"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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The narcissist "video game"

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You know that "hot girl" that you pursue that strings you along, or that gf or wife who is Withholding sex or had a bunch of mind games you endure to get it? . There is a currency for that "video game":
1. Self respect
2. Confidence
3. Masculinity
4. Sexual energy
5. Drive
6. Ambition
7. Self esteem

Those are your coins for that game, and it will happily deplete each of those qualities.

Respect yourself. Know you self worth. Only entertain those who value you.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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You know that "hot girl" that you pursue that strings you along, or that gf or wife who is Withholding sex or had a bunch of mind games you endure to get it? . There is a currency for that "video game":
1. Self respect
2. Confidence
3. Masculinity
4. Sexual energy
5. Drive
6. Ambition
7. Self esteem

Those are your coins for that game, and it will happily deplete each of those qualities.

Respect yourself. Know you self worth. Only entertain those who value you.
:up:
creative analogy!
 

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You know that "hot girl" that you pursue that strings you along, or that gf or wife who is Withholding sex or had a bunch of mind games you endure to get it? . There is a currency for that "video game":
1. Self respect
2. Confidence
3. Masculinity
4. Sexual energy
5. Drive
6. Ambition
7. Self esteem

Those are your coins for that game, and it will happily deplete each of those qualities.

Respect yourself. Know you self worth. Only entertain those who value you.
Truth!
 

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In other words get your balls out of that mason jar on top of the fridge, reattach, and be a MAN.

Voila!
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Forget it all. Stick with the IDGAF attitude and put yourself first. Trust when I say, it works. Never put her first; unless life threatening/medical emergencies. You first then her, then the offsprings.
Fvck them first ask questions later. I also agree it only works if she is MORE into YOU by at least little bit. Women INTO you will be trying to find ways to help and add to you. The other way is not as good and it gets worse with time ( you get taken for granted and used ).
 

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It's actually real. They "feed" on all of those qualities, and it empowers them when they are depleting a quaility or reducing it.
to what end though? to feel powerful and then what? like, what's the end game?
Just so that they'll know they imprinted on you? Had an effect on you? Isn't this pathetic to choose a negative means to imprint on someone?


Reeks of loneliness and insanity.

Why doesn't the narcissist want to improve your life and let the improvements be the ego boost they brag on?
 

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to what end though? to feel powerful and then what? like, what's the end game?
Just so that they'll know they imprinted on you? Had an effect on you? Isn't this pathetic to choose a negative means to imprint on someone?


Reeks of loneliness and insanity.

Why doesn't the narcissist want to improve your life and let the improvements be the ego boost they brag on?
They work in the reverse method. They feel they feed you trash either because they are over you, or that they want to be over you. If you keep eating trash they will end up over you. So they work by tearing people down. This is in the realm of what we call "demons". The ones who gain by the loss and destruction of others. In the other method they are "helping" you. They don't want to help you even on accident. They feel people "help" the DOM, and the DOM or boss doesn't have to do anything in return, it's owed.
 
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