got transferred to Europe, began saving that $ and boxing again. By the time I caught the rona in Feb 2020, my bank account and my biceps (and my back) had blown up in size. The sh!t ppl like to hate on but I never cared much for. I've never been this well off or jacked and donated endlessly in 2020 to Cambridge food bank, wounded firefighter centers, salvation army, etc.

I struggled for almost a decade and now I'm doing amazing as the rest of the world burns around me, makes sense. To compound all of that, I was finally offered a bonus to stay in my career 3 more years part-time and a scholarship from the city my school is in that I start in 2021 (DAFUQ), on top of the fact that I already earned paid education/housing/utilities. No need to set resolutions but:
- Take and pass all my courses, travel the U.S. a little more, continue to box/condition/deadlift a fvck ton
- Use this $600 refund to debauch. Maybe buy a "gold" watch for $599.99 with it so I can keep flexing on all these local bigots, ****heads, libs, femininas and holier than thou fakes as a buff, islander "brown" guy. Trust me, the tension was there leading up to BREXIT and now that I'm back in the U.S. it's the same BS all over again.
Are you Filipino ? Indonesian? Hawaiian? Etc. what’s your ethnicity? Just wondering
 

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Are you Filipino ? Indonesian? Hawaiian? Etc. what’s your ethnicity? Just wondering
Half-Filipino, quarter Mex, quarter Caucasian (it just doesn't show, unlike my brother and mother). It is what it is. They see me in uniform and kiss a$s pretty good/show visual dread or fear (OMF Martial Law is here!), but in regular street clothing...lmao, I might as well start carrying a Twisted Tea instead of my S&W.
 
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